No. It's rude and annoying.
Nobody smiles all the time so telling someone to smile is obnoxious.
I've never been told by a stranger to smile, but they probably mean when making eye contact with someone (or greeting them).
No. It's rude and annoying.
Nobody smiles all the time so telling someone to smile is obnoxious.
No. It's rude and annoying.
Nobody smiles all the time so telling someone to smile is obnoxious.
The issue is we don't need to cheer up.
Not smiling does not equal sad. Don't patronise me with some pseudo therapy shite.(not you the smile demanding guys)
I've been sitting at my desk doing work or just thinking and been told to "smile".I've never been told by a stranger to smile, but they probably mean when making eye contact with someone (or greeting them).
Again, you're overthinking. They don't want you smiling all the time, nor do they expect you. It's not an order. They just want to brighten up your day. You don't have to smile at all. You can just look at them.
Of course, I guess we just have different perspectives on things. I try not to sweat the small stuff.
I don't do it, but it has happened to me, and I don't find it weird or creepy at all. It's not an order or a demand, they just want to cheer you up a bit. Smiling shows a positive appearance, which is more likely to get a positive response around you, thus giving you a better day.
Seriously, you guys are thinking about this too much. If you don't want to smile, then fine, don't.
I don't do it, but it has happened to me, and I don't find it weird or creepy at all. It's not an order or a demand, they just want to cheer you up a bit. Smiling shows a positive appearance, which is more likely to get a positive response around you, thus giving you a better day.
Seriously, you guys are thinking about this too much. If you don't want to smile, then fine, don't.
I don't do it, but it has happened to me, and I don't find it weird or creepy at all. It's not an order or a demand, they just want to cheer you up a bit. Smiling shows a positive appearance, which is more likely to get a positive response around you, thus giving you a better day.
Seriously, you guys are thinking about this too much. If you don't want to smile, then fine, don't.
Wishing someone a good day is completely different.Jeez you guys are a grumpy bunch.
It's like saying "Have a good day!", but weirder. No one is trying to be an asshole in saying it, would it hurt just to flash a smile and go about your day knowing that someone cared to interact with you?
Certainly it is. It's stated in the imperative verb form, making it an order.
Also, if they wanted to cheer me up, they would do so when I cock my head to the side and reply "say something funny".
Jeez you guys are a grumpy bunch.
It's like saying "Have a good day!", but weirder. No one is trying to be an asshole in saying it, would it hurt just to flash a smile and go about your day knowing that someone cared to interact with you?
Wishing someone a good day is completely different.
I don't do it, but it has happened to me, and I don't find it weird or creepy at all. It's not an order or a demand, they just want to cheer you up a bit. Smiling shows a positive appearance, which is more likely to get a positive response around you, thus giving you a better day.
Seriously, you guys are thinking about this too much. If you don't want to smile, then fine, don't.
Again, you're overthinking. They don't want you smiling all the time, nor do they expect you. It's not an order. They just want to brighten up your day. You don't have to smile at all. You can just look at them.
Of course, I guess we just have different perspectives on things. I try not to sweat the small stuff.
Ok, fine, you don't want to be cheered up, because that's just how you are and it's fine. I'm like that, too, sometimes.
But how about as a greeting. I've been told to smile as I pass someone I know instead of a hello. The guy didn't care if I smiled, and just kept walking. Would you smile/be offended by that?
Jeez you guys are a grumpy bunch.
It's like saying "Have a good day!", but weirder. No one is trying to be an asshole in saying it, would it hurt just to flash a smile and go about your day knowing that someone cared to interact with you?
Something tells me you don't understand the difference between actual positive messages and selfish demands.
"I hope you have a good day" is different than "have a good day". One is a wish, the other is an order... of sorts, like telling someone to smile.
Some people just have a non-smiley resting face. It's annoying to hear random people tell you to smile. Who just randomly smiles anyway?
And then there are some guys that like to use it as a pick-up line and it's just... nope. lol
Try having it happen all the damned time. 'Smile, sweetheart, it can't be that bad!' 'You'd be prettier if you smiled!'
