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If you agreed to the wedding and the bride paid, youre a bad friend if you bail
If you agreed to the wedding and the bride paid, youre a bad friend if you bail
If you agreed to the wedding and the bride paid, youre a bad friend if you bail
If you agreed to the wedding and the bride paid, youre a bad friend if you bail
Sounds awesome. My girl and I have always said we'd save on the wedding and just go to the courthouse and have a dope honeymoon somewhere, but, who knows? They just seem stressful as shit, for absolutely no reason. Like, who does this to themselves on purpose?
Wedding imo. Nothing better than getting drunk on someone else's dime.
It's bad planning first and foremost, but how shitty it is really depends on how close the friendship is. Though if they did RSVP, then they fucked up and there really isn't a good excuse.
People seem to be really hung up on the RSVP as if it's a unbreakable commitment. I personally feel that it is okay to break the commitment if the conditions are important enough even if there was a foreseeable possibility of not being able to attend. Should someone really avoid going to a wedding for the unlikely probability that something may happen? I don't think that alternative is good either.
For example, a friend of mine planned their wedding within three weeks of my wife giving birth. They certainly couldn't have planned around that since it wasn't known at the time when they planned the wedding and booked the place. Should I have committed to skipping the wedding on the off chance that my wife could possibly go into labor early? That seems extreme too. This is a situation where we knew the baby was coming, there was a low probability of her going into labor, but still possible, and an important life event. The way some of you make it sound, unless I know for sure 100% I can make it, I shouldn't RSVP and miss out. And before someone asks, yes I do think the sporting event seems to be a big enough of a deal to not skip out on based on what has been presented about the scale and scope of the league.
Child birth is kind of a different affair than an amateur sports event. I don't think anyone would fault someone for missing a wedding because their SO was in labor.
A large stadium with a crowds of up to 70k people seems like a pretty big deal to me for the whole team to forfeit.
Also, what if she was no longer in labor? Like say she gave birth a day or two before? I still don't think I'd go.
It's only shitty if they don't reimburse her.I still think it's shitty to RSVP with the knowledge that a large group of people may not honor that because of an event that you have prior knowledge of. 16-18 wedding guests not showing up probably cost the couple a lot of money that could/should have been prevented. They owe them a huge gift in compensation.
The child thing is fine. That's 2 people with an important life event, not a huge group with larger financial consequences over an event probably dated months in advance. That should not be a last minute cancellation.
I still think it's shitty to RSVP with the knowledge that a large group of people may not honor that because of an event that you have prior knowledge of. 16-18 wedding guests not showing up probably cost the couple a lot of money that could/should have been prevented. They owe them a huge gift in compensation.
The child thing is fine even within a week.
It's only shitty if they don't reimburse her.
Okay, let's say it wasn't giving birth though. Let's say I RSVP'd and then my kid got offered a once in a lifetime experience that we didn't know until afterward. I'd break the commitment still because of the importance to her. I think if the event is important enough, it's totally understandable to break the commitment. For these people, this clearly falls under that criteria and it could be a once in a lifetime event. The people planning the wedding had to know this was a possibility too. Plus it sounds like their grief isn't with their friends but with the hotel because they want to break the contract that the signed and knew well in advance of what was their obligation was.
This analogy doesn't work because the problem here is the scale. If you and 20 people had to cancel, then I think you owe the wedding couple something because you likely just fucked them over.
Well it wasn't brought up in our dialogue.And I said they should reimburse them for the room numerous times.
I started this off blaming the poor wedding planning so I'm in agreement here.We also shouldn't be letting the wedding party off the hook for inviting a whole team and knowing they had a contractual obligation to a large amount of rooms. That's a risk they took knowing what could happen when they booked the place.
I've been to weddings with a "cash bar"