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Your passive aggression doesn't bother me.
I'd argue it was actually headed that way until a bunch of people decided it wasn't okay to use.
It's not passive, dickhead.
Your passive aggression doesn't bother me.
I'd argue it was actually headed that way until a bunch of people decided it wasn't okay to use.
Wouldn't u get a ban for just insulting someone in general tho? Isn't calling someone an idiot on here still ban worthy?I've received a temp ban for using the term the OP is talking about and I've seen one other person get a temp ban as well.
This place is a progressive haven in context of this topic.
Your passive aggression doesn't bother me.
For the record, I feel you and I agree in some ways. I think there's an argument to be made that for being disabled to be a negative, it's that not being able to do certain things makes a person less, which I don't think is inherently true. For example, if someone is paralyzed and in a wheel chair, they undoubtedly have less ability than able bodied people and to assert that there is something "wrong" about being disabled is kind of backhanded to certain people in that regard.
If that makes sense.
Self censorship is dumb. IMO, say the word or dont. If you say it with context it wont be offensive to anyone. Aside from that "Fuck" is a fun word.
I mean, who really cares about your opinion here, though? It already exists and is in widespread use amongst the communities in question, and it kind of suggests you don't fully "get it" if you don't recognize how that demonstrates the value and utility of the concept.
"Disabled" is actually far and away the preferred term amongst people in the disability community (both physical and mental/neurological) these days. "Differently abled" is some silly 80s shit mostly proposed by people who were not in fact disabled, and I don't think almost anyone would actually suggest it today.
FWIW, while there isn't universal consensus on this, most neurodivergent activists are opposed to people-first language, as it suggests (for example) that a "person with autism" is entirely separable from the condition, vs "autistic person" that more correctly suggests that autism is a fundamental part of the person's personality and experience.
We're on a discussion forum in a thread specifically about how and if certain words should be used. Pulling the "who cares about your opinion" card isn't very effective in this context. Talking about "universal consensus" in the same post isn't exactly helping either.
Finally, let me rephrase the "I get it" thing:
I see the point of why one would want language like this but I don't agree with it making a valuable difference. You obviously disagree and that's fine.
I understand that the mods aren't going to catch everything, but I've seen people use "retarded" before without any repercussion in reference to video games or Trump supporters or whatever without any consequence. Maybe there was and I didn't see it, idk. Seems like using a homophobic or racial slur in any context is more likely to get the banhammer dropped on you (not that people should be allowed to use those words either).I've received a temp ban for using the term the OP is talking about and I've seen one other person get a temp ban as well.
This place is a progressive haven in context of this topic.
I understand that the mods aren't going to catch everything, but I've seen people use "retarded" before without any repercussion in reference to video games or Trump supporters or whatever without any consequence. Maybe there was and I didn't see it, idk. Seems like using a homophobic or racial slur in any context is more likely to get the banhammer dropped on you (not that people should be allowed to use those words either).
I'd argue it was actually headed that way until a bunch of people decided it wasn't okay to use.
I see the point of why one would want language like this but I don't agree with it making a valuable difference.
It's just a strangely flippant and dismissive thing to say when you aren't someone who fits under these labels. Can you explain why you don't think they make a valuable difference?
My point here is that unless you have a position staked out by virtue of being a member of the affected contingent and based in lived experience, your opinion on the topic has no real innate value. The distinction exists because people with cognitive and intellectual disabilities needed a way to describe the differences they experience in their life and interaction with society. It's masturbatory for you to stake out the position that you "don't think it's necessary" or whatever, because it isn't relevant to you either way and the concept is already well-established as a valuable distinction to the people for whom it is relevant.
That wasn't passive aggressiveness. And neither will this be: The argument of "robbing" the word of its power is an absolutely tired and asinine one.
Words only have power if you allow them too. By banning a word, you are giving that word power.
Do you run around and call every African-American a nigger too? Call every LGBTQIA individual a faggot?Words only have power if you allow them too. By banning a word, you are giving that word power. The very common usage of retard without specifically being about disability means that retard is going the same way as dumb, moron and idiot. By banning the word, people who want to be deliberately​ hateful have a more powerful word to use.
Look at how the word cunt is used in America vs. UK and Australia. In the US, it is taboo to use it in almost any context, and has become a powerful swear word because of it. In the UK and US, cunt is often simply used as a synonym for idiot and stupid and has lost much of its power because of it.
Wouldn't u get a ban for just insulting someone in general tho? Isn't calling someone an idiot on here still ban worthy?
So it's all about cucking words. Got ya.Words only have power if you allow them too. By banning a word, you are giving that word power. The very common usage of retard without specifically being about disability means that retard is going the same way as dumb, moron and idiot. By banning the word, people who want to be deliberately​ hateful have a more powerful word to use.
Look at how the word cunt is used in America vs. UK and Australia. In the US, it is taboo to use it in almost any context, and has become a powerful swear word because of it. In the UK and US, cunt is often simply used as a synonym for idiot and stupid and has lost much of its power because of it.
Words only have power if you allow them too. By banning a word, you are giving that word power. The very common usage of retard without specifically being about disability means that retard is going the same way as dumb, moron and idiot. By banning the word, people who want to be deliberately​ hateful have a more powerful word to use.
Look at how the word cunt is used in America vs. UK and Australia. In the US, it is taboo to use it in almost any context, and has become a powerful swear word because of it. In the UK and US, cunt is often simply used as a synonym for idiot and stupid and has lost much of its power because of it.
That words change meaning all the time?
