I try to game but it's just the exposure of it all that's turning me away from it all. I want to game, but all I think of when I play anything is how everything I'm interested in has a stigma attached to it
your problem seems to come from the involuntary 'association' you feel you have with the gaming 'community' simply by participating in games as a hobby.
it's really all in your thinking, and that's what you need to change. i don't say that coldly. i know exactly what you mean, and sometimes it can feel alienating from your loved hobby by hearing all the disgusting attitudes & politics that seems to have 'appeared' all of a sudden. but it's always been there. this is especially compounded when it seems like that's all you hear & see -and that in turn makes you feel like that's the all there is for the most part, but it's not.
believe it or not, there are actually more 'good folks' in this hobby then there are 'disgusting' ones; it's just that the latter likes to yell more. they don't yell louder, they just yell more.
but this is not a 'gaming' thing. this is a 'human consciousness' thing. it's everywhere, and at least in this hobby it's not kept hush hush under the surface anymore, it's gradually being brought out in the open ready to be addressed by individuals courageous enough to change it.
until we as a collective evolve on a mental level, groups like this will always be with us; waiting for the right climate in which to flourish; and like gamergaters, spreading 'fear' in the name of righteousness.
vigilance; thats the price good people will have to continually pay to keep those forces at bay.
also, get into the retro gaming scene. you wouldn't believe how much fun is to be had going through the complete gaming libraries of past consoles without all the 'gamer politics' of the time tainting your enjoyment of this hobby and poisoning your appreciation of the tremendous creativity that exists in this industry, on all consoles & all formats.