She's crazy. Which is why we broke up.
This.
Also everything had to be her way, she was insanely spoiled growing up.
And apparently one guy wasn't enough to satisfy her.
She's crazy. Which is why we broke up.
I absolutely love my girlfriend, and fortunately we are so compatible that we rarely run into any issues. Sure, I wish she wouldn't listen to shitty radio stations when we're driving (especially since she has great taste in music and acknowledges most mainstream pop bands are shit, she just enjoys the catchy hooks and choruses), and I wish she wasn't so busy during the school year, but those are so far removed from legitimate relationship "problems" that I can't complain.
In fact last month the thing we argued over the most was probably video games, specifically me not wanting to play them as often as she would like. She LOVES watching me play video games. Sometimes when I don't feel like it she'll bribe me.
"Will you PLEASE play Mario Kart for me? I'll rub your back and shoulders for you while you play!"
So yeah, I have a most excellent set up going on. And it's all thanks to GAF's very own girl-age thread!
Fire her.I sometimes feel like my wife thinks things will just magically happen.
Here's an example: We jointly run a video production company, but my wife clocks in maybe an average of 10 hours a week on it while I'm doing roughly 40-50 hours a week worth of work (we also work other full time jobs). For instance, we have a film that we're releasing late Feb that is VERY visual FX heavy. It took me roughly 12 hours or so to do a single sequence because of the amount of compositing I needed to do. I still have hundreds of hours worth of work left. After I do this, I have to do the coloring, then go to our sound engineer for scoring and ADR. My wife, on the other hand, only has a small sequence to do. It is the most intense VFX sequence in the film and it's going to require 40-50 hours of work to finish, but she has yet to sit down and start. She comes up with every excuse in the book and then sits on the couch and watches movies she's seen a hundred times before. It's kind of annoying because she held up our last film by two weeks since she refused to sit her ass down at the computer and power through all of the FX we had to do. I could actually go on about stuff related to our business.
I guess I will... (wow, this has kind of been bothering me)
For our business, we both need to be actively getting clientele, promoting, etc. She rarely ever does anything promotion wise via our accounts or even her personal account. It's like she thinks clients will just manifest out of thin air. It drives me INSANE.
Also, because we usually, at most, have a 10 person crew, it would be awesome if she grabbed our video cameras and started shooting things to work on for template work and/or just practice. She refuses to do this. She waits until we have a project to do anything... which sometimes is a month apart. So she waits a literal month doing nothing. This entire time I'm shooting things, I'm experimenting in our programs, I'm trying to come up with templates, I'm trying to get a good portfolio.
ARGH!
Thanks, guys... I needed this thread. I just feel like I'm working myself to the bone and she's just benefiting from how much of my ass I'm busting.
Sounds toxic. You should talk to her about this stuff before you grow to hate her over it.I sometimes feel like my wife thinks things will just magically happen.
Here's an example: We jointly run a video production company, but my wife clocks in maybe an average of 10 hours a week on it while I'm doing roughly 40-50 hours a week worth of work (we also work other full time jobs). For instance, we have a film that we're releasing late Feb that is VERY visual FX heavy. It took me roughly 12 hours or so to do a single sequence because of the amount of compositing I needed to do. I still have hundreds of hours worth of work left. After I do this, I have to do the coloring, then go to our sound engineer for scoring and ADR. My wife, on the other hand, only has a small sequence to do. It is the most intense VFX sequence in the film and it's going to require 40-50 hours of work to finish, but she has yet to sit down and start. She comes up with every excuse in the book and then sits on the couch and watches movies she's seen a hundred times before. It's kind of annoying because she held up our last film by two weeks since she refused to sit her ass down at the computer and power through all of the FX we had to do. I could actually go on about stuff related to our business.
I guess I will... (wow, this has kind of been bothering me)
For our business, we both need to be actively getting clientele, promoting, etc. She rarely ever does anything promotion wise via our accounts or even her personal account. It's like she thinks clients will just manifest out of thin air. It drives me INSANE.
Also, because we usually, at most, have a 10 person crew, it would be awesome if she grabbed our video cameras and started shooting things to work on for template work and/or just practice. She refuses to do this. She waits until we have a project to do anything... which sometimes is a month apart. So she waits a literal month doing nothing. This entire time I'm shooting things, I'm experimenting in our programs, I'm trying to come up with templates, I'm trying to get a good portfolio.
ARGH!
