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[astroturfing]

i'm laying here in my bed crying my eyes out, waiting for my wonderful gf to come home so i can tell her we have no money anymore and have to move out from this nice place we finally moved into a year ago (after a 10 year long distance relationship!). she's studying hard to become a dental technician and we've been living mostly on my 1400e a month salary (surprisingly doable). but now i'll be broke and we'll have nothing.

i've been working in a university hospital for the last 4 years, transporting patients, a job i really really liked (patients are mostly elderly who are super awesome, and my co-workers as well). i had a long emotional talk with my boss who is actually on my side and told me i've done nothing wrong, it's just that her higher ups have decided to replace me with someone else.. a good friend actually so i'm not bitter towards him, he deserves it. but what pisses me off is that many others who have been there for much less time and who i've actually trained, get to stay.. i just don't fucking get it :/

my life's been a total mess, i'm 34 now and i failed uni 3 times (motivation problems, chronic pain making it hard to concentrate and learn), haven't had many steady jobs even though i've never really gotten complaints (in fact i was just rewarded for exemplary customer service at the hospital).

a year and a half ago i also almost died at the hospital i work in (so nuts), got a horrible case of sepsis and spent 11 days in the ICU hooked up to a ventilator having never ending nightmarish hallucinations and thinking/hoping i was going to die, at least 6-7 times when i closed my eyes i thought i'd drift off and never exist again. i've only recently started to recover mentally from that, and now this shit.. losing my small livelihood that 2 people depended on, without warning.

fuck these tears keep coming.. i also have to phone my mom and dad and tell them i'm screwed, and my dad just turned 70 and i'm supposed to go the birthday party in a week or two, i can't handle it.. i will ruin it by being a depressed hopeless broken little man. i know my mom will take it really badly, i really don't want to tell her, she has been so happy for me these past years, because i was finally able to land a steady job i was good at and enjoyed.. she's very empathic and she'll be crushed.


thanks for listening GAF, i think my gf will be home soon.. i hope she doesnt get as depressed as i am, she doesnt deserve it. she has already put up with me through my many failures in life.

i'm just so tired now, i hate to be this negative but i don't know what to do anymore. soon i can't pay the rent or food or anything. it's too crushing. please, i need some encouraging words :/

 

[ColdPizza]

No real advice other than keep moving forward and try to stay positive. Get up and dust yourself off if you can and start applying for similar jobs. Ask your boss who said it wasn't your fault for a referral/recommendation.

 

[Deleted member 20415]

Hi OP,

Sorry to hear you're having a rough go - totally ok to cry.

If you've done nothing wrong, and were laid off or replaced, you should be eligible for some type of unemployment, correct? I'm not sure where you are, but there's got to be some type of benefit that can help cushion the blow while you get back on your feet.

I've gotten the shit beat out of me from the loss of a job, had some complicated health issues hit me at the same time, and so I know that feeling of just plummeting and not being able to feel the ground below you.

Take care of yourself, take time to mourn, take a long ass shower, and start to control what you can, and you will be able to move forward.

 

[Dark_castle]

Hang on there mate. I'm 26 myself and stuck in a dead end public service job, have to find a way to get back to school someday. I'm in a rut, so you're not alone. Hope things will work out for you and I.

 

[kmfdmpig]

I'm sorry to hear that. Are there any similar jobs within commuting distance, maybe even at a nursing home? I imagine that the experience you have would help in a job search.

Remember that your value is much greater than any one job. Most people will have 12-15 different jobs in their lifetime, so you'll find something else, hopefully something you enjoy without too much stress/struggle in the interim.

 

[Jag]

Losing a job sucks. I've been fired a bunch of times. Once the the initial shock wears off, you need to channel that anger and depression into getting another job.

Make getting a new job your job now. You are now in sales. It is to sell yourself to a new employer.

More often than not, eventually the job I ultimately ended up in was a huge improvement over the prior job. The next job you get may not be the dream job but maybe the one after that is. Keep at it and you may surprised how much better your life can be because of this.

 

[Fireblend]

Don't despair OP, keep a positive outlook and think of this as a stumble, more opportunities will come in the future. I think the most important thing would be to talk about it with your gf and family, I'm sure they'll help you let your feelings out which is perfectly understandable and also put things in perspective so you can move forward - there's no sense in feeling miserable by yourself. Best of luck!

