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Gay and Bisexual relationship thread |OT|

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Tritroid

Tritroid

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I lurk too. Probably too much. I should try posting more I guess.

Anybody else have issues with being a hopeless romantic? I'm a Libra so that's probably why...but after getting out of a relationship where I thought I'd found love, I find myself desperately seeking it. The problem is I talk to guys, one thing leads to another...and we mess around and then I hardly hear from them again. I feel like the majority of the gay guys out there are like this, even though my close gay friends tell me that's not the case in their experiences.

I just want to find that spark again, and fast. Maybe I'm becoming co-dependant. :x
 
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Delio

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K to Pop Gaf I go.
 
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Lucario

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Tritroid said:
I lurk too. Probably too much. I should try posting more I guess.

Anybody else have issues with being a hopeless romantic? I'm a Libra so that's probably why...but after getting out of a relationship where I thought I'd found love, I find myself desperately seeking it. The problem is I talk to guys, one thing leads to another...and we mess around and then I hardly hear from them again. I feel like the majority of the gay guys out there are like this, even though my close gay friends tell me that's not the case in their experiences.

I just want to find that spark again, and fast. Maybe I'm becoming co-dependant. :x
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CHEEZMO™

CHEEZMO™

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Tritroid said:
I lurk too. Probably too much. I should try posting more I guess.

Anybody else have issues with being a hopeless romantic? I'm a Libra so that's probably why...but after getting out of a relationship where I thought I'd found love, I find myself desperately seeking it. The problem is I talk to guys, one thing leads to another...and we mess around and then I hardly hear from them again. I feel like the majority of the gay guys out there are like this, even though my close gay friends tell me that's not the case in their experiences.

I just want to find that spark again, and fast. Maybe I'm becoming co-dependant. :x
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Delio

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Tritroid said:
I lurk too. Probably too much. I should try posting more I guess.

Anybody else have issues with being a hopeless romantic? I'm a Libra so that's probably why...but after getting out of a relationship where I thought I'd found love, I find myself desperately seeking it. The problem is I talk to guys, one thing leads to another...and we mess around and then I hardly hear from them again. I feel like the majority of the gay guys out there are like this, even though my close gay friends tell me that's not the case in their experiences.

I just want to find that spark again, and fast. Maybe I'm becoming co-dependant. :x
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You know I'm pretty romantic myself. After breaking up with my last bf though I've felt kinda empty? I find myself acting really cold to him for no reason when we talk too :/. What happened to my hopeless romantic side.
 
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royalan

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Tritroid said:
I lurk too. Probably too much. I should try posting more I guess.

Anybody else have issues with being a hopeless romantic? I'm a Libra so that's probably why...but after getting out of a relationship where I thought I'd found love, I find myself desperately seeking it. The problem is I talk to guys, one thing leads to another...and we mess around and then I hardly hear from them again. I feel like the majority of the gay guys out there are like this, even though my close gay friends tell me that's not the case in their experiences.

I just want to find that spark again, and fast. Maybe I'm becoming co-dependant. :x
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The GayTini
1 part immaturity
2 parts thrill of the chase
2 parts infatuation with puppy love
3 parts fear of long-term commitment

Stir, and serve over ice in frosted collins glass. Garnish with a slice of jaded.


The sad thing is a lot of it comes from being subconsciously indoctrinated to believe that gay relationships aren't real, and thus not deserving of the same respect as serious, long-term heterosexual relationships.
 
Tritroid

Tritroid

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royalan said:
The GayTini
1 part immaturity
2 parts thrill of the chase
2 parts infatuation with puppy love
3 parts fear of long-term commitment

Stir, and serve over ice in frosted collins glass. Garnish with a slice of jaded.

The sad thing is a lot of it comes from being subconsciously indoctrinated to believe that gay relationships aren't real, and thus not deserving of the same respect as serious, long-term heterosexual relationships.
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I personally don't get the fear over long-term commitment thing...even though I know a lot of guys have issues with it. Having a boyfriend is great, to me anyway. It's nice to have someone to connect with, and do stuff with. Plus I'm 29, so I think I'm approaching that gay 'dead zone' age-group, so the sooner I find someone the better right?

