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Blame Chump
Very interesting and shorter-than-I-thought history of the word in the English language from Wikipedia:
Do you guys think every expression used to objectively or scientifically describe mentally disabled people will turn very fast into a pejorative word, then the more progressive part of society will try to stop using it, invent or find a new term for it and then the whole cycle starts again?
Me and all my friends use it still. I don't really see it as a slur.
I wouldn't call a mentally challenged person a retard obviously. But when my friend does something stupid I'll call him a retard. Or describe something as retarded.
I think the side-effect of trying to get people to stop using a word is you are also educating them on why...
Going to bat for a word that causes offence is the most bizarre thing to me. All it says in my books is that group matters less than them. And when that group is some of the most vulnerable in society there is a severe empathy deficit.
I don't think someone who uses the word "retard" or "retarded" necessarily lacks empathy for the mentally retarded.
I don't think someone who uses the word "retard" or "retarded" necessarily lacks empathy for the mentally retarded.
Look at Lame, and Idiot both words used for disabilities. They aren't slurs anymore, still insulting to an extent but words evolved I guess. Lame and Idiot/Idiotic/Idiocy are said by many many people here yet there seems to be no issue with it.
So what is the preferred one-word(and one syllable if possible) phrase to use when someone of approximately average intelligence does something that you would only expect from someone of significantly below average intelligence?
So what is the preferred one-word(and one syllable if possible) phrase to use when someone of approximately average intelligence does something that you would only expect from someone of significantly below average intelligence?
Retards.
People on here can tell me I have no empathy and no respect for the mentally challenged all day long for using the word retard. Doesn't make it true. As much as you guys seem to want it to be.
I really don't know how else to talk about a person who uses a word they know sucks in one conversation but then will avoid it in another where they would actually have to be accountable for their use of the word. Cowardly? Shitty? Willfully ignorant? How should we be approaching such a contradiction?People on here can tell me I have no empathy and no respect for the mentally challenged all day long for using the word retard. Doesn't make it true. As much as you guys seem to want it to be.
People on here can tell me I have no empathy and no respect for the mentally challenged all day long for using the word retard. Doesn't make it true. As much as you guys seem to want it to be.
Dumb/idiot/moron are antiquated in ways that "retarded" are not. We are much farther removed from those being terms with any meaning beyond their colloquial ones than we are with retarded.
Further, speaking as someone who has a low-functioning autistic brother, who many people have referred to as being a "retard" for the sake of harming him through out his life, I'm gonna go ahead and tell you to stop it with this bullshit.
How can you read something like this and maintain this view:
What are you gaining?
Is this really the hill to die on? Or did I fall for the bait?
This too. This and "gay" were flying around my elementary school playground and my high school; I know some people who didn't go to university and don't grow out of (or at least don't try to grow out of) them.
Retards.
What is with this response lately. I've seen this a lot on GAF.
Someone makes a statement or has a thought. Reply is: Are you sure this is the hill you want to die on???
Edginess?
Approach it however you want. Maybe I'm all of those things in your opinion, that's okay.I really don't know how else to talk about a person who uses a word they know sucks in one conversation but then will avoid it in another where they would actually have to be accountable for their use of the word. Cowardly? Shitty? Willfully ignorant? How should we be approaching such a contradiction?
We disagree a lot here, but I appreciate this post a lot, because you're listening and elaborating on your view (which I think is the main frustration some here have had with your previous posts).Approach it however you want. Maybe I'm all of those things in your opinion, that's okay.
To me anyway, it's the same thing as avoiding a topic I know is gonna hurt someone in a conversation. As an example, after a friend of a friends suicide, I try not to say things involving suicide because it's just gonna hurt my friend to bring it up.
Loose example obviously. I'm not saying I'm a good person because I'll only say retard around people who aren't mentally challenged. I'm just saying that I'm not that shitty that I'd say it to someone in that group.
I guess retard doesn't hold the weight to me personally as it does others. Maybe I should Re think how I speak and what words I use. Clearly this word does hurt people as evidenced above.
I just kinda know that after I close this thread and put my phone down, chances are pretty high I'll keep saying retard now and then because it's such a normal thing to me.
A friend tried telling me about using gay and faggot in everyday use a few years back. To most ends I have removed that from my vocabulary I think. But last year he went off about how I call cigarettes fags. I'll often say I'm going for a fag or I'm outta fags or whatever. I don't see myself ever being able to stop saying. Due to both being ingrained and due to me not seeing that use as troublesome.
I really don't know what else to say on this tbh
While I understand your point about avoiding a sensitive topic, I think your behavior is less analogous to that sort of scenario and more analogous to how bigots talk one way in private and another in public, which often comes off to me as a way to dodge personal responsibility by only opening up to those you trust to not make you have to reconsider your own (and their own) behavior.
Retards.
Yes, I am from the UK and was part of the generation born in the 80s who used the word spastic. At the time SCOPE was known as the spastic's society, and like retard, is a legitimate medical term.
