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[iKeepPlaying]

more testosterone gives you a confidence boost and even helps your ability to concentrate on mental tasks.

If this is true I'll chop my penis. Seriously.

 

[Spokker]

Jerking off with your eyes closed and without porn is like fucking your girlfriend with your eyes closed. Either way, I want visual stimuli.

 

[Esch]

If this is true I'll chop my penis. Seriously.

Then where would your testosterone be secreted from?

 

[Mailenstein]

Having sex with women is like eating.
Masturbating is like drinking.

Can't live with only one of these.

 

[grap3fruitman]

EXTREME RAPE PORN. Come on, seriously?

He's probably just mistaking all the crying in Japanese porn for rape.

 

[Nemesis121]

You don't understand,
♫
I make love to my hand♫

So you don't worry honey ♫

I'll beat that dick like it owes me money ♫

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TZHTFsw2Eqg

 

[Huevos de Oro]

Then where would your testosterone be secreted from?

His balls?

 

[Dead Man]

Yes, but he's saying "get another partner"... Just like that. On the grounds that he/she can't do the shit that porn does for him/her. Isn't that supposed to be bad? Sounds like you're giving up a relationship for an addiction. Sounds like the mentality of an addict... Sounds like denial, really.

Porn desensitizes you. Period.

No, I think you missed my point. I watch porn with my partner, she is not desensitised, and I don't seem to be. Some others may be. It's is not universal. I can agree the effect exists, without agreeing it is universal. Same as other addictions.

 

[cooljeanius]

Is anxiety really the cause? Here's a simple test: Try to masturbate (alone) using no porn and no fantasy—only sensual touch.

No porn is easy, but no fantasy? Wouldn't sensual touch trigger a fantasy in the mind? Maybe I just have an overactive imagination...

 

[iKeepPlaying]

Then where would your testosterone be secreted from?

You know, my penis does a lot of things. It wakes me up, it makes me uncomfortable sometimes or just stays there to remind me that I'm still a man. But one thing is sure, it does not secrete testosterone.

Edit: Beaten. Damn you SteelAttack.

 

[sajj316]

It's really about frequency of watching porn and masturbating than it is about porn and masturbation. If you've squeezed two out before dinner and than you're partner wants to get things going .. of course you're doing to have some sort of dysfunction. Anxiety is due to the inability of getting the job down.

 

[Something Wicked]

The article is saying that these ED problems are not only psychological, but quite physiological. Watching porn causes a constant flow of dopamine, which is necessary to signal an erection; and over time, one's body can become desensitized to the dopamine itself.

 

[Naked Snake]

The article is saying that these ED problems are not only psychological, but quite physiological. Watching porn causes a constant flow of dopamine, which is necessary to signal an erection; and over time, one's body can become desensitized to the dopamine itself.

Yes that was the most interesting part of the article... definitely worrisome if you ask me. Messing up dopamine is serious business.

 

[Davedough]

You know, my wife had never heard of Ron Jeremy, so I quickly went to the internet to show her what the fuss was about with him. Got to one video and the entire time he was doing his thing with the woman, he had to fist clinch the base of his penis to keep it hard. It was actually kind of sad.

 

[seattle6418]

I think that explains some of the things i was wondering.

Regular porn bores me very fast, and i´m always skipping scenes, finding new ones, etc...

Was with a girl saturday and we we´re running on a tight schedule, first one was good, a bit fast, but i couldn´t get up for the second 10-15 minutes late. I know this varies from people to people, but this has happeend to me three times, and everytime, when i get back home and take a shower, a manage to jerk off.

I mean, it does have something to do with naked girls becoming normal. When you are young and don´t see it often, everytime you see a pussy it´s a instant turn on.

I think on that front too much of porn will definately mess you up. Since i´m still 29, i think slower, more flacid erections are linked to this.

I´ll try to break from porn for a week or two to see the results afterwards (when meeting with a real life girl).

 

[RDreamer]

Strange. I'll admit I'm probably hopelessly addicted to porn and masturbation (like 3 times per day), and I really need to cut down, but I have no problem whatsoever getting it up with girls. I'm usually at the ready at even a mention of sex with someone. It's kind of crazy. That and I stay hard for long after I'm done with sex.

