KaoticBlaze
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I tend to only see those people in stuff like tinder. Where they basically just want people to like their pics to boost their confidence.
Fuck Tinder! It was great when it first came out, now its just spam and bot central.
I tend to only see those people in stuff like tinder. Where they basically just want people to like their pics to boost their confidence.
It's a way to take a picture that disguises your fat body. If you then go out on a date with this girl, you then see her fat body and have to choose between walking away before she notices, or spending a couple of hours talking to someone you're not interested in at all.
Because I have a conscience, I end up dating them, and then explaining after that we weren't a good fit. Just fucks me off because I only have so much free time, I don't want to spend it with someone I have zero attraction to.
This is why I hate the "man pays on dates". It gives one party the power dynamic and it has always always made me bloody uncomfortable.
Went a saw a movie together? You bought me a drink? A burger? Fucking wonderful. But I'll pay for my own share if it means I don't have to listen to what I "owe".
What? I don't know you personally, so maybe I'm missing something here. Dating someone you're not attracted to isn't what I'd call having a conscience. It's more like leading someone on because you're too spineless to communicate that you're not interested.
You know you can still be nice on a date without setting up future dates if you're not feeling it like that. You don't have to date them beyond that first meeting where you met them because they misrepresented their image.
Dating is expensive as FUCK. My savings is pretty much depleted from it. Though last night, she paid for the dinner, which was around $35 tighter, but I ended up paying for drinks after hopping to two bars.
Unfortunately yes.
I once dated a guy that refused to let me pay. Like, he would literally refuse to let me pay. I tried doing the "going to the bathroom and giving them my card," "showing up early and giving my card," and straight up asking the wait staff to let me pay. No dice.
EVEN NOW, when we don't even date, he STILL refuses to let me pay. Something about how a guy should pay for a girl.
Joke is on him though. I have his home address thanks to out last dinner (we met up at his place), and he's getting a very expensive gift.
I don't like how society panders to the weak.
What are you guys' thoughts on people that are on dating sites just to "meet friends and have conversations (aka be hit on relentlessly)"?
You literally said "If I am going to be spending $40-$60 on a date, then I want to know what you really look like." I quoted you and bolded it.Assanova said:Power dynamics? What the hell are you talking about? No one "owes" me anything and I never, ever, imply that when I am with a woman. Expecting someone to be honest about who they are and what they look like is not unusual in the slightest bit, regardless of who pays.
What are you guys' thoughts on people that are on dating sites just to "meet friends and have conversations (aka be hit on relentlessly)"?
You literally said "If I am going to be spending $40-$60 on a date, then I want to know what you really look like." I quoted you and bolded it.
What you literally said is the equivalent of "I am spending money, so this person owes me an honest photo of themselves." Implying the very fact that you are paying gives you power over that person. Thankfully, you're not as bad as some guys who imply that them paying on a date owes them being handsy or more. But you better believe those guys exist.
Look, dating is complicated enough, but it just adds a layer of complication to it when you add in the anonymity of the internet. You want to know what someone really looks like it? Keep your dating exclusively to meatspace. Meet people in bars, shops, arcades, work, school, etc. You want to branch out and try finding someone online? Then you're just going to have to deal with the fact that many people lie about their images in the same way advertising lies to make their products seem better. Did you agree to date this person based purely on their looks and now you feel cheated? Well tough, try meeting someone you connect with on something other than looks. And if you're just looking to bang out cheap ones with someone good looking, again. Meet them in fucking person.
Sorry, girls only.is there a waiting list i can put my name on or something? LOL
Can girls be friendzoned?You've just been friendzoned.
Sorry, girls only.
Can girls be friendzoned?
Either way, nope, I'm just that cuddly.
What are you guys' thoughts on people that are on dating sites just to "meet friends and have conversations (aka be hit on relentlessly)"?
This entire quote is absolutely ridiculous. What you are saying is the equivalent of "he met me online, so I can lie as much as I want, and he has to be okay with it. tee hee.". Regardless of if I am spending money on me, her, or no money at all, if I am meeting you based on an honest profile, then yes, you better believe that I expect you to be the person that you led me to believe you are.
I'm moderately attractive (rated a 6 on Neogaf.com),
Now you're just delving into sexist territory. I specifically didn't use gender in any of my post. If you think women are the only ones that lie about their looks online then you are completely misinformed.