Has the usage of spastic stopped because of a movement to restrict its usage, or has the word simply dropped out of favour as many words do?
I remember the term special being used after spastic fell out of favour, and now that term is no longer heard either, but there was no movement to stop its usage. The unfortunate fact is that whatever word is used to describe the neurodivergent, as described in the OP, becomes an insult. If people in the playground start calling each other neurodivergent, do you this ban this term, and then continually try to find another?
The thing that makes them bigots though isn't speaking one way in public vs in private, it's the actual opinions they hold. I say all sorts of insensitive and vulgar things when I'm with close friends that I wouldn't in public or with strangers because I know it can offend or be taken the wrong way.
Spastic/spaz got wiped out in the UK after years of use. People stopped using it because they knew better, and it fell out of use completely.
This is a positive change, it worked, and people didn't suddenly want to use that banned, nuclear-bomb level word. They grew up, the adults as well as the kids. At least a little bit.
It is pretty crazy that the term retard came to be used to replace words used like idiot, moron, or imbecile, which were seen as negative. The word retard then becomes the one that shouldn't be said, while the words it replaced are free flowing insults.
In the US we never got a campaign to stop using the word spaz. I had only ever heard of the word being used to describe someone hyperactive, usually an uncontrollable kid. "Spaz out" might have been used one to describe someone having a mental breakdown or alluding that they feel like they are having one.
In the US we never got a campaign to stop using the word spaz. I had only ever heard of the word being used to describe someone hyperactive, usually an uncontrollable kid. "Spaz out" might have been used one to describe someone having a mental breakdown or alluding that they feel like they are having one.
Approach it however you want. Maybe I'm all of those things in your opinion, that's okay.
To me anyway, it's the same thing as avoiding a topic I know is gonna hurt someone in a conversation. As an example, after a friend of a friends suicide, I try not to say things involving suicide because it's just gonna hurt my friend to bring it up.
Loose example obviously. I'm not saying I'm a good person because I'll only say retard around people who aren't mentally challenged. I'm just saying that I'm not that shitty that I'd say it to someone in that group.
I guess retard doesn't hold the weight to me personally as it does others. Maybe I should Re think how I speak and what words I use. Clearly this word does hurt people as evidenced above.
I just kinda know that after I close this thread and put my phone down, chances are pretty high I'll keep saying retard now and then because it's such a normal thing to me.
A friend tried telling me about using gay and faggot in everyday use a few years back. To most ends I have removed that from my vocabulary I think. But last year he went off about how I call cigarettes fags. I'll often say I'm going for a fag or I'm outta fags or whatever. I don't see myself ever being able to stop saying. Due to both being ingrained and due to me not seeing that use as troublesome.
I really don't know what else to say on this tbh
In the US we never got a campaign to stop using the word spaz. I had only ever heard of the word being used to describe someone hyperactive, usually an uncontrollable kid. "Spaz out" might have been used one to describe someone having a mental breakdown or alluding that they feel like they are having one.
To me, it was used a lot more about 4-5 years ago, but it seems like hardly anyone uses it anymore.
Whether or not you were/are aware of a "movement" to stop it's usage, there was one. The trickle down effect would have been people not using it as frequently, and given that most people tend to follow trends it died out. For me, my parents would usually be the first to correct my ignorance - i.e - whenever I parroted harmful language or opinions because I was young and none the wiser, they would correct me. Eventually you learn to be mindful and challenge your own behaviour, or challenge the behaviour of others when appropriate.
I agree that there was a movement to phase the word out, but how successful was it? Sure spastic is no longer used anymore, but derogatory slurs for the disabled are still commonplace. As soon as spastic was phased out, another word with the same meaning replaced it. Retarded is interesting I suppose due to its longevity, but as soon as using retarded becomes taboo, another word will replace it.
Targeting words does not work unless there is a change in culture to go along with it.
Yeah, I started listening to Retronauts from a decade ago and it's nuts as I have not heard such casual use of the R-word or the C-word in a very long time. I forget the guy's name (Sharkey? Or something like that?) just tosses those words out like they're nothing. Maybe this makes me a jerk but I kind of miss being able to throw out words like that without any guilt. Restricting words like those from my lexicon was something I struggled with for a long time as I never used them literally and it was more about how they sounded which is how I would justify my use of them.
I agree that there was a movement to phase the word out, but how successful was it? Sure spastic is no longer used anymore, but derogatory slurs for the disabled are still commonplace. As soon as spastic was phased out, another word with the same meaning replaced it. Retarded is interesting I suppose due to its longevity, but as soon as using retarded becomes taboo, another word will replace it.
Targeting words does not work unless there is a change in culture to go along with it.
What is with this response lately. I've seen this a lot on GAF.
Someone makes a statement or has a thought. Reply is: Are you sure this is the hill you want to die on???
My mind was blown when I saw the r/the_donald explanation for this. Oh lordy, the cope of that subredditMy mind should be blown that this was the end of this fucker, but nah, it's not.