No intent to diminish the perspective or the opinions of the OP.
Couple things worth noting.
First, the game demos on the tour are the same ones weve shown at E3, Gamescom, and PAX. So both Forza and Ryse look good, but not the same as final. Both games look better now (as I would expect would be the case for Sony as well), so dont judge the tour demos too harshly relative to the final games. The Ryse video released today I think demonstrates that for those who have compared the E3 trailers with the newest.
Second, the environment that these games run in is not the same environment used for building the dash. So for those seeing the slow/janky dash UI from the tour, thats nothing like what the real code looks like. These tour boxes are not getting Beta drops, so the UI isnt even correct, let alone performing well. So dont use that as any comparison to the real UI. Again, the video released earlier in the week shows the updated code.
Controller should be close to final. So YMMV on how you like it. Ive worked on every version of every Xbox controller, and I like this one the best by a mile.
Lastly Sonys in exactly the same position, so Im not suggesting they shouldnt get the benefit of the doubt either. When you have stuff that works, you use it even if its not perfect. Right now, everyone is crunching.