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[Starfield]

Hello dear GAF,

I'll make this quick because I'm not sure where to put my head on this and maybe someone of you may have been in some similar situation like myself.
Normally I wouldn't think of stupid things like this, but this situation just boggles my mind.

So one year ago I met a girl from online dating. We spent a lovely weekend together, talked about meeting again, she slept the weekend over at my apartment (we didn't have sex, just watched a movie, cuddled, etc.), everything was going fine, afterwards we texted alot for like 1 day and the day after she became more quiet so i did aswell. Another day past and she suddenly completely ignores all of my texts, like literally ignoring them. So I've waited for some time to see if she'd reply but...nothing.

After one week of total communication blocking I decided to abandon her and to give up on her.



Now over one year later she suddenly texts me again and we decide to meet again. Kinda similar like before, she spent the weekend where I live, we watched some shows, cuddled, etc.. We talked about what happened last time and she said that she was not normal back then and she knows it was a bad thing to do (she gave no reason on WHY she did it tho, maybe I should have asked her more). Anyways, weekend goes over and we talked about wanting to play some games later online and in the future, she said she wants to visit me again or I visit her and I agreed. On monday everything seems normal (just like last time), we text occassionally, after work she comes online and we play some games together, she goes to sleep, cue in next day. On next day she suddenly became alot quiter again, almost no text, nothing.

So, today she's kind of doing the same thing again. Looking at my text but completely ignores me. She hasn't replied in two days where normally she'd reply within minutes.

What the fuck is going on?

 

[cryptoadam]

Your the side dick.

Don't sweat it, treat her the same way she treats you.

 

[Hissing Sid]

Bin it.

 

[Nymphae]

Your the side dick.

Who gives no dick lol

 

[Xaero Gravity]

If someone is willing to ghost you, then they're not worth it to begin with. Her loss, not yours.

 

[Nymphae]

I'm with cryptoadam , she's dick juggling. You respond to ghosting by moving on with your life and then not giving the person priority if they decide they want your ear all of a sudden.

 

[mekes]

She is stringing you along. You may just be quick validation for her.

Do not heavily invest in her!

 

[pramod]

If you've never even had sex or anything, I don't know why you're still holding on. Just stop wasting your time and move on.

 

[NickFire]

You're a part-time friend with no benefits. Block her number and move on with your life. There's obviously a vast difference in how you see each other, she is not exactly forthcoming with you, and she's messing with your head. She might be the salt of the earth in all other respects, but this is not how happy relationships begin.

 

[pramod]

Btw how do people cuddle for that long and end up not doing anything lol. Did you at least make a move?

 

[Nester99]

She is mad that you did not bang her, gave you a second chance and still no dice...

 

[haxan7]

Eat her pussy and fuck her. None of this cuddle sleepover bullshit. Let her do that with her girl friends or the guys she DOESN'T fuck.

 

[jufonuk]

Have a wank then ghost

Ask her outright. She may actually be busy as hell but see if she continues then say goodbye

 

[Barsinister]

I have not had to ask a girl out on a date in almost twenty years. Is it really that hard to meet women? Like real women in real life? Ask a girl for her phone number or when she gets off work?

I would not put up with what you are, Starfield . Are you very young? I am assuming you are an ok looking guy, what is the problem?

 

[highrider]

A good philosophy, if she’s at your crib, we fuckin, or you gots to go. If you chose to avail yourself as a cuddle buddy that’s your call, nothing wrong with that, but she will have zero respect for you.

 

[J-Roderton]

That's a lot of cuddling.

I think this chick has a dude already.

 

[Pejo]

The puzzling thing here is why you're still bothering with her. She's done this to you twice now. Get some self respect and move on.

 

[Slings and Arrows]

My advice for women:

• Don't stick your dick in crazy
• Don't dip your pen in company ink
• Don't shit where you sleep
• It's better to be the guy fucking a bird who has a boyfriend, rather than the guy who is sat at home alone while his chick is getting nailed by someone else.

Go buy a copy of the The Game by Neil Strauss. It's a how to guide on how not to be a pathetic, spineless, friend-zoned nobody. I say this as a guy who learned a fuckton from that book.

 

[Barsinister]

I was on a date with my future wife. We went to karaoke. Both of us went outside to smoke. She had her back up against the wall. I put my arm on the wall above her shoulder, leaned in and told her I was going to marry her. Then I kissed her. She kissed me back as hard as she could. We got married almost a year later.

Maybe you need some zinc? Where’s triplestation when you need him?

 

[ValiantTraveler]

You're wasting your time OP. A girl who does that kind of bullshit has no desire for you. Showcase some self-respect: ghost her once and for all and move on. There are countless girls out there.

 

[Tesseract]

ignore her, see what happens

 

[brap]

Should've made a move and/or sucked her toes bro.

 

[Xaero Gravity]

Should've made a move and/or sucked her toes bro.

I've reported this and I think everyone else should too.

 

[Potato Chip PRO]

What's pissing me off is that you ain't getting booty while some fuckboi is tearing her ass apart when she's ghosting you OP! I can't believe you're cuddling, that's insane in the first place... She's going to keep doing the same shit to. You over and over and over. OP, dump the bitch. Ain't no reason to keep on going like that. This burned me up OP, lol

 

[Foamy]

She probably suspects you have a 2 inch dick.