Though I'm kind of weird and I barely get turned on by porn anymore. I only seem to do it out of habit from boredom when I'm home alone. Sex, however, still turns me on greatly.

 

[Kuro Madoushi]

Interesting stuff. I'd also add porn has affected sociological expectations.

Girls MUST be shaved or trimmed. The amount of bitching about Japanese girls and their hair down there.
Girls normally give BJs. Never met one that admitted to hating it, it's kinda considered normal, no?
Only uncut dicks are normal dicks...yes, I went there. Some girls just don't like the 'look'. Why?
Sex should last a long time (avg is quite short)

...have I phrased these points inoffensively enough for Google overlords? :/

 

[samus i am]

Strange, I always thought delayed ejaculation was a good thing. However, I once dated a girl that was very fond of quickies. We would be at a party and after a few drinks she would tell me that she wanted it right there. We would find a place, but once we get going I found it difficult to finish in a timely manner. It would take me concentrating incredibly hard to finish in under 5 minutes. In any other circumstance however, being a minute man is not exactly going to do the trick for most women.

 

[The Incarnation]

Yes that was the most interesting part of the article... definitely worrisome if you ask me. Messing up dopamine is serious business.

Which when lacking can also trigger depression and social anxiety, especially around women. /edit I might add that excessive porn use can warp a person's view of women. So the goal of having sex with them usurps the goal of connecting with them first.

When one stops masturbating for awhile especially to porn they tend to become more confident and outgoing, more so in the case of pursuing females. Again this is linked to the increase of testosterone as well. People have said they feel like they've become the person they want to be, without actually really changing anything about themselves. In a nutshell more comfortable in their own skin, which also makes women more receptive to them.

What causes the addiction to porn, along with addictions like gambling is a build up of the chemical in the brain called deltafosb.

Interesting topic. Not all experiences are the same, but a good percentage of people tend to display problems after 10 plus years of internet porn use, and in most cases daily.

 

[boundedseven]

This was a case for me, but I deleted everything I had and started again with SOFT porn. And it totally works.

I can't stand any of that throat choking shit. I need to feel a connection with the performing artist!

Could you make some recommendations. You can PM me

 

[Sennorin]

Interesting stuff. I'd also add porn has affected sociological expectations.

Girls MUST be shaved or trimmed. The amount of bitching about Japanese girls and their hair down there.
Girls normally give BJs. Never met one that admitted to hating it, it's kinda considered normal, no?
Only uncut dicks are normal dicks...yes, I went there. Some girls just don't like the 'look'. Why?
Sex should last a long time (avg is quite short)

...have I phrased these points inoffensively enough for Google overlords? :/

sounds good to me

 

[besada]

Huh. I've been looking at porn for close to thirty years and never really had those problems. The first time I had to deal with delayed ejaculation was when was on Lexapro.

 

[bluemax]

If lasting longer is better than why is delayed ejaculation a bad thing? Also just don't masturbate for a couple days and you'll be good to go again.

It can be detrimental when your gf thinks you can only get off to porn and you don't find her sufficiently attractive.

I hate to admit it but it was a huge barrier in my last relationship.

Anywho 3 months to go back to normal? Sounds like a challenge.

 

[Radec]

hmmn.. this kinda bothers me.

Lately I've been jerking off like 5 times a week (I know some people do more) and the last time I've been with a girl was like a month ago where while we're at it, my dick keeps getting soft for no reason. At first it was like, "oh, ok, I removed the condom then she massaged it first so it'll get hard, it did then here comes condom #2. she puts it in her, then after I pulled it out so we can change position, my dick turned soft again. We we're like "what the fuck?" so yeah, my condoms are all gone and long story short, I end up finishing from a fucking hand job. Oh and I never hear from her again lol.

I know I had a drink before that but still, it was really not normal for me to be like that. I hated it. No idea that porn can do this to me lol. I guess I better lessen it..

 

[Deleted member 81567]

How much do people masturbate to get to this point?

 

[The Elite]

I know this problem. If I plan a date later in the week, there is no porn or masturbation for me. I'll hold off and see how things progress on the date.