Thanks, guys... I needed this thread. I just feel like I'm working myself to the bone and she's just benefiting from how much of my ass I'm busting.
Risky.Fire her.
Thanks, guys... I needed this thread. I just feel like I'm working myself to the bone and she's just benefiting from how much of my ass I'm busting.
He is never awake before 2 PM; on the rare occasions that he is, he goes back to sleep before midday and sleeps until about 5 or 6 PM. I also think he has a genuine video gaming addiction, though that always turns into a fight when I mention it, hah.
My wife amasses large amounts of clutter and is not good at keeping a clean house. She insists it is because we have a small house, but I know that if we had a mansion it would be full of clutter in record time. It's just the way she is.
We balance each other out well though since I am a clean freak and enjoy cleaning and organizing the house. If I'm gone for a couple of days though, the house goes downhill fast.
Thanks, guys... I needed this thread. I just feel like I'm working myself to the bone and she's just benefiting from how much of my ass I'm busting.
Oh God, I was just joking. DO NOT FIRE YOUR WIFE. but do talk to her about it, it is a serious issue.Risky.
Try a calm venting of your feelings, and get her to open up about why she isn't motivated.
Maybe your wife is not an empire-builder who wants the second full time job, she's just afraid to say so because she knows you have a dream of making this into your main gig.
If that doesn't work then fire her. Prepare for Armageddon though.
Also, check your pms when you can Alf. Book question.
You'd be surprised how many times that has happened to me in relationships.
I wonder if women are conditioned to feel like they are allowed to be non-contibuting to the relationship, since it has happened to me often.
Nothing really, else I wouldn't have married her. See, whereas I'm full of fucked up things, habbits and stupid shit .. my wife is the opposite. Shes amazing, I am not.
Nothing really, else I wouldn't have married her. See, whereas I'm full of fucked up things, habbits and stupid shit .. my wife is the opposite. Shes amazing, I am not.
Nothing really, else I wouldn't have married her. See, whereas I'm full of fucked up things, habbits and stupid shit .. my wife is the opposite. Shes amazing, I am not.
Fire her.
Sounds toxic. You should talk to her about this stuff before you grow to hate her over it.
I made this thread for that, to vent about that shit, is not that I don't love her, I just can't stand some shit she does, I'm not trying to change her, that's how she is, but yeah she push my buttons from time to time.
Risky.
Try a calm venting of your feelings, and get her to open up about why she isn't motivated.
Maybe your wife is not an empire-builder who wants the second full time job, she's just afraid to say so because she knows you have a dream of making this into your main gig.
If that doesn't work then fire her. Prepare for Armageddon though.
Also, check your pms when you can Alf. Book question.
That's pretty, pretty, pretty, pretty, pretty disgusting. Does he not get bored? I can do this maybe once a week, if that. Sleeping is glorious, but for that long...
Anyway, back on topic: looking back on it, I found myself cringing on the inside whenever my ex-girlfriend would talk in a social setting and I hardly even know why. I just felt really conscious of what she was saying, how my friends would react; things like that. She was a lovely girl, but for some reason, I always felt as if she was constantly teetering on conversational "dagginess".
So, yeah, it's probably something to do with me more than anyone else.
It takes her longer than me to wind down from an argument.
Pretty much he stays awake until around 5 AM playing video games. I've raised it with him before but he just says he has insomnia and there's nothing he can do about it. I occasionally wonder if he sleeps so much so he doesn't have to talk to me. >_>;
I absolutely love my girlfriend, and fortunately we are so compatible that we rarely run into any issues.
she does no drugs whatsoever, doesn't even drink.
There's nothing wrong with that, but WHY. It's not like she's tried them, and didn't like them. It's not like they ruined her life and she has to stay clean. She's never even tried them... I try to convince her that she'd have a lot of fun, and that she should at least see what its like, but she refuses... I mean, nothing wrong with that, but I'd really rather be with someone with a more liberal policy :/
overall she's great though.
Really? REALLY?! Can't respect a choice like that and argue with her over it? Seems dumb. I didn't for a LONG time. I wasn't really messing out on anything and there were legitimate reasons for not doing it. She doesn't sound like she's preachy, so who gives a shit? If that's something that's bugging you I think the problem is you not her.