I haven't met a single Pisces in all my life...that I know of anyway. They seem to be rare around here. Any other Librans or Aquarius-es that frequent here?
 
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Alcoori

Member
Tritroid said:
I lurk too. Probably too much. I should try posting more I guess.

Anybody else have issues with being a hopeless romantic? I'm a Libra so that's probably why...but after getting out of a relationship where I thought I'd found love, I find myself desperately seeking it. The problem is I talk to guys, one thing leads to another...and we mess around and then I hardly hear from them again. I feel like the majority of the gay guys out there are like this, even though my close gay friends tell me that's not the case in their experiences.

I just want to find that spark again, and fast. Maybe I'm becoming co-dependant. :x
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From what I read you are NOT ready to get into a relationship. You probably weren't even in the first place.
You cannot have a successful relationship if you are not fine being on your own.

Coming out of a relationship there are a lot of loose ends you have to tie up. You can't be going around thinking that any quick fuck is going to be the greatest love story ever. You can be a romantic without being an idiot but I'm sure even yourself can see how you're not in the right state of mind to have a long-term respectful relationship with another human being.
 
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Sofo

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Mr_Zombie said:
I stumbled recently upon an interview with a founder of a Passover Group - a Christian (who would have thought, eh) group that helps curing homosexuality. She was referring to homosexuality as an "issue" and likened it to alcoholism, i.e. you can cure gay and make him attracted to women (as an example she pointed out Alan Medinger, an "ex-gay" who is now living in a straight relationship), but as soon as the guy stumbles upon gay porn, the "gay addiction", as she called it, will return. So yeah, that attraction to women was really weak then. Hard to call such a person "cured".

However, the fun began when she started listing reasons why boys become gay. First is the "lack of masculinity", i.e. a boy has inferiority complex and doubts that any girl will ever choose him, so he turns his affections into men. (I'm sure that the reason most of my friends from childhood were girls, right? And at one point at least three girls were "fighting" over me.) The second reason was when I didn't know whether I should be laughing or be enraged. The women said, and I quote: "If I ever meet a young gay who lived in a non-pathological family, whose parents loved him and supported him, then I will believe that there's a gay gene".

And of course, "the true healing comes through Jesus Christ"...
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Good lord, I know that feel. Trying to sort of understand what they're trying to mean (and of course, I can't get offended because if I do it means I'm not understanding well enough -must be my gayness-) is painful. Before coming out, when I was 17, I was still at a catholic school (opus dei so that's a plus) so I had to hear a lot of crap like "Oh I don't mind them, as long as they don't kiss in front of my kids" or "They wouldn't turn out like that if someone had put them in the right place at the right moment". That kinda made me into a sort of extremist so everything even close to catholicism makes me roll my eyes hard.

Also people calling each other uptight for not liking the f word, huh! I guess I missed the memo that slurs were offensive!
 
Tritroid

Tritroid

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Alcoori said:
From what I read you are NOT ready to get into a relationship. You probably weren't even in the first place.
You cannot have a successful relationship if you are not fine being on your own.

Coming out of a relationship there are a lot of loose ends you have to tie up. You can't be going around thinking that any quick fuck is going to be the greatest love story ever. You can be a romantic without being an idiot but I'm sure even yourself can see how you're not in the right state of mind to have a long-term respectful relationship with another human being.
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You're right, I know. All my friends have said the same thing. It sucks being the only one that's no longer in a relationship though...

I probably need to take a step back and focus on myself for a while. I'm currently on a no-contact rule with the ex, even though he still tries to call me every other day and texts in between. I'm definitely over him, finally, and when I realized that I also realized that, unfortunately, I hate him and everything he did...and I don't want someone like that in my life, period.

The quickest way to mend it all just seemed to be moving on to someone else I guess.
 
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BeesEight

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Cosmic Bus said:
Good lord, of course it was a joke. I take about 5% of this thread (and gaf in general) seriously.
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This is good advice to live by.

royalan said:
Agreed.

I lurk in this thread more than I post, but half the time I feel like the discussions taking place here are in response to something that happened on Skype/TinyChat/Tumblr/Whathaveyou.

