I agree that online dating is hard, but that picture is a great example of online dating being easy. Girl is a jerk who is not worth your time. Boom, saved you the trouble of finding out the slow way.
Good point.
I agree that online dating is hard, but that picture is a great example of online dating being easy. Girl is a jerk who is not worth your time. Boom, saved you the trouble of finding out the slow way.
I play 10-15 hours of games a week and my wife likes giving me a BJ whilst playing.
I guess I lucked out?
Edit: We met online
How do you have that much time?!
Ask these women if they have ever spent 8 hours marathoning a TV series on Netflix. The gamer is actually using their head/reflexes. Hypocrites.
How do you have that much time?!
8 hours in front of the tv is too long also.
I've probably gotten 500 matches in the past year. Of those, maybe 100 led to any conversation. Of those, 20 or so led to actual dates. Of those, 5 had follow up dates. Girls are extremely fickele in online dating because it's so easy to look for someone better (and there always will be someone better). I love how the 2 girls who I hooked up with said tgey we'rent looking for a hook up but then said that's exactly what they were looking for. I'm not sure what I'm ranting about but I think online dating is kind of a sham because it obviates the natural sequence of how relationships really develop so every interaction that stems from an online date always feels incredibly tenuous, even if there is some kind of connection upon meeting. Wheras irl if two people connect there's a feeling of actually wanting to be together.
Fair enough, more power to you. I don't think I'll have like 10+ hours of a week to dedicate to games when I get married and working a good job, so I'm kind of jealousTime to play games? When I come home from work I do chores whilst making dinner, watch TV until around 10 then play games for a couple of hours (wife usually goes to bed). At weekends I would play a game from 11 to 3am/4am.
I never have problems in the beginning phases.
But so many dates I get online end up like this for some reason.
Me: Hey, nice meeting you yesterday.
Her: (5 minutes later) Yes it was so much fun! We definitely have to do it again sometime
Next week
Me: Let's get together this Friday if you have time
Her: (2 days later) SO SORRY BUSY FOREVER
It's a mindfuck. I seriously barely dated anyone for five months after the last time it happened to me. I had a great date earlier this week and I think it's happening again (don't wanna jump to conclusions since she just started a new job but given past experiences... )
At least on okcupid you can see all the girls. Why do they limit you from seeing girls Ike it's some freemium game?Nah, Bumble is legit. Its just up to the girls to initiate a conversation.
What kind of message do you send them?It's also pretty annoying when they say on their profile stuff like "send me a message!". And when you do, they may read it, but not reply back.
They do try to get you to pay for premium service. Sort of like Tinder with limited likes but unlimited with premium.At least on okcupid you can see all the girls. Why do they limit you from seeing girls Ike it's some freemium game?
It's also pretty annoying when they say on their profile stuff like "send me a message!". And when you do, they may read it, but not reply back.
What kind of message do you send them?
Send better messages.
Or be better looking/take better photos
Nah, Bumble is legit. Its just up to the girls to initiate a conversation.
Send better messages.
How do you meet someone on Periscope? LolSkip the questions on OKcupid that you don't like.
The trick is to be on every dating website and app there is.
I met my girlfriend on perioscope.
I figure if I'm single again I'll try chaturbate next time.
some people actually criticize that aspect of efficiency because they feel it removes the "romantic" component of datingI agree that online dating is hard, but that picture is a great example of online dating being easy. Girl is a jerk who is not worth your time. Boom, saved you the trouble of finding out the slow way.
Never a bad idea.
I think online dating as a phenomenon is incredibly interesting. I do think it kind of messes with our heads a little bit, and in the end it's probably better to meet someone the good old fashioned way.
Indeed.In the end online dating really solidifies old-school gender roles where men are the pursuers and women are the one's being courted, but on a bigger scale than ever and from the anonymity of a computer/phone screen.
That seems low.
How did you calculate this number?
At least on okcupid you can see all the girls. Why do they limit you from seeing girls Ike it's some freemium game?
This is some back-of-a-napkin math so it is by no means absolute, but this was how I whittled it down to that number:
Let's say you're using tinder and you swipe right on about 1 out of every 50 people. That's close to my ratio, and I think that's probably pretty close for most people who don't just swipe right on everyone. Obviously it will vary from person to person but I'm just estimating here.
So we're already down to a 1 in 50 chance.
Then let's say 1 out of every 10 people who you swipe right on also swipes right on you.
Now our odds are 1 in 500. These are the people that we've "matched" with.
Then let's say of those we've matched with, one out of every 5 actually responds to messages and agrees to meet up in person. So now we're at 1 out of every 2500 people. (I'm pushing the limits of my godawful math skills here so feel free to correct me).
And then I assume that once you meet up with someone in person, after the rigorous process that preceded all this, there's a roughly 50/50 chance of there being a genuine connection that carries on for at least a few months. And that brings us to 1 in 5000.
Should also be noted that I'm coming from a guy's perspective. I assume women generally have more matches/opportunities to meet up. Then again, once you filter out the creeps maybe the odds more or less even out. This is also from a heterosexual perspective, I'm really not sure how the odds would differ in regard to any LGBTQ relationships.
I'd rather be forever alone than with any of the women who have messaged me on dating sites or similar these past few years. No offence to these women, I'm sure there's a guy out there for them but I just don't think he's on online dating... and my women most likely won't be either.
It's a game of looks and first impressions, which 99% of the population are shit at (yes both parts) and thats why dating/social media is terrible for this sort of thing. I'd way prefer if you met as strangers, no photos and slowly talked and the more messages you shared the more unblured/visable a photo would become. Then all conversations can start and develop as friendships, rather than a large majority of guys just asking to fuck or having terrible opening lines.
I find it hard to talk to women who's first messages to me are things like "Do you like noodles? because i'd like to suck yours" and "I heard gingers are crazy in bed, want to help me find out?" -- I just hate that sort of conversation, sure forward/confident women are hot but none of these women have ticked my boxes and I'm way happier alone with my puppy than I would be with them.
I find it hard to talk to women who's first messages to me are things like "Do you like noodles? because i'd like to suck yours" and "I heard gingers are crazy in bed, want to help me find out?" -- I just hate that sort of conversation, sure forward/confident women are hot but none of these women have ticked my boxes and I'm way happier alone with my puppy than I would be with them.
It's a game of looks and first impressions
What the fuck women are messaging you and how do I meet them?
Wtf, all I ever get is the generic "hey" from girls who don't know how to start a conversation.
So...it's basically like real life?
I'll never understand the complaints about the superficial-ness of online dating. Sad but true, that's how it works both online and in person. If anything, programs like Tinder make it easier because you know the person you're attracted to at least thinks you're attractive too even before you "approach" them. Beyond that, it's essentially the same as in the real world.
Offline: you go to a party or club or wherever. You see a girl you think is cute. You approach her. Maybe she thinks you're cute too, maybe she shuts you down.
Online: you swipe on a girl you think is cute. You get to contact her if she thinks you're cute too.
Basically, for most people, looks ARE the first sign of attraction, so I don't see how online is any worse than in person in that regard.
So...it's basically like real life?
I'll never understand the complaints about the superficial-ness of online dating. Sad but true, that's how it works both online and in person.
Met my now wife on OKC.
The first person I actually met after talking to several.
Miracles can happen I guess. But I am very happy that I didn't have to get obsessed with the dating scene
Eugh, the usual video game double standards.
Spend a day off binging Netflix? Nice!
Spend a day off binging games? Pathetic.
Some stigmas'll never leave, OP.
I guess Hull and Birmingham are full of crazy women?