 

[Septic360]

i'm laying here in my bed crying my eyes out, waiting for my wonderful gf to come home so i can tell her we have no money anymore and have to move out from this nice place we finally moved into a year ago (after a 10 year long distance relationship!). she's studying hard to become a dental technician and we've been living mostly on my 1400e a month salary (surprisingly doable). but now i'll be broke and we'll have nothing.

i've been working in a university hospital for the last 4 years, transporting patients, a job i really really liked (patients are mostly elderly who are super awesome, and my co-workers as well). i had a long emotional talk with my boss who is actually on my side and told me i've done nothing wrong, it's just that her higher ups have decided to replace me with someone else.. a good friend actually so i'm not bitter towards him, he deserves it. but what pisses me off is that many others who have been there for much less time and who i've actually trained, get to stay.. i just don't fucking get it :/

my life's been a total mess, i'm 34 now and i failed uni 3 times (motivation problems, chronic pain making it hard to concentrate and learn), haven't had many steady jobs even though i've never really gotten complaints (in fact i was just rewarded for exemplary customer service at the hospital).

a year and a half ago i also almost died at the hospital i work in (so nuts), got a horrible case of sepsis and spent 11 days in the ICU hooked up to a ventilator having never ending nightmarish hallucinations and thinking/hoping i was going to die, at least 6-7 times when i closed my eyes i thought i'd drift off and never exist again. i've only recently started to recover mentally from that, and now this shit.. losing my small livelihood that 2 people depended on, without warning.

fuck these tears keep coming.. i also have to phone my mom and dad and tell them i'm screwed, and my dad just turned 70 and i'm supposed to go the birthday party in a week or two, i can't handle it.. i will ruin it by being a depressed hopeless broken little man. i know my mom will take it really badly, i really don't want to tell her, she has been so happy for me these past years, because i was finally able to land a steady job i was good at and enjoyed.. she's very empathic and she'll be crushed.


thanks for listening GAF, i think my gf will be home soon.. i hope she doesnt get as depressed as i am, she doesnt deserve it. she has already put up with me through my many failures in life.

i'm just so tired now, i hate to be this negative but i don't know what to do anymore. soon i can't pay the rent or food or anything. it's too crushing. please, i need some encouraging words :/

So sorry to hear that OP. Where do you live?

Listen- you've just come fresh off this horrible bad news but apply HARD for similar positions. Honestly- keep at it. And I'm sure you'll be sorted.

I assume you just want any position to get through?

 

[marrec]

Well, I mean, first... sorry about losing your job. That sucks man.

But mostly.

Now that you've had a good rant and a good cry, maybe start thinking about solutions to your problem. I assume you're living in Europe? (1400e?) So I don't know what options are available to you but if you don't have any savings (why don't you have any savings?) then Plan A is to get gainful employment ASAP. If that's not immediately available (even if it's just working at a shop around the corner) then you need to apply for whatever government assistance is available in your country. If this is some kind of emergency than don't let pride get in your way of providing for you and your girlfriend.

Don't have time to cry in bed about not having a job.

Though, a good cry is really centering sometimes, just don't overdo it ya?

After you find another job, time to start self-reflection. You say you've got motivation problems, so that's a good place to start improving. Those motivation problems could be tied to why you haven't been able to keep a steady job.

 

[Goodlife]

It's shit, but suck it up, dust yourself down, get your cv (or whatever the equivalent) updated and out there.
Have a chat with your boss about references and see if they have any contacts for you to try.

 

[Pagusas]

You say you failed out of university a few times? I wonder if that would have anything to do with losing the hospital job? At my job we will replace people, even good people, if they dont have the education to continue climbing the ladder, as a stagnating employee in one position will end up costing the company more money in the long run and its not good for incubating your internal workforce.


Will you at least get unemployment as you were released without incident?

 

[danowat]

Where are you OP?

You do realise that they can't just fire you like that (assuming you're in the UK)

 

[Charlatan]

Sorry to hear your bad news. Life totally sucks sometimes. It's not fair, and it's not fun, but that's the way it is. Getting laid off is a fact of life, and it's oftentimes done for economic reasons that have very little to do with your job performance; so don't take it personally.

You have every right to be upset, go ahead and own those feelings. But don't stay there forever. Use that energy (the frustration, the anger) towards productive ends.

1. Examine your expenses. Get a handle on everything you're spending right now. Determine if your expenses are required (i.e., place to live, food, etc) or whether they can be pared back (TV, phone plans, internet, eating fast food).