You know what? My purpose in life is not to look pleasing to your eye. Kindly fuck off.
I'm glad we got that out of the way. Thanks for pointing it out.
Cheer up, guys. Life is good.
Jeez you guys are a grumpy bunch.
It's like saying "Have a good day!", but weirder. No one is trying to be an asshole in saying it, would it hurt just to flash a smile and go about your day knowing that someone cared to interact with you?
I actually have a pretty angry normal face. I'm often asked if I'm angry, to which I have to assure them I'm not, and that I was just thinking. I can understand if it happens a lot. Most things would become annoying if it keeps happening.
I really think you're looking at that the wrong way, but even so, just let it slide over you. I used to get angry at the smallest remark, but I've learned to be more mellow and aloof, and honestly, I feel better. You gotta look at things in a positive way. People aren't always thinking about themselves.
Have a good day is seen as a wish not a demand even if linguistically it isn't."I hope you have a good day" is different than "have a good day". One is a wish, the other is an order... of sorts, like telling someone to smile.
Real sorry to hear about your friend. My condolences."My dog just died" is my automatic response to these people.
I had someone do this to me the day after my best friend died and revealing this information made him feel like shit.
edit: now I feel like shit thinking about my friend. Fuck.
Going by this logic, I can walk up to anyone I want and tell them that they need to get a haircut, take a bath, change their clothes, etc. without being an asshole.
You have no clue what could being going on in that person's life. Do you tell someone that just had their mother die the day before to smile? That's what you could potentially be doing when telling random people to smile. It's a thoughtless and selfish remark.
You sound bitter. Did your dog die, too?
If they want to brighten my day they can start by bringing my dog back to life.
I like that you're telling us how we have to think about a demand from a stranger in the way you desire. Missing the point for 500 Alex.
I actually have a pretty angry normal face. I'm often asked if I'm angry, to which I have to assure them I'm not, and that I was just thinking. I can understand if it happens a lot. Most things would become annoying if it keeps happening.
I really think you're looking at that the wrong way, but even so, just let it slide over you. I used to get angry at the smallest remark, but I've learned to be more mellow and aloof, and honestly, I feel better. You gotta look at things in a positive way. People aren't always thinking about themselves.
I like that you're telling us how we have to think about a demand from a stranger in the way you desire. Missing the point for 500 Alex.
Jeez you guys are a grumpy bunch.
It's like saying "Have a good day!", but weirder. No one is trying to be an asshole in saying it, would it hurt just to flash a smile and go about your day knowing that someone cared to interact with you?
I've had it plenty of times while I'm busy working on something. They'll just walk up to me and say it.I've never been told by a stranger to smile, but they probably mean when making eye contact with someone (or greeting them).
Again, you're overthinking. They don't want you smiling all the time, nor do they expect you. It's not an order. They just want to brighten up your day. You don't have to smile at all. You can just look at them.
Of course, I guess we just have different perspectives on things. I try not to sweat the small stuff.
I don't...you're actually...
This.
Have a good day is seen as a wish not a demand even if linguistically it isn't.
Telling someone to smile or cheer up randomly assumes you know what is going on in their head and they are somehow "sad" or "angry".
Don't assume to know what my mood is without even talking to me.
Most of the times I've encountered this it's some sleazy asshole who wants to get something from me.
Try having it happen a billion times. Then you'll understand how patronising and annoying it is.Fair point.
I still don't understand what reason there is to get upset about it, especially from a stranger.
But I guess I'm not as irritated by the world as some people are.
I've heard of this but no one I know has ever experienced it. Maybe this silly trend hasn't made it all the way to New Zealand.
You know a great way to make someone smile? Smile at them first.
What sucks is when you DO smile and then the barista at Starbucks says "girl it's too early for you to be showing all them teeth with your smiley ass"
Dammed if you do dammed if you don't imo.
Try having it happen a billion times. Then you'll understand how patronising and annoying it is.
This was like watching one of those old German war videos where they convinced prisoners to hate themselves