I also never said you had to be ok with someone misrepresenting themselves. I'm saying it fucking happens, and if you want to whine about it then stick to meeting people in person.
Guys do that "misleading pics" shit too.
I have a friend who uses pictures of himself when he was in shape and had a lot more hair. In reality he's a lot heavier now and has a lot less hair lol.
Dude also lists his height as 5'10" when really he's about 5'8", although he insists he's 5'9".
You're basically saying that it is okay to lie about your appearance online because people do it so much. Nothing is wrong with him calling it out. Saying "meet people in person" doesn't make it wrong to lie about your appearance.You literally said "If I am going to be spending $40-$60 on a date, then I want to know what you really look like." I quoted you and bolded it.
What you literally said is the equivalent of "I am spending money, so this person owes me an honest photo of themselves." Implying the very fact that you are paying gives you power over that person. Thankfully, you're not as bad as some guys who imply that them paying on a date owes them being handsy or more. But you better believe those guys exist.
Look, dating is complicated enough, but it just adds a layer of complication to it when you add in the anonymity of the internet. You want to know what someone really looks like it? Keep your dating exclusively to meatspace. Meet people in bars, shops, arcades, work, school, etc. You want to branch out and try finding someone online? Then you're just going to have to deal with the fact that many people lie about their images in the same way advertising lies to make their products seem better. Did you agree to date this person based purely on their looks and now you feel cheated? Well tough, try meeting someone you connect with on something other than looks. And if you're just looking to bang out cheap ones with someone good looking, again. Meet them in fucking person.
Personally if you're on a dating site, aka on a site to meet strangers irl to have a date with and possibly start a relationship with, you need pictures of yourself that show you how you look at your best and what you look like normally. These angled and crop images don't do you favors sorry. Because even if you think that you look your best at that angle all people like me will be thinking of is "what is she telling me that she only takes pictures this close up or at this angle?"
If I go out to meet you and you ended up being obese because you took an angled picture as your dating profile picture and never said in your profile under body type that you are overweight, then you lied to me plain and simple. I won't hold a grudge against you but I will be disappointed.
Im not gonna be looking at you from the favorable angle 24/7 so take multiple pictures of yourself.
If you can't find people your own age, go younger or older.
Unfortunately taking an honest picture is going to result in zero percent chances of dates regardless, to boil it down.
All you people complaining about how disappointed you'd be by your date not being physically attractive must be shining examples yourselves.
All you people complaining about how disappointed you'd be by your date not being physically attractive must be shining examples yourselves.
That's not the complaint.
The disappointment is when there exists a drastic difference for the worse between the online appearance and the IRL appearance.
Perhaps I just have that vastly of a different experience than most people. I haven't ever dated online and my Facebook pages and tumblr inboxes are routinely inundated with stranger's dick pics.
It just bothers me when people complain about the dishonesty of other's when they're the very same to turn around and nitpick about sharp knees.
Perhaps I just have that vastly of a different experience than most people. I haven't ever dated online and my Facebook pages and tumblr inboxes are routinely inundated with stranger's dick pics.
It just bothers me when people complain about the dishonesty of other's when they're the very same to turn around and nitpick about sharp knees.
As to your first point, sorry you get a lot of dick pics? Still not sure what that has to do with anything in this thread. Hopefully the dick pics are a realistic depiction of said dick <.<
It doesn't, it's me admitting that I'm coming to this issue from a completely different perspective and I'm probably wrong.
And no, to quote a friend of mine "If I had to deal with the shit that comes into your inboxes everyday, I'd have a nervous breakdown."
I am, it's true.All you people complaining about how disappointed you'd be by your date not being physically attractive must be shining examples yourselves.
I don't envy women on the Internet, that's for sure.
Don't be this bro, bro.I'd rather watch porn and masturbate than to keep draining money on dates.
Don't be this bro, bro.
No bro nooooooI'm not your bro, buddy!
I would never ever date a fat chick. In fact, unless the girl is slim, I won't be attracted to her at all. I myself gym 4x a week so I would expect the girl to also keep in shape.
I don't like how society panders to the weak. Fat acceptance is a damn shame.
I'd rather watch porn and masturbate than to keep draining money on dates.
And I can't find any women to match who wants to Netflix and chill.