2. Start cutting back on expenses. One of your main goals should be to make your money last as long as possible.

3. Are you eligible for unemployment? If so, apply for it ASAP.

4. Start looking for another job. Can you network with your supervisor (who seems to like you) to try to find another position at the hospital? You already have a lot of contacts there so maybe someone knows of an opening.

5. Expand your job search - this is not the time to be too picky about what you do, because you need something that pays money.

I have found a lot of the advice over at the personal finance reddit is pretty reasonable (www.reddit.com/r/personalfinance). If you post your issue there you will likely get a lot of advice.

Good luck to you.

 

[Liberty4all]

Do you get Employment Insurance?

 

[marrec]

Sorry to hear your bad news. Life totally sucks sometimes. It's not fair, and it's not fun, but that's the way it is. Getting laid off is a fact of life, and it's oftentimes done for economic reasons that have very little to do with your job performance; so don't take it personally.

You have every right to be upset, go ahead and own those feelings. But don't stay there forever. Use that energy (the frustration, the anger) towards productive ends.

1. Examine your expenses. Get a handle on everything you're spending right now. Determine if your expenses are required (i.e., place to live, food, etc) or whether they can be pared back (TV, phone plans, internet, eating fast food).

2. Start cutting back on expenses. One of your main goals should be to make your money last as long as possible.

3. Are you eligible for unemployment? If so, apply for it ASAP.

4. Start looking for another job. Can you network with your supervisor (who seems to like you) to try to find another position at the hospital? You already have a lot of contacts there so maybe someone knows of an opening.

5. Expand your job search - this is not the time to be too picky about what you do, because you need something that pays money.

I have found a lot of the advice over at the personal finance reddit is pretty reasonable (www.reddit.com/r/personalfinance). If you post your issue there you will likely get a lot of advice.

Good luck to you.

Yo OP if you had a job I'd demand you pay this poster for advice like this.

Since you're between work right now though I'll let it slide.

Follow this advice.

 

[AuthenticM]

Considering both your problems at the university, and your work injury, could you get government help?

 

[Pagusas]

Yo OP if you had a job I'd demand you pay this poster for advice like this.

Since you're between work right now though I'll let it slide.

Follow this advice.

You would make him pay for the most common sense advice ever?

 

[marrec]

You would make him pay for the most common sense advice ever?

And I'd take a 10% cut.

 

[BudokaiMR2]

I lost my last two jobs in similarly shitty situations. And the last one was just a couple months ago while my wife was 5 months pregnant with our second child. Had the news dropped on me in a meeting that I had been led to believe was just going to be a normal performance review--basically a guaranteed raise. Was not a good day.

I just hunkered down and chased down every lead I could. I was lucky and had some buffer time and spent that updating my resume and applying for anything I qualified for. Ended up landing the best job I have ever had about a month ago.

Life tends to throw curveballs at you at the worst possible times. All you can do is move forward and leave the past behind.

 

[Pagusas]

And I'd take a 10% cut.

I love it. OP follow this man's business sense! A true Trump American.

On a more serious note, is that the only hospital in the area? If you are trained up and good at the job you just lost, perhaps those skills could transfer to another job at a different hospital? If the current hospital higher ups pushed for your replacement, that likely means applying at the same place would be a non-starter (but you should still try!). But that shouldn't exclude other practices.

 

[ColdPizza]

You would make him pay for the most common sense advice ever?

Sometimes these things can be overlooked when you're distraught.

 

[ZackieChan]

This is why I say that a "job" is riskier than working for yourself. You can have the rug pulled out at any moment. You'll be fine, OP. Your parents will be fine. Don't go to then crying. Go to then with the attitude of someone who is ready to fight for themselves, their career, and their relationship. Do it!

 

[RMI]

Damn OP, I'm sorry you have to struggle like this.

Best of luck with moving on and finding new work.

 

[Trojan X]

OP. First of all. Cry for tonight and tonight only. Cry until you had enough. If you have a car, go inside it, seal the windows and scream as loud as you can. Let it all out. Don't let your gf see what you are going through though. You are just getting yourself over.

Second of all. Soon as tomorrow comes make sure you forget what happened the night before because it's a NEW FUCKING DAY. Your depression days are now OVER for this is what you are going to do because YOU HAVE NO TIME FOR DEPRESSION! TELL DEPRESSION TO FUCK OFF BECAUSE YOU ARE GOING MARCH FORWARD:

1) DOUBLE CHECK YOUR WORK CONTRACT - If you got a work contract, make sure that you get all the perks you suppose to get when you have to leave work. It could be something along the lines of the company would have to give you one-month notice or something along those lines. If you got a contract then I'm positive that the company cannot immediately let you go without notice.