I'm so far ahead of the curve that I can only get turned on by real women, and not pornography any more.

Excessive porn users: Use more porn.

This post confuses me. Should I use more porn, or stop using porn so that real women turn me on?

 

[jmdajr]

hmmn.. this kinda bothers me.

Lately I've been jerking off like 5 times a week (I know some people do more) and the last time I've been with a girl was like a month ago where while we're at it, my dick keeps getting soft for no reason. At first it was like, "oh, ok, I removed the condom then she massaged it first so it'll get hard, it did then here comes condom #2. she puts it in her, then after I pulled it out so we can change position, my dick turned soft again. We we're like "what the fuck?" so yeah, my condoms are all gone and long story short, I end up finishing from a fucking hand job. Oh and I never hear from her again lol.

I know I had a drink before that but still, it was really not normal for me to be like that. I hated it. No idea that porn can do this to me lol. I guess I better lessen it..

Condoms are the biggest boner killer in the world. Don't feel bad about it.

 

[spiderman123]

Listen, its all in your head. You can do it but its just that the woman your having sex with doesn't have the watermelon titties or the ass of a dinosaur. Just give yourself a break from porn. Don't jerk off, I know it's hard but when your finally ready for round 2 with your woman, it will be worth it.

 

[Brobzoid]

This post confuses me. Should I use more porn, or stop using porn so that real women turn me on?

both.

 

[The Elite]

How much do people masturbate to get to this point?

I've jerked off twice since the start of this thread. Going to a pool party/BBQ later.

 

[Deleted member 81567]

hmmn.. this kinda bothers me.

Lately I've been jerking off like 5 times a week (I know some people do more) and the last time I've been with a girl was like a month ago where while we're at it, my dick keeps getting soft for no reason. At first it was like, "oh, ok, I removed the condom then she massaged it first so it'll get hard, it did then here comes condom #2. she puts it in her, then after I pulled it out so we can change position, my dick turned soft again. We we're like "what the fuck?" so yeah, my condoms are all gone and long story short, I end up finishing from a fucking hand job. Oh and I never hear from her again lol.

I know I had a drink before that but still, it was really not normal for me to be like that. I hated it. No idea that porn can do this to me lol. I guess I better lessen it..

This has happened to me too with my girlfriend lately. Just don't masturbate if you are expecting sex sometime that week and I guarantee it'll never happen again.

I've jerked off twice since the start of this thread. Going to a pool party/BBQ later.

Planning to fap there too?

 

[Carlisle]

Real, warm flesh beats my cold hand and illuminated LCD pixels any day.

 

[SmokyDave]

This post confuses me. Should I use more porn, or stop using porn so that real women turn me on?

1; Watch porn until real women and genuine sex no longer turn you on.
2; Have a bunch of porn sex with real women (careful with this step, willing partners only)
3; Watch a shit-load more porn.
4; Gasp in delight as genuine sex with real women becomes your new fetish.

Worked for me. I fucked my way through the filth and came out the other side.

 

[FlyingTeacup]

I've jerked off twice since the start of this thread. Going to a pool party/BBQ later.

haha

 

[bangai-o]

isnt delayed ejaculation a good thing?

 

[The Elite]

1; Watch porn until real women and genuine sex no longer turn you on.
2; Have a bunch of porn sex with real women (careful with this step, willing partners only)
3; Watch a shit-load more porn.
4; Gasp in delight as genuine sex with real women becomes your new fetish.

Worked for me. I fucked my way through the filth and came out the other side.

A fascinating approach.

 

[spiderman123]

isnt delayed ejaculation a good thing?

no, from a girls perspective, I hope.

edit: not a girl btw

 

[Always-honest]

Seems logical

 

[Deleted member 81567]

isnt delayed ejaculation a good thing?

Well not after she's done.

 

[SmokyDave]

A fascinating approach.

I take pride in my hobby. I knew exactly where the clitoris and all associated nerves were long before a real woman would let me have a twiddle. I also spent a lot of my early teens reading explicit porn written by lesbians, you get some killer tips that way.

Still, I've no doubts that porn fucks with your head.

isnt delayed ejaculation a good thing?