I'm in the same boat as her, never touched any of it. Been with a few women who tried to pressure me into it and it ended very poorly. I was never preachy about it, I frankly didn't and still don't give a fuck if the person I'm seeing indulges. Don't want to over step but if this is something that annoys you about her I wouldn't count on it lasting.she does no drugs whatsoever, doesn't even drink.
There's nothing wrong with that, but WHY. It's not like she's tried them, and didn't like them. It's not like they ruined her life and she has to stay clean. She's never even tried them... I try to convince her that she'd have a lot of fun, and that she should at least see what its like, but she refuses... I mean, nothing wrong with that, but I'd really rather be with someone with a more liberal policy :/
overall she's great though.
I can get that, but sometimes you need to make a move before her.She has a tendency to go from arguing to just giving me the silent treatment for a couple of hours, which is annoying as I'd rather just hash out whatever the disagreement is and then have make-up sex. Instead I just have to go off and do something else while I wait for her to regain her senses.
Also, no anal.
she does no drugs whatsoever,
There's nothing wrong with that, but WHY. It's not like she's tried them, and didn't like them. It's not like they ruined her life and she has to stay clean. She's never even tried them... I try to convince her that she'd have a lot of fun, and that she should at least see what its like, but she refuses... I mean, nothing wrong with that, but I'd really rather be with someone with a more liberal policy :/
doesn't even drink.
Yeah, that sure sounds like a relationship you'd like to keep up.snip
His lack of motivation. He's a good talker, but not a walker. If I try to tell him to do something, he yells at me and starts belittling me instead because he can't handle criticism. I end up not saying anything now, and refocus my energy on something positive instead of something useless.
His mother is an insane housewife and refuses to divorce his dad, so I get to hear hours of insane crackpot theories like the most recent - "A voodoo queen put a spell on him and now he's out having secret gay orgies." I wish I was making that up, I really do. She even installed a GPS in both his car and his work vehicle (company truck) And she has this weird fixation on me not being "blood" but if I were "blood" that would be reallllly creepy. He screams at me if I don't spend time with his family, but every time I go there they treat me like shit (his mom threatens to call the police on me for trespassing into her home all the time because I don't agree with everything she says and of course, I'm not Catholic) The main reason I keep pushing off marriage is because I would be marrying into his family. I can't be chill with them at all, which is really offsetting for me because it's not me. I know I could never convince him to move far away enough that I would only see them once or twice every couple of years though. :/
Well, that's a load off my chest. Phew.
His lack of motivation. He's a good talker, but not a walker. If I try to tell him to do something, he yells at me and starts belittling me instead because he can't handle criticism. I end up not saying anything now, and refocus my energy on something positive instead of something useless.
His mother is an insane housewife and refuses to divorce his dad, so I get to hear hours of insane crackpot theories like the most recent - "A voodoo queen put a spell on him and now he's out having secret gay orgies." I wish I was making that up, I really do. She even installed a GPS in both his car and his work vehicle (company truck) And she has this weird fixation on me not being "blood" but if I were "blood" that would be reallllly creepy. He screams at me if I don't spend time with his family, but every time I go there they treat me like shit (his mom threatens to call the police on me for trespassing into her home all the time because I don't agree with everything she says and of course, I'm not Catholic) The main reason I keep pushing off marriage is because I would be marrying into his family. I can't be chill with them at all, which is really offsetting for me because it's not me. I know I could never convince him to move far away enough that I would only see them once or twice every couple of years though. :/
Well, that's a load off my chest. Phew.
His lack of motivation. He's a good talker, but not a walker. If I try to tell him to do something, he yells at me and starts belittling me instead because he can't handle criticism. I end up not saying anything now, and refocus my energy on something positive instead of something useless.
His mother is an insane housewife and refuses to divorce his dad, so I get to hear hours of insane crackpot theories like the most recent - "A voodoo queen put a spell on him and now he's out having secret gay orgies." I wish I was making that up, I really do. She even installed a GPS in both his car and his work vehicle (company truck) And she has this weird fixation on me not being "blood" but if I were "blood" that would be reallllly creepy. He screams at me if I don't spend time with his family, but every time I go there they treat me like shit (his mom threatens to call the police on me for trespassing into her home all the time because I don't agree with everything she says and of course, I'm not Catholic) The main reason I keep pushing off marriage is because I would be marrying into his family. I can't be chill with them at all, which is really offsetting for me because it's not me. I know I could never convince him to move far away enough that I would only see them once or twice every couple of years though. :/
Well, that's a load off my chest. Phew.