2) GET YOUR CV AND COVER LETTER IN ORDER - Forget all what happened regarding your Uni, you know what is against you so focus on the positives. Ask your friends or get inspiration from those who you know have a great CV and try to copy their style (if their CV is awesome) and make sure you create more than 3 types as you need a specific CV for certain jobs. When you finished your draft of your CV then get someone to check it for errors and, indeed, see where they can improve it.

3) GET YOURSELF TO THE JOB AGENCY - You need to contact them ASAP! Don't waste time. Even if your company continue to employ you for a few more months, you still need to contact them. Make sure you do not contact them until you have completed your CV fully.

4) EXPAND YOUR SEARCH - Do not focus on specialising on one job, focus on many that your skill can lead you into.

5) GET YOURSELF INTO THE MINDSET THAT YOU NEED TO DO SOMETHING FOR NOW, A MEANS TO AN END - Because of your financial situation, take any job that you get your hands into. Do not be too picky. You need to do something to keep you going until you get the job you really want. Because of your age and situation, you do not have time to take a job that is too low of earnings.

6) TELL YOUR PARTNER TO GET A PART-TIME JOB IF SHE DOESN'T ALREADY HAVE ONE - She is studying but it doesn't mean she shouldn't be working at all. If she has a part time job then that is fine but if you are providing for her then she should get a part-time job to help. You are not earning enough to provide everything to her and since you are both not married, she should be doing something to help herself if not both of you so you are both not suffering. I'm not saying that her part-time earnings will cover you, I'm saying that whatever she get it would be "something" rather than "nothing".

7) DEPENDING ON POINT 1, GO IRON YOUR INTERVIEW CLOTHES AND PREPARE EVERYTHING - You got to get yourself on the ready. If you are still going to work for a period of time then pack your interview clothes into a travelling pulley case and take it to work with you. Remember, not all interviews are in the day time, you can arrange in the evening.

8) NEVER STOP! - Don't stop for anyone. Do not wallow in your depression anymore. Say "fuck it" to anytime you have any fear or hesitation. Do not STOP, think you won't stop! Contact your Agents every two days via phone. Make sure you sign up with TONS of agents. Make sure you send between 20-30 CVs/Resumes per day! Flood the market and then some. Push push PUSH because YOU are the man and everyone must know your name. When you finally get an interview, just say to yourself "fuck it" and do your best. Don't change your character, just make sure you give your fear the middle finger.

9) SIGN ON - Get yourself to the job centre too so you can sign-on for financial support!


Sorry for all the caps but it's just that I really want to drum into your mind the extreme importance of what actions you need to take and how you need to think for now on.I'm sure everyone else here will support you but remember, when the next day come, you NEED to change.


Now. Go for it!

 

[entremet]

The advice here is sound.

I went through a painful job loss and long unemployment stint a while ago. The most important thing is having a support network, including a professional support network. Use this time to start building one.

You'll be fine. It does suck, but don't mourn for too long. Take a day or two and then get back to job hunting. Being busy is the best medicine to allay your worries.

 

[jehuty]

That does suck op. I have no idea how it works in Europe but hopefully you live in s big city. If so, look into temp agencies. You'll be able to start working almost right away and depending on your skill set, could probably land a job that pays more than what you were currently making. Best of luck op, don't give up, fight until the end!

 

[QuantumZebra]

4 years at a hospital with training people under your belt is great on a resume, OP.

You need to get your credentials and documents in order and start ballin'.

 

[Fistwell]

OP, it's not your failure, these things happen. I lost my job in March out of nowhere. Had moved myself and my wife for this job, happened to be back in my hometown where my parents and childhood friends live, I was doing great at work, outstanding performance evaluation. Then out of nowhere they tell me thanks but no thanks.

Find a roof, lick your wounds, take whatever time it takes, then pick yourself back up and find something else. It's a disheartening situation to be in, but you'll overcome it and grow from it.

 

[Dipper145]

It's a good thing you've had 4 years to build up enough savings to get you through this time! Just get right back out there and find another job, I assume your savings should last you several months of job searching at this point.