Delayed until she comes? Yeah. Delayed too much longer? Depends on the woman, some will happily come again, some will mentally compose a shopping list whilst wishing you'd hurry up.

but delaying ejaculation means extending a four minute grunt fest into a 6 minuter.... should be a good thing. no?

Just count the cigarette afterwards. That's how I clocked up my 10 minute marathon.

 

[bangai-o]

no, from a girls perspective, I hope.

edit: not a girl btw

but delaying ejaculation means extending a four minute grunt fest into a 6 minuter.... should be a good thing. no?

 

[spiderman123]

Still, I've no doubts that porn fucks with your head.

Yah it's kindda hard, especially when your sexing up a 500 pound woman only to have a the image of Emma Watson on your mind.

 

[sajj316]

hmmn.. this kinda bothers me.

Lately I've been jerking off like 5 times a week (I know some people do more) and the last time I've been with a girl was like a month ago where while we're at it, my dick keeps getting soft for no reason. At first it was like, "oh, ok, I removed the condom then she massaged it first so it'll get hard, it did then here comes condom #2. she puts it in her, then after I pulled it out so we can change position, my dick turned soft again. We we're like "what the fuck?" so yeah, my condoms are all gone and long story short, I end up finishing from a fucking hand job. Oh and I never hear from her again lol.

I know I had a drink before that but still, it was really not normal for me to be like that. I hated it. No idea that porn can do this to me lol. I guess I better lessen it..

You're story happened to me and I'm willing to bet it happens to a lot of men. Trying to have an active sexual life with a partner and yourself is pretty difficult. We aren't all porn stars nor should we think we are (agree with the social expectations due to porn). Even porn stars are popping pills to keep it up.

Reduce porn. Reduce masturbating. This helps.

Condoms are boner killers, I agree .. but .. my wife and I are expecting our third child and that's after a night of passion w/o the condom. Unexpected but happily accepting of the result.

 

[Carlisle]

I take pride in my hobby. I knew exactly where the clitoris and all associated nerves were long before a real woman would let me have a twiddle. I also spent a lot of my early teens reading explicit porn written by lesbians, you get some killer tips that way.

Still, I've no doubts that porn fucks with your head.

All the best stuff I know about pleasing a woman is from watching lesbian porn and it seems to be working out. Those lesbians sure know their way around a vagina.

 

[The Elite]

I take pride in my hobby. I knew exactly where the clitoris and all associated nerves were long before a real woman would let me have a twiddle. I also spent a lot of my early teens reading explicit porn written by lesbians, you get some killer tips that way.

Still, I've no doubts that porn fucks with your head.


Delayed until she comes? Yeah. Delayed too much longer? Depends on the woman, some will happily come again, some will mentally compose a shopping list whilst wishing you'd hurry up.

I spent my early teens jerking off to the sexuality section of the Encyclopedia Britannica. I didn't even have a Sears Catalogue nearby. Once I finally had access to porn, around 17-18, it was all down hill from there.

 

[-viper-]

Thankfully I never watch porn. A colossal waste of time.

 

[Plasmid]

I remember a CSI episode being about this like 5 years ago :lol

 

[bangai-o]

Thankfully I never watch porn. A colossal waste of time.

what do you do?

 

[besada]

Delayed until she comes? Yeah. Delayed too much longer? Depends on the woman, some will happily come again, some will mentally compose a shopping list whilst wishing you'd hurry up.

Delayed until there's chafing is the real problem. One of the side effects of Lexapro is anorgasmia. You're like a perpetually unstoppable stallion, and at first you're thinking "I am the God of hellfire!" but later you're thinking "I just want to fucking stop now. I don't care if I came or not, I just want to stop."

 

[sublime085]

I've been struggling with this for about a year now. I've heard about cutting out the porn, but I cracked like 10 days into it. Its frustrating when your partner comes three times and you haven't even busted once.

I guess I really have to give a proper go at it. I definitely hit that decreased libido part and I wanted to masturbate to see if it still worked! I guess now that I know that will happen I'll just try and tough it out. Sexual dysfunction is no fun. And can be brutal on your ego.