Most people here are wondering if she'd be right.

 

[Xaero Gravity]

She probably suspects you have a 2 inch dick.

Most people here are thinking the same.

Don't listen to him OP. I'm sure your peepee is lovely.

 

[eddie4]

Women know what they want, and they also don't know what they want.

Don't let people fuck with you.

 

[cryptoadam]

Wait just realized something here. You spent 2 Weekends with her and both times you didn't hit it?

She probably thinks your gay.

 

[bitbydeath]

Maybe she’s turned off cause you never made a move?

 

[eddie4]

"How you feeling now sweetheart? A little more relaxed?
Maybe it's that half a molly I put in your Mountain Dew
Yeah, works like a charm
Just chill out for a second, relax, relax, I got it under control
I got you a glass of Beefeater, I got a brand new deck of Uno cards
Oh yeah baby, the night's just getting started
Okay, how about I come over tonight and pick you up in my brand new Segway
We can go over to Long John Silver's, get a fish platter
You can take me home and massage me with butter all on my neck
I love you" - RTJ - Twin Hype Back

 

[Tesseract]

it's time to crush that pussy with the strength of crom

 

[ROMhack]

Ask her what's up. Say you're wondering where this is going and if you'd like to see more of her then tell her that - but crucially, be straight about it, not whiny.

You'll get your answer, which is better than anything we can tell you.

 

[Barsinister]

Do you have your own place? Is it littered with anime toys? Maybe she was giving you a second chance and you blew it? Clean up your damned house!

 

[Durask]

Maybe she’s turned off cause you never made a move?

Yeah, OP why not?

 

[ROMhack]

Yeah, OP why not?

I'm sure they'll have their reasons but I've done it a few times. Some people aren't a big fan of one night stands - I also got scared they were mental a couple of times

Good learning curve, I'm sure.

 

[sonomamashine]

Maybe she’s turned off cause you never made a move?

maybe he's scared from an assault or rape accusation, times change.

 

[Barsinister]

I think ol’ Starfield ghosted us in his own thread. What a gyp!

 

[Starfield]

She is mad that you did not bang her, gave you a second chance and still no dice...

She didn't make any moves either, maybe she has a mental illness?

 

[bitbydeath]

maybe he's scared from an assault or rape accusation, times change.

What’s that supposed to mean?
Women should only make a move today?

 

[ROMhack]

maybe he's scared from an assault or rape accusation, times change.

This reminds me of a Korean girl I once tried the moves on. My mate's girlfriend brought her along on a weekend trip and we got to cuddling one night. I went in for a kiss and she was like, no no I have a boyfriend sorry. Anyway, later on my friend told me that she was testing me because she didn't want to feel bad and expected me to be 'more forceful'.

I was like bloody hell. You try that thing here and you'd never hear the last of it.

And that is why I still haven't slept with an Asian gril.

 

[Tesseract]

a lot tho not all but a great many women are pretty submissive and will wait for the dude to make the first move

ymmv yolo bbq

 

[triplestation]

man you get yourself some oysters and some dick pills

buy the lady some candy corns

you gonna bust you alllllllll KINDS of nuts

all kiinds

 

[Tesseract]

LORD TRIPLE HAS SPOKETH

 

[EviLore]

Why didn't you make a move?

 

[SKM1]

Having a girl at my place for a weekend and only cuddling sounds fucking bizarre. I'm sorry OP.

 

[Foamy]

Women who live normal average lives in the real world become accustomed to men behaving a certain way. If you deviate too far from what's become their norm, they start to think ethier you're not interested or there's something wrong with you.
It's admirable that you want to be a gentleman but if you don't show her you're thirsty she's going to ethier friend zone you or make certain assumptions.

She's already come to your place so you know there's some interest or she wouldn't have bothered. Women want to feel desired and crave sex every bit as much as men.
Help her to feel relaxed by making a funny sexual pun at the right time or test the waters by slapping her on the ass.

If you don't let her know that you're looking to wax her bumper eventually, if not soon, she's going to invite you to go shoe shopping with her instead.




P.S. Put the Sailor Moon body pillow away before she comes over.

 

[nush]

Starfield Your her cuddle bitch who she goes to see to get validated before she returns back to her bad boy. She correctly marked you as a simp and Ines she could pick you back up after a year, only to do the exact same thing again.

Show some self-respect and block her number, don't be so desperate that a woman can ghost you and then you let her come back and do it over again.

 

[sonomamashine]

What’s that supposed to mean?
Women should only make a move today?

well she didn't seem to be interested in him so .... you gotta play it safe.

This reminds me of a Korean girl I once tried the moves on. My mate's girlfriend brought her along on a weekend trip and we got to cuddling one night. I went in for a kiss and she was like, no no I have a boyfriend sorry. Anyway, later on my friend told me that she was testing me because she didn't want to feel bad and expected me to be 'more forceful'.

I was like bloody hell. You try that thing here and you'd never hear the last of it.

And that is why I still haven't slept with an Asian gril.

lol what the hell was she expecting, "no no i have a boyfriend", bitch if i force myself into you thats rape, weirdo.

 

[Tesseract]

sometimes you have to seize the moment, op

i believe in you

 

[ROMhack]

lol what the hell was she expecting, "no no i have a boyfriend", bitch if i force myself into you thats rape, weirdo.

She was really cute though. I'm still mad about it 5 years later.