Now that you have experience in the field it will be easier to find a job, and you have a good recommendation from your boss who you are friends with. I imagine the job you find will end up being higher paying in the end since you now have 4 years of experience.

Best of luck and stay positive!

 

[richiek]

Hang on there mate. I'm 26 myself and stuck in a dead end public service job, have to find a way to get back to school someday. I'm in a rut, so you're not alone. Hope things will work out for you and I.

Same here. I'm trying to get out of my crap deadend job and try to break into the IT field. I've tried applying for jobs for over a year and no success. I feel your pain.

 

[Sora_N]

Cry if you want OP but use it to get stronger. You gotta move forward.

Best of luck. It sucks now but you can't give up.

 

[wrowa]

Well, you are probably still employed for a couple of months, right? At least I assume that Finnish law protects you of getting fired on the spot.

If so, you still have some wages left. Cut down your expenses now, save as much as you can, start applying everywhere you can and you might already have something new before the both of you encounter financial troubles. Even then, you'd surely get unemployment money, right?

 

[Jeff Albertson]

Well, I mean, first... sorry about losing your job. That sucks man.

But mostly.

Now that you've had a good rant and a good cry, maybe start thinking about solutions to your problem. I assume you're living in Europe? (1400e?) So I don't know what options are available to you but if you don't have any savings (why don't you have any savings?) then Plan A is to get gainful employment ASAP. If that's not immediately available (even if it's just working at a shop around the corner) then you need to apply for whatever government assistance is available in your country. If this is some kind of emergency than don't let pride get in your way of providing for you and your girlfriend.

Don't have time to cry in bed about not having a job.

Though, a good cry is really centering sometimes, just don't overdo it ya?

After you find another job, time to start self-reflection. You say you've got motivation problems, so that's a good place to start improving. Those motivation problems could be tied to why you haven't been able to keep a steady job.

In fairness it sounds like they've been saving to move into their apartment and making do on one wage - more than understandable that there wouldn't be savings.

 

[Hydranockz]

It's a good thing you've had 4 years to build up enough savings to get you through this time! Just get right back out there and find another job, I assume your savings should last you several months of job searching at this point.

Now that you have experience in the field it will be easier to find a job, and you have a good recommendation from your boss who you are friends with. I imagine the job you find will end up being higher paying in the end since you now have 4 years of experience.

Best of luck and stay positive!

Why would you assume someone earning €1,400 a month providing for 2 adults has the ability to save a significant sum of money? That's a dangerous assumption to be making when living pay check to pay check is a reality for many people. The situation OP is really difficult and you think its ok to say "oh you've got 4 years of savings, you'll be grand" is either shockingly naieve or annoyingly sarcastic.

OP, take a day or two to process this change. Consider asking friends and family for help looking for work. Don't assume no one would be willing to help you out. Same goes for organisations whose purpose is to help people find work. By all means continue to look on your own too. If you are in any way close to your family they should be understanding of your situation. It will be easy to feel shameful asking for help but just remember that asking for help is never shameful.

 

[Trojan X]

Why would you assume someone earning €1,400 a month providing for 2 adults has the ability to save a significant sum of money? That's a dangerous assumption to be making when living pay check to pay check is a reality for many people. The situation OP is really difficult and you think its ok to say "oh you've got 4 years of savings, you'll be grand" is either shockingly naieve or annoyingly sarcastic..

Bro, a little harsh. Take a step back. Yes, I agree that it was naive for him to think that OP may have substantial savings but I'm positive that his heart was in a good place.

 

[Akuun]

Sorry to hear that OP.

I was laid off a few months ago, and it does really suck. I had just gotten married a month before I was laid off, and my coworkers and boss went to my wedding (though the decision to boot me seems to have come from above them). The layoff was incredibly sudden and I was completely blindsided by the move. I really liked that job and got along great with people there, but one day I was invited to an "in-person meeting" and then suddenly I was out the door within an hour. I was the most senior person on my team outside of the team lead, so I suspect they gave me the boot instead of the more junior people because I was probably paid more than them.

Right now, it's important to try to fight those feelings of betrayal/failure because those won't help you for the time being. Think about what you have right now, try to look at the bright side of things, and move on with your life. I know it's easier said than done, but you'll probably feel better as you start figuring out your next moves.

Your first priority is to do damage control. Figure out what you have going for you, and what you need to handle. The next step after that is to find a new job.

