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Long story short: Its one-sided romance. I texted her but havent got any reply (Seen ✓✓. I know I am done and just to vent.
Not sure if this is the right place. Anyway Its my first thread here and, I just want to vent
I met this girl about six months ago at my workplace (we are not in the same office though), and we started to do lunch together about once a week or two. When I asked her for lunch (I kept asking her once a week), she always replied yes and even if its no she would come up a reason. Every time, I brought her to a new restaurant and we did have some very nice conversations (at least to me). At the same time, I started to text (Whatsapp) her more but shes not that responsive. I thought its ok because I could not expect people to reply to my every single message and sometimes I just wanted to share with her and she may not relate. Still, I always tried to bring up something fresh and relevant and encourage her to voice out her thoughts more, although she rarely did.
From February, she started to become evasive about my lunch proposals but I still managed to get her out with me. And we still had pleasant conversations when we met. I kept texting her every day (just about 3-4 messages) and tried to not to be annoying, and thats when I noticed she became even less responsive (from to a 1/3 reply rate to a 1/6 reply rate). I got the sense that shes losing interest in me while I had become more infatuated than ever with her. Thats why and when I started to become desperate
There were many times (during our lunch times) I asked her out for movies/walk in park/dinner and she always said yes. She even proposed some movies and suggested a place for us to go. But when I make a proper invitation the very next day, she just acted evasive. At first, she declined with reasons, and then she just didnt reply at all.
I kept texting her (with things may interest her and we have in common) but she was just ignoring my messages almost entirely. I also kept asking her for lunch (and trying my best to not be bothersome) but she always rejected me at the last minute, again with reasons (about friends/work/etc.).
I knew this could not be kept long so I stopped contacting her earlier this month. Then, only three days later, I happened to see her at the workplace so I again asked her for lunch for the week before Easter She said yes but didnt live up to it. Since I knew shes busy for that week so I didnt quite mind and instead asked her out for the Easter (via Whatsapp):
Me: Its a long holiday; maybe we can find a day free and go out somewhere.
She: where
Me: (A lot of suggestions but I pointed out what I liked the most)
She: which one
Me: (replied in detail)
She didnt reply since. I texted her that I didnt like that and asked her to reject me if she wanted and just not to ignore my invitations because I was sick of all the waiting
So a few hours ago I sent her my last message. Instead of telling her I was hopelessly in love with her, I just told her that pursuing someone desperately will creep them out Its better to make mistakes and then learn from them Its a short message. Not sure if it means anything or not but I guess its my last.
OK. Time to let go now. Its hard though
Sorry I didnt realize it would be this long... as I just wanted to vent.
Share if you have any thoughts/experiences.
Not sure if this is the right place. Anyway Its my first thread here and, I just want to vent
I met this girl about six months ago at my workplace (we are not in the same office though), and we started to do lunch together about once a week or two. When I asked her for lunch (I kept asking her once a week), she always replied yes and even if its no she would come up a reason. Every time, I brought her to a new restaurant and we did have some very nice conversations (at least to me). At the same time, I started to text (Whatsapp) her more but shes not that responsive. I thought its ok because I could not expect people to reply to my every single message and sometimes I just wanted to share with her and she may not relate. Still, I always tried to bring up something fresh and relevant and encourage her to voice out her thoughts more, although she rarely did.
From February, she started to become evasive about my lunch proposals but I still managed to get her out with me. And we still had pleasant conversations when we met. I kept texting her every day (just about 3-4 messages) and tried to not to be annoying, and thats when I noticed she became even less responsive (from to a 1/3 reply rate to a 1/6 reply rate). I got the sense that shes losing interest in me while I had become more infatuated than ever with her. Thats why and when I started to become desperate
There were many times (during our lunch times) I asked her out for movies/walk in park/dinner and she always said yes. She even proposed some movies and suggested a place for us to go. But when I make a proper invitation the very next day, she just acted evasive. At first, she declined with reasons, and then she just didnt reply at all.
I kept texting her (with things may interest her and we have in common) but she was just ignoring my messages almost entirely. I also kept asking her for lunch (and trying my best to not be bothersome) but she always rejected me at the last minute, again with reasons (about friends/work/etc.).
I knew this could not be kept long so I stopped contacting her earlier this month. Then, only three days later, I happened to see her at the workplace so I again asked her for lunch for the week before Easter She said yes but didnt live up to it. Since I knew shes busy for that week so I didnt quite mind and instead asked her out for the Easter (via Whatsapp):
Me: Its a long holiday; maybe we can find a day free and go out somewhere.
She: where
Me: (A lot of suggestions but I pointed out what I liked the most)
She: which one
Me: (replied in detail)
She didnt reply since. I texted her that I didnt like that and asked her to reject me if she wanted and just not to ignore my invitations because I was sick of all the waiting
So a few hours ago I sent her my last message. Instead of telling her I was hopelessly in love with her, I just told her that pursuing someone desperately will creep them out Its better to make mistakes and then learn from them Its a short message. Not sure if it means anything or not but I guess its my last.
OK. Time to let go now. Its hard though
Sorry I didnt realize it would be this long... as I just wanted to vent.
Share if you have any thoughts/experiences.