I would also go with this.
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I just found something huge about my granpa and I think he doesn't know it
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So then everyone will have to keep a secret from him if the decide not to go through with it? Sounds terrible.
Angry Grimace
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I think I'd try something like 23 and Me and see what comes up. Whether I'd tell Grandpa, I couldn't say.
Admiral Woofington
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Because telling him without consulting family is fine too?
The mom already knows. He can even ask her for her advice whether she thinks it's all right.
manzoman96
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Wow what a crazy but fascinating story!
I don't know how I would react if I found out information similar to that about my own family. That could be the plot to a good book OP.
Edit: As for advice, I would continue to find as much information from relatives and other sources as you can and then approach your granpa about it. He deserves to know.
I don't know how I would react if I found out information similar to that about my own family. That could be the plot to a good book OP.
Edit: As for advice, I would continue to find as much information from relatives and other sources as you can and then approach your granpa about it. He deserves to know.
I know "Tell him, he deserves to know"would be the "right" thing to say here, but I'd say you really have to talk this out with your mom. This is not an easy decision to make.
My grandpa is 85 and my mom told me yesterday how he started crying when the topic of renovating his house came up. He always was an incredibly strong person, still is, but any kind of change to his usual environment or unexpected news deals a big blow to his system these days. If this story would happen to me I would absolutely not tell him because I know he would not be able to deal with it and would likely not even accept it.
You should definetely write a script based on this, however, I already heard the Soundtrack while reading the OP. Lady in the Town Hall to be played by Merryl Streep, Lady delivering the Twist by Maggie Smith. I'll take a cameo as the old ladie's nephew who brought you the tea you let fall down in slow motion when hearing the news, thank you.
But yeah, dude, dig deeper. Find your roots, if only for yourself.
My grandpa is 85 and my mom told me yesterday how he started crying when the topic of renovating his house came up. He always was an incredibly strong person, still is, but any kind of change to his usual environment or unexpected news deals a big blow to his system these days. If this story would happen to me I would absolutely not tell him because I know he would not be able to deal with it and would likely not even accept it.
You should definetely write a script based on this, however, I already heard the Soundtrack while reading the OP. Lady in the Town Hall to be played by Merryl Streep, Lady delivering the Twist by Maggie Smith. I'll take a cameo as the old ladie's nephew who brought you the tea you let fall down in slow motion when hearing the news, thank you.
But yeah, dude, dig deeper. Find your roots, if only for yourself.
UnluckyKate
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I think I should not. I don't think telling him is a good idea...
But I'm very curious, I want to get to the bottom of it... At least track his real parents and with the holocaust memorials and resources dedicated, it should be easy to find if they were deported and where...
But I don't think I should ? Its a sort of morbid curiosity... Nothing good could come out of this
Is this actually a thing? I always thought jews are a religious entity, not a race?
ShironRedshift
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Nope. Those ARE his family regardless of any of this. Family is more than just blood. They loved him and raised him as their own. That's what counts and what can never be taken away, no matter what. There's no "merely" about it. Especially when they did a great thing by taking him in when they were under no compulsion to--that would give me more appreciation for them if anything. His adoptive family is his real family and will always be so.
Of course, his biological parents are also real parents and what they did for him is also criticality important, which is why he deserves to know about them and you should tell him. But both are important for their own reasons and neither should be portrayed as less significant or any less his real parents or less important than the others which is why, should you end up deciding to tell him, make sure you emphasize the things I have in this post, about both being his real family and important in their own ways and that this information should make him think no less of either group of people to do your best to make sure he doesn't end up taking it the wrong way.
UnluckyKate
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it was a joke. don't take it seriously. Sorry
Familienoberhauptvogel
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it's both actually.
-Pyromaniac-
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If your mom is jewish then it means you are jewish, that's basically how it works in judaism.
Admiral Woofington
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As others have said, consider the sacrifice of the parents.
If he's religious, it'd possibly bring peace to his soul if you told him while also saying where they are buried. Or memorialized.
The Omega Man
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You have to circunscise 12 percent of your penis OP, it's the right thing to do.
Robert Williams
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What right do you have to withhold the information from him? It's his history.
It is possible, but it might not be that easy, the Nazis destroyed a ton of evidence at the end of the war.
Also, I think learning about history, especially history that you have a personal connection with is almost always a good thing, regardless of what you decide to do with that knowledge you might acquire.
It's complicated.
Technosteve
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TestOfTide
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You should tell your grandfather and you should also see if you can find out what happened to his parents.
Vermillion
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Tell him, IMO. I know I would want the truth, no matter how old I was. Besides, do you know he *wouldn't* want to know? If not, don't make that choice for him.
Admiral Woofington
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I don't know about right, but it's not like withholding information comes without its points. The man is at the end of his life to now learn about this tragic aspect of his life, that he was adopted, and that his real parents were very likely killed in the war by a group of bigots. The chance of turning his world upside down and causing huge emotional stress is definitely a valid argument.
Wow, that's a really interesting story. Thanks for sharing. As for whether to tell him or not, that's a complicated issue and you should probably discuss the specifics of your family's situation, and his in particular, before just springing this on him.
I'll admit. The usage of "granpa" and "Jew" in the OP triggered me a bit.
I'll admit. The usage of "granpa" and "Jew" in the OP triggered me a bit.
SolVanderlyn
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I think you should tell him. But like others have said, talk about it with the rest of your family first.
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Dude, this is incredible. Wow. I hope you can find relatives to present to your grandad, but definitely keep your grandma and mother in the know about the topic.
You really should tell him. You'll regret it pretty much forever if you don't. But loop your family members in before meeting up to talk to him about it so everyone's there.
His adopted parents are still his parents- and knowing that they did that for him is something he deserves to know.
His adopted parents are still his parents- and knowing that they did that for him is something he deserves to know.
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If you don't tell him, fine, up to you and your family, but you should really look for more info. This isn't just about him, I don't think you understand the significance of this for some people. It's less significant since his descendants aren't Jewish, but can be still significant for others who are relatives, if there are others.
LookAtMeGo
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Thats tough. I'm of the opinion that if his real parents saved his life then it would be in honor of them for him to know that one day.
Agreed. Amazing story and just think about how many others are alive today because of the actions of anti nazis from the 40s. OP, you literally owe your life to that old lady's family.
It's hard to decide if he should know or not, assuming he's a healthy man he would wonder about all that lost family.
If it were me, I'd tell your grandmother and let her decide.
X-TREME GAFFER
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Crazy story, OP. Thank you for sharing.
SenjutsuSage
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Tell him. Worst that can possibly happen is that he finds out he's somehow related to Netanyahu.
AliasGreed
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Depending on how old and fragile your grandfather is I would keep this a secret and not tell anyone. Just my advice feel free to ignore.
If he's in good health then go right ahead.
If he's in good health then go right ahead.
TemplaerDude
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Wow, you made my day thx
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