What do you have right now? From your post, you have a few things I've noticed:
- You have a girlfriend who is supportive of you. She'll be sad to hear the news, but at least you aren't alone.
- You have parents who are supportive of you. Yes, you don't want to break the bad news to them, but it's best to bite the bullet and just tell them. There's no real good way to tell them so you probably just need to spit it out. I sent an email to my family after I got laid off that more or less plainly went "I was laid off today" and then some stuff about how I'm feeling, what I'm thinking, and what I planned to do next.
- You were laid off. This is threefold in that a) you are probably eligible for employment insurance if you have it in your area, and b) the fact that you have experience working a previous job is a good thing when finding new work, and c) saying "I was laid off" is a super safe answer in job interviews if people ask you why you left your old place. It might even get you some sympathy.
- You are on good terms with your old boss. This is big, because you can use her as a reference when finding new work. She will likely speak well of you because she wants you to recover too. Same goes for your coworkers, if you're ever asked for more than one reference.

Remember that you have people who are supportive of you. This is a big blow in your life, but it's not the end for you. It doesn't look like it right now, but you can recover from this. You need to soldier on, both for yourself and your loved ones.

Another thing to note is that surprisingly, being laid off is not an unusual thing to happen. It's easy to feel useless and unwanted when you're laid off, but the truth is that people sometimes lose their jobs for reasons outside their control. When I told my friends I got laid off, I was REALLY surprised to hear that every single one of my friends had gotten laid off before at some point in their lives. I wasn't alone.

Your next priority is to start looking for work.

Check your savings. See how long you can last financially on what you have right now. You need to find a new job right away, but you also need to figure out how much time you have. If you need to, consider asking your parents for help. I know it sucks to do so, but it's better than giving up the place you just got.

Check the terms of your release from your old job. Do you have a severance package? Are you eligible for employment insurance? This can help supplement the lack of pay for now.

Start looking for work. Brush up on your resume. Looking for work always sucks, but keeping busy like this will help you stave off the feelings of helplessness.

 

[CloudyTuba]

The wound is fresh and it sucks but dont immediately decide that your life is over and that you need to cancel everything and live in a box. You're not screwed. You didnt lose work forever, you just lost work for now. Stop focusing on what you lost and start focusing on the plan to get back on track elsewhere. You've got some work to do but you'll be fine. You hit the applications hard enough and hey, maybe you'll even be working again in a couple weeks and the money will be flowing again.

 

[Rad-]

4 years in the same place looks good in your CV. Also if your boss liked you then call her and ask for a recommendation and then just start looking for a new job asap. Also list yourself into a temp agency. That's an important way to get jobs nowadays.

 

[RyanardoDaVinci]

Right there with you, OP.

After 5 months of part-time retail, I just landed a nice paying job ($550 a week) and could finally support myself. Was doing well at the job, heard nothing but good words from my trainers, supervisor, even one of the owners. Then last Tuesday I got a call saying, "Yeah, don't come in tomorrow. You're not needed anymore, your contract has been terminated. Thank you."

Now I have to pay rent, car payment, food, utilities, etc. and I only have $1200. I'll get some help from my mom, but if I can't find anything soon I'm screwed in about 2 months, maybe even 1.

And just last month I had my heart broken into a billion pieces as well, so fuck me, right?

 

[Red]

Are there no open positions at the hospital? Check job listings and see if there is another department you could work. They may prefer someone who already has experience with the location and staff.

 

[CrunchyB]

Sorry to hear that OP, you seem like a decent person.

But all is not lost, you've got some solid work experience to put on your CV, are relatively young and have a girlfriend and parents who love you. That's much better than most people. I agree with the advice of letting off steam today (and possibly tomorrow). But after that, no more excuses, the rest of your life is waiting for you and you're the only one who controls it.

 

[Lumination]

OP, it's not the end of the world. You have experience working in a hospital. You'll find new, better work sooner rather than later.

Just one word of advice in your hard time. Learn from this experience and SAVE. In the future, try to aim for 3 months of living expenses in the bank, so you won't have to flip your life upside down at a moment's notice.

Good luck man.

 

[Saganator]

Sucks man. Got to do your best to keep your head up, even if you gotta fake it. Keep your relationship in tact as best you can. I recently lost pretty much everything when my condo went up in flames last week (I'm a complete dipshit moron, no renters insurance), I'm a wreck but I'd be totally lost and miserable without my girl friend.

