I just finished watching the finale about a hour ago.
I watched seasons 1-5 live, but the season 6 DVD has been literally sitting on my shelf for 3 years. I did the same thing with season 5 of The Wire. Sometimes I just don't want a series to end. :lol
Anyway, I managed to avoid the Sopranos ending spoiler for over 3 years, which is no small feat, so I'm quite proud of myself.
I actually liked the ending. I thought it was fitting to have a somewhat ambiguous ending for this kind of series. As soon as I finished watching it, I was in the "anxiety" camp for the ending interpretation. A "hit" on Tony at that point in time didn't really seem to make sense since he basically had a cease-fire with NY. Also all the previous hit jobs were the amateur hour. The member's only jacket guy would have been way too methodically for a supposed unsanctioned hit.
My initial interpretation was that we were getting a sense of Tony's anxiety. Ultimately he was most likely going to be in a court room fairly soon. A.J. is still a mess and will probably end up back in hospital. Meadow has continually made fun of her mom for being dependent on a man. Yet, Meadow has repeatedly altered her career decisions based on what her boyfriends are doing at a given time. Like Tony was telling Dr. Melfi, she's probably just going to have a career for a couple years until she starts popping out babies. She could very well end up being very close to what Carmela is.
Anyway but after reading online, the "death" interpretation also has very strong merit. There is some foreshadowing of it and the crews and families are basically in disarray at the end. It's possible someone might have wanted to do some "house-cleaning" before the trial gets started. Though I still think that part is a stretch because Tony is a boss, not some underling who could flip easily. But Paulie definitely was acting a bit strange toward the end. Though I think he was more concerned with his own mortality than climbing up the ladder.
So IMO, the symbolisms support the "death" theory, but the plot supports "anxiety".
Btw, was anybody else sad to see the Tony/Dr Melfi relationship dissolve like that? It was like Melfi saying, "The last 7 years have been a total waste". Though who knows, if Tony is indeed still alive maybe Melfi will have more "patient abandonment" dreams and she'll take him back. It did sound like she was manipulated by Dr. Elliot.
All in all, I liked the second half of season 6. The first part dragged on a bit but it was still decent. For me, seasons 4 & 5 were the weakest. At the end of those seasons, I didn't feel like the show really went anywhere. Just a bunch of stuff happened.