So I generally only post in response to new members posting gay-related issues, which has become rare.
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I think part of this has to do with the nature of drive by posting. Which probably springs by the duo nature of this thread. When a non-regular poster comes in with a point of discussion, its as if you have a page to respond before it's swept away in whatever new conversation has come blowing through.

I think I would support a generalized thread that doesn't make it seems specifically about relationships. Probably should run it by the mods first though, if there's a history of shutting them down.

Tritroid said:
I personally don't get the fear over long-term commitment thing...even though I know a lot of guys have issues with it. Having a boyfriend is great, to me anyway. It's nice to have someone to connect with, and do stuff with. Plus I'm 29, so I think I'm approaching that gay 'dead zone' age-group, so the sooner I find someone the better right?

I haven't met a single Pisces in all my life...that I know of anyway. They seem to be rare around here. Any other Librans or Aquarius-es that frequent here?
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I have commitment issues. What's it to ya?

A large part of that, of course, has to do with age. I'm not sure what I want to do with the rest of my life and a long-term relationship really starts to narrow your options. And for those of us who aren't in the steady lifestyle we want to hunker down in for forty more years, the prospect of debt arising from owning property or starting a family can be really off putting.

Also - Ares. Not that astrology means anything.
 
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Bailey 87

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sphinx said:
The first think I'd suggest to the regulars here is to actually mingle.

It soo clear that friendships and whatnot are taking place through other means like some skype or facebook community that the thread has virtually lost its purpose in a forum.

a selected few read and reply to a selected few and that's not very friendly.

that's the thing that could be improved on.
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This is true, If I need advice or someone to talk to, I just talk on skype. All of you should join most of time it's good fun.

The other reason I don't post in here is because, most of the time peoples post are just a tad bit too depressive for me. Bring back the funny gifs and the happy posts I say :)
 
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Jezan

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royalan said:
Agreed.

I lurk in this thread more than I post, but half the time I feel like the discussions taking place here are in response to something that happened on Skype/TinyChat/Tumblr/Whathaveyou.

So I generally only post in response to new members posting gay-related issues, which has become rare.
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This!

I miss pre-Skype GayGAF :( (and I don't like Skype cause I can stay there for hours and then realize I have only 3 hours or less of sleep :p )

Also I like the gifs those should be back in gayGAF too (Except the 6 MBs ones), that's why I go to the Pop GAF thread, but I'm afraid of posting there :p
 
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Masamuna

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i'm apparently a stereotypical Leo :(

I don't have the means to skype yet, and I also lurk on here more than post. Anyone want to be facebook friendz?

Finally came to terms with my feelings. Me and Andy are officially together! Yay relationships :DDD
 
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mantidor

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whats the difference between community and normal threads really? when that forum was created I was expecting this thread to go over there to be honest.
 
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BeesEight

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_Isaac said:
The difference is that nobody goes to the community threads.
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Essentially this.

Though, if I can read into things a little, I believe that Community was created to clean up the forums. Presumably, before, you would have very active threads about certain topics constantly pushing new threads from the front page because of the established community constantly posting there.

So, for example, the front page of Gaming would consistently be TF2, Halo, Call of Duty Official Threads and other news articles or announcements would start getting buried beneath them. So, Community was created so these established groups could still post freely but not push new content for people unassociated with the groups beyond the front page.

That's my extra take on Community anyway.
 
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Masamuna

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That's the positive side to Community, on the flips side it has the potential to severing any flow of new members coming into threads hence the dying aspect. I guess the big problem is that a lot of readers/posters just don't go to community out of either sheer habit or the reputation that the thread is sent to die
 
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Yoshiya

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Tritroid said:
I haven't met a single Pisces in all my life...that I know of anyway. They seem to be rare around here. Any other Librans or Aquarius-es that frequent here?
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But really, please stop with the astrology. If you're having compatibility issues with people I'd blame believing in astrology before what it might suggest.
 
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Bel Marduk

Banned
Tritroid said:
I lurk too. Probably too much. I should try posting more I guess.