 

[astroturfing]

yeah no savings, money has all gone to rent and food (and a videogame or two of course). that's why i'm panicking, i'll be completely broke real fast and it's frightening.. the idea of selling any of my stuff is unacceptable to me. i worked hard to be able to afford my new TV and ps4, no way i'm selling them! i need entertainment to keep me sane, now especially.

i was also a kind of temp worker (best i could do without a real education), so i won't get any real unemployment money, just minimal government assistance which isn't much at all, maybe pays half my rent.

talked with the gf.. she took it much better than me hah. she seems strong. but i'm still hopeless, we will have some SERIOUS troubles and i feel incapacitated by despair.. i've never been good with this stuff, i honestly can't even make a proper CV!

thanks for the replies, just what i needed mostly. i do need to pick myself up and at least do something. i'll try to finish the remaining work days without losing my shit, leaving gracefully (boss said there's still a chance they could take me back at some point..).

it's just that.. i'm the kind or person who gets REALLY attached to things, i can't even imagine working anywhere else. our break room felt like another home, co-workers felt like brothers.. feels literally impossible to let all that go so suddenly.

 

[leakey]

Hi OP, I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this. You will make it through, though! As others in the thread have mentioned: are you eligible for unemployment? Do you have any savings to help until you have another position? As soon as you can, you need to get your resume/CV updated and start looking for a new source of income. If you need help with the resume/CV, let us know. Folks are giving great advice in this thread so far.

This will pass.

 

[Breakfast at Noon]

Sorry dude :'(
Where are you based if you do not mind me asking?

 

[karmaforgotme]

I had a good job as an corporate accountant until I got tired of my new supervisor (long story). I told her off for shifting blame to employees when things go bad, but taking all the credit for when things go good. I actually told her that a good manager leads the opposite way she is leading. While I was in the right, I should of kept my mouth shut, and I was laid off within a month. At the same time my wife's company was closing the local office she worked at. She was due to by laid off in a month. I have to say that day I got laid off was one of the worst days in my life. I have always been successful at my job, and never been fired. I felt like I failed my wife and my 3 kids. So I understand what you are feeling.

That said I got a job with more pay within 2 weeks (my supervisor before the new one I hated helped me find one), and I am still here today. I just got put up for a promotion and nice raise (just waiting for approval). The company I worked for before got bought out within 18 months after I was laid off. So in the end getting laid off was a great thing that to happen to me. I hope in short time you will feel the same way. Never ever give up hope.

 

[Jimrpg]

I lost my job about 4 years ago, our whole team got let go. There wasn't any where to else to go, because the industry I was in straight up died then. Yep, after 18 years in school, 10 years at work, that's what it came down to, life can be a bitch.

First things first, do your very best to get a job, any job. Doesn't matter what it is, you can worry about getting the right job after you're in a job and money is coming in. It took me 6 months to get something but you have to start right now.

Also do your best to live cheaply, can be hard, but treat it like a game. Since I lost my job... im saving every cent (except my PC purchase) I can. I even had to say no to some holidays with friends. That was tough. Anyways Good Luck!

 

[Septic360]

I had a good job as an corporate accountant until I got tired of my new supervisor (long story). I told her off for shifting blame to employees when things go bad, but taking all the credit for when things go good. I actually told her that a good manager leads the opposite way she is leading. While I was in the right, I should of kept my mouth shut, and I was laid off within a month. At the same time my wife's company was closing the local office she worked at. She was due to by laid off in a month. I have to say that day I got laid off was one of the worst days in my life. I have always been successful at my job, and never been fired. I felt like I failed my wife and my 3 kids. So I understand what you are feeling.

That said I got a job with more pay within 2 weeks (my supervisor before the new one I hated helped me find one), and I am still here today. I just got put up for a promotion and nice raise (just waiting for approval). The company I worked for before got bought out within 18 months after I was laid off. So in the end getting laid off was a great thing that to happen to me. I hope in short time you will feel the same way. Never ever give up hope.

Cool story. Its just missing the bit where you punch your old supervisor in the face.

You can do it now, I don't mind. Just stream it live- I promise to shout 'worldstar' from here

 

[SoldierOfLight]

Just wipe the tears, talk to your gf and see what you guys plan. I'm sure she can console you and let you know many options for work.

Now the part I don't get is why Higher ups would replace you with someone else just like that? That wouldn't be valid in my book to lose my job and at least they should offer you some other position. Somethings a bit off about that.

I fear being in your position, if I were to lose my job today I'd probably feel just like you do now. I hope you pull through and don't lose your place.