Christoff Yurievich
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I saw a sign biking in this morning on a homeless guy asking, "Do you care?" I yelled back, "Man, I don't give a fuck."
Worked on many levels.
Worked on many levels.
Some of you get upset over pretty inconsequential things.
I've also noticed this. Including strangers giving others compliments. Nice shoes, pretty dress, like your hair, etc. Just out of nowhere when walking by.
It's sound advice.
Most of you will learn this when you're older (I'm 36).
I've had to work on my smile until I got it right. My original smile made me look like a guy that was about to ask you for money. Now it resembles that of Jack Black from the movie Bernie.
Fake it to make it, motherfuckers.
If I see a cool shirt, I'll usually do this.
Smile, please.
This thread is like the League of Extraordinary Pricks.
But that's actually fine in my eyes. Because it's a compliment about your current state, in contrast to wanting you to change.I've also noticed this. Including strangers giving others compliments. Nice shoes, pretty dress, like your hair, etc. Just out of nowhere when walking by.
But that's actually fine in my eyes. Because it's a compliment about your current state, in contrast to wanting you to change.
Seriously I'm glad someone else thinks this, can you imagine how upside down their world would be if they actually had real problems.
everyone is doing the best they can. making someone feel self-conscious about how they look randomly and without prompt is sort of really rude.
I'm sorry I'm not meeting your pleasantry requirements for the day but I'm trying really hard to not explode from anxiety and stress so please try to be respectful.
EDIT: telling someone they should smile is not a complement. complementing someone on their clothes or their looks is great! who doesn't love complements? but instructing someone to look happier is not a complement, or at least not not a backhanded one.
I didn't mean to imply that it bothers you, I just wanted to add my/a reason why that type of random comment by strangers isn't bothersome.Didn't say it bothered me, just that I've seen it more lately. The smile thing is kind of weird though.
Do not feel upset about someone wanting me to feel good. There's enough actual things to worry about and am not wound up so tight.
The ironic thing is that people don't like being told to "smile!" because it actually feels bad. Most people probably start off complying just to appease others before they realize they don't like how it feels.
Stare them deep in the eyes while slowly putting on your biggest pout face with your bottom lip all jammed out, make your eyes start to water so they look like they are vibrating and you are about to explode all over, then put out your arms in a big hug motion and see how fast they run away?
What I'm saying is you should really make them commit to this idea that they are making the world a better place. If they don't hug you then you called them on their bluff.
I can't imagine how upside down your world would be if you had to deal with the shit myself and many others have to deal with every day.
Just because you see it as inconsequential doesn't mean it actually is. Do you understand how patronizing that it?
"Oh, people telling you smile all the time isn't annoying, stop being so uptight."
"Oh, people street harassing you isn't annoying, stop being so uptight, imagine if you had real problems."
This is one of those instances I am very tempted to drop the 'check your privilege' anvil.
Please spare me the "You don't know what I've been through" story, if you’re spending time posting on a online forum it can’t be like living in Ghaza. People who actually go through real issues aren't so weak that someone telling them to smile will make them question their reason for living. Being privileged is having a life so conflict free that a mere harmless comment like "smile" will piss you off so if anything please check your privilege.
Being privileged is having a life so conflict free that a mere harmless comment like "smile" will piss you off so if anything please check your privilege.
Please spare me the "You don't know what I've been through" story, if youre spending time posting on a online forum it cant be like living in Ghaza. People who actually go through real issues aren't so weak that someone telling them to smile will make them question their reason for living. Being privileged is having a life so conflict free that a mere harmless comment like "smile" will piss you off so if anything please check your privilege.
The issue is we don't need to cheer up.
Not smiling does not equal sad. Don't patronise me with some pseudo therapy shite.(not you the smile demanding guys)
I get this stuff all the time but you know whats worse. When people tell you to "Have fun". Like when you are at a club or hanging out with your friends and someone says to you "Hey have fun man, you don't look like you 're having fun". I wish I could tell them to fuck off but I'm not that kind of person.
I haven't considered from this perspective but hold that the intent remains positive and is completely harmless.The ironic thing is that people don't like being told to "smile!" because it actually feels bad. Most people probably start off complying just to appease others before they realize they don't like how it feels.
Would feel far more comfortable asking for a smile, than say, making rigid demands for how and how not to flirt with the opposite sex.
Seriously I'm glad someone else thinks this, can you imagine how upside down their world would be if they actually had real problems.
Please spare me the "You don't know what I've been through" story, if youre spending time posting on a online forum it cant be like living in Ghaza.
This post, man. This post.Please spare me the "You don't know what I've been through" story, if youre spending time posting on a online forum it cant be like living in Ghaza. People who actually go through real issues aren't so weak that someone telling them to smile will make them question their reason for living. Being privileged is having a life so conflict free that a mere harmless comment like "smile" will piss you off so if anything please check your privilege.