Anybody else have issues with being a hopeless romantic? I'm a Libra so that's probably why...but after getting out of a relationship where I thought I'd found love, I find myself desperately seeking it. The problem is I talk to guys, one thing leads to another...and we mess around and then I hardly hear from them again. I feel like the majority of the gay guys out there are like this, even though my close gay friends tell me that's not the case in their experiences.

I just want to find that spark again, and fast. Maybe I'm becoming co-dependant. :x
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I'm a Libra, too.. in fact, I've found that a very disproportionate number of gay guys are Libras.
 
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umop_3pisdn

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Mumei said:
I'm a Virgo, but what does this have to do with anything?
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My BFF is a Virgo, coincidentally she exemplified the whole 'feet firmly planted on the ground' thing which is partly why we get along so great, at least on my end. I'm the opposite, both in regards to that specific trait and astrologically (I'm a Pisces).
 
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Mumei

Member
umop_3pisdn said:
My BFF is a Virgo, coincidentally she exemplified the whole 'feet firmly planted on the ground' thing which is partly why we get along so great, at least on my end. I'm the opposite, both in regards to that specific trait and astrologically (I'm a Pisces).
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It doesn't surprise me at all that you know the meanings of astrological signs.
 
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umop_3pisdn

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Hahaha, I guess it fits in to the whole mystical/archetypal fascination that I have. As a kid I was really into the occult and stuff, I studied all kinds of odd fringe religions like Gnosticism, Thelema, Discordianism, Luciferianism, Platonism, 'Shamanism', etc, etc. My interests have moved on from those areas but I still maintain some pretty unconventional beliefs, but I find that when I try to express them in some form the recipient often ends up taking them more 'seriously' than even I do. I think people can be generally well-reasoned and leave avenues open for the more 'mystical' faculties without any necessary contradiction, it just calls for an unusual kind of finesse that most people (quite understandably) don't see the purpose of... but most of my talents are generally pretty 'impractical' (relatively speaking) or 'ephemeral' and that goes especially for this kind of thing.

edit: "belief" is actually too strong of a word, it's rather that I don't maintain disbelief.
 
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GasProblem

Member
Virgo in the hizzay.

And I really had a great time last night. Had a couple of beers, met some new people and there was this really cute guy hanging around, didn't introduce myself to him though. Starting to feel way more comfartable with myself. Who knows, maybe I'll even try to dance next time.

And I wish I could join Skype, but the thing is, my PC is kind of in the living room and I still live with my parents and I'd feel awkward knowing they can hear me. I don't have a mic anyway. I feel like I'm missing out though :-[
 
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Delio

Member
GasProblem said:
Virgo in the hizzay.

And I really had a great time last night. Had a couple of beers, met some new people and there was this really cute guy hanging around, didn't introduce myself to him though. Starting to feel way more comfartable with myself. Who knows, maybe I'll even try to dance next time.

And I wish I could join Skype, but the thing is, my PC is kind of in the living room and I still live with my parents and I'd feel awkward knowing they can hear me. I don't have a mic anyway. I feel like I'm missing out though :-[
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We dont voice chat on skype anywho. You have to pay to do that. Normally any voice chats are on Tinychat. You could just come in and type.
 
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Fantastical

Death Prophet
Delio said:
We dont voice chat on skype anywho. You have to pay to do that. Normally any voice chats are on Tinychat. You could just come in and type.
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Wait, you have to pay to talk on Skype? I never use it, but I had no idea this was the case. Is it only when you want to talk to multiple people?
 
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_Isaac

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Fantastical said:
Wait, you have to pay to talk on Skype? I never use it, but I had no idea this was the case. Is it only when you want to talk to multiple people?
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You don't have to pay to talk. I've done it all the time free of charge even in groups. I don't know about group video chats though. That might be something they charge for.
 
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Delio

Member
_Isaac said:
You don't have to pay to talk. I've done it all the time free of charge even in groups. I don't know about group video chats though. That might be something they charge for.
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Oh yeah video chats are charged. Although honestly If im using skype I wanna see your face.
 
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Koomaster

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Yeah my d&d group meets on skype weekly, they don't charge for group calls. You can also do one on one video chats free as well as one on one screen sharing. Group video chats or screen sharing they charge for as well as calls to non-skype phones.
 
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