I'm guessing we can't use idiot, moron, dumb because there are people who are actually born that way and it's offensive to them if we use them so casually.
This post is funny because "idiot" and "moron" used to mean the same thing retard did.
Not sure why we draw the line at retard. Seems like using it a lot would rob it of any power it has, just like idiot and moron.
Yes words change. We all get that as people keep repeating that point like its sound kind of end all and be all response to this topic. Thing is today the word retard still holds a lot of very negative connotations that words like slow long ago since lost. Maybe one day in the future the word retard will be common place as idiot with none of the negativity but until that day rolls around lets try and be a little respectful to marginalized groups and those that support them here and now.
also the "autistic screeching" meme is super gross too
The word retard dates as far back as 1426. It stems from the Latin verb, retardare, meaning to hinder or make slow. The English adopted the word and used it as similar meaning, slow and delayed. The first time the word "retard" was printed in American newspapers was in 1704. At this time, it was used in a way to describe the slowing down or the diminishing of something. The first time that any form of retard was used to describe mentally disabled people was during the 1960s when "there was a push among disability advocates to use the label mental retardation". This push from advocates was because older terms for the mentally disabled, like moron, imbecile, feeble minded and idiot, had developed negative meanings. Retard was not used to refer to mentally disabled people until 1985. It was widely accepted to refer to people who are mentally disabled as mentally retarded, or as a retard. From there, it turned quickly into a pejorative term, as people began to use it interchangeably with words like stupid, or idiot.
One of the few bad words that I actively took out of my vocabulary. When I was young and stupid I used it far too often. I've completely cut it out along with using gay as a derogatory term. Not proud of it in the least but I can admit it. I still probably swear too often but now it's limited to the left offensive ones, "fuck, shit, etc"
Making fun of the word autistic is what's more popular among children now
Yeah, this is the big one in online awful game chat. It's been around for decades, but now it feels like the common, "accepted" (meaning, "easy to get away with because I'm an asshole") new way among teenage bros to call someone the r-word.Making fun of the word autistic is what's more popular among children now
I definitely see people using it a bit more, but it's like saying "faggot" or "cunt". It makes everyone slightly uncomfortable for a moment and it gives an impression to others about your inner morals/ethics real quickly
Do you run around and call every African-American a nigger too? Call every LGBTQIA individual a faggot?
What some people perceive as intellectual laziness and justifying bad behavior is actually you being a hero!!!
So it's all about cucking words. Got ya.
Spastic/spaz got wiped out in the UK after years of use. People stopped using it because they knew better, and it fell out of use completely.
This is a positive change, it worked, and people didn't suddenly want to use that banned, nuclear-bomb level word. They grew up, the adults as well as the kids. At least a little bit.
I think we all get where you're coming from, but this is an example where I think a person should examine why they act in a different, mean-spirited way with certain people while keeping up appearances to others. Why even keep up those appearances? It implies you know what you're doing but won't change anyway. Shady shit, imo, I wouldn't be able to reconcile my behavioral differences with my moral compass (which is why I changed A LOT after college).Me and all my friends use it still. I don't really see it as a slur.
I wouldn't call a mentally challenged person a retard obviously. But when my friend does something stupid I'll call him a retard. Or describe something as retarded.
People never stopped using it.
Yes, I am from the UK and was part of the generation born in the 80s who used the word spastic. At the time SCOPE was known as the spastic's society, and like retard, is a legitimate medical term.
Has the usage of spastic stopped because of a movement to restrict its usage, or has the word simply dropped out of favour as many words do?
I remember the term special being used after spastic fell out of favour, and now that term is no longer heard either, but there was no movement to stop its usage. The unfortunate fact is that whatever word is used to describe the neurodivergent, as described in the OP, becomes an insult. If people in the playground start calling each other neurodivergent, do you this ban this term, and then continually try to find another?
I think the side-effect of trying to get people to stop using a word is you are also educating them on why. I remember special as well, but not for that long and not to the degree spastic was being thrown around, and maybe the reason it did fall out of favour is because it was already damaged.
If there was a real pushback against retard, you'd get the same effect. Retard casually opens the door to it all while it is still around.
It's something I've been noticing this year. People online (and in "real life") seem to be using "retard" or "retarded" in greater frequency recently. I don't know if there's been any official NeoGAF policy change in this regard but I assumed this forum was a place for relatively diverse discourse that refrained from personal attacks.
I'm not mentally handicapped in any way. With that said, I work with children and young adults who may be on the spectrum or intellectually handicapped. When I talk to them, I notice that some of their refuges seem to be gaming communities. These are their "safe spaces"; places where they express themselves in earnest. It disheartens me to see places like NeoGAF (and every other gaming forum, let's be real) devolve into places that mock any and every sort of neurodivergence. I don't want to pick on any individual poster (let's be real AGAIN, it's been an overarching trend that I've noticed) using less than inclusive language, but I just wanted some of your thoughts.
In the wake of the 2016 election, we have been discussing identity politics in regards to race and gender, but I honestly believe there hasn't been enough focus on neurodivergency. Yeah "Trump mocked a disabled reporter" was a hot headline for a few days, but now that he's president, what exactly does that signify for the populace that might need assistance in that manner? Are we becoming so desensitized to Trump's behavior that we start to accept the R-slur even in progressive havens like NeoGAF?
Look at Lame, and Idiot both words used for disabilities. They aren't slurs anymore, still insulting to an extent but words evolved I guess. Lame and Idiot/Idiotic/Idiocy are said by many many people here yet there seems to be no issue with it.