Acerac
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He's right, though. Given your join date, it's especially petty.
But hey, at least you cheated for the sake of your son and not for some immoral reason.
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Because they're young and morally certain.What is with people and their moral high horses? Most of you have never been in a situation that you are judging others harshly on. Get off it.
Unless you've been married for a hell of a long time, in a loveless/sexless marriage, with kids and financial obligations, relatives and other things involved that makes separating a very, very painful thing I don't see how you can make the blanket statement is always the absolute wrong thing to cheat.
There's a reason why AM had so many members and it's not because we are predisposed to being faithful nor "it's always better to be faithful or just split". There's a market for it and AM capitalized on it.
He's right, though. Given your join date, it's especially petty.
But hey, at least you cheated for the sake of your son and not for some immoral reason.
32 and married 7 years with a kid.Because they're young and morally certain.
32 and married 7 years with a kid.
Am I old enough to ride the high horse?
No one really is. They're judging other people based on their own experiences. You've never been married to their wives/husbands. You have no idea what their situation or life has been.32 and married 7 years with a kid.
Am I old enough to ride the high horse?
I really don't understand why you'd use your own name and personal details on a site like that. Create an alias ffs !
There's no such thing as 100% privacy security, anything can get hacked and fall into the wrong hands.
I'm already paranoid to put anything on my Facebook except the absolute minimum.
Oh well, I guess cheaters had it coming..
No one really is. They're judging other people based on their own experiences. You've never been married to their wives/husbands. You have no idea what their situation or life has been.
You should know that relationships are incredibly complex and take a *lot* of hard work to succeed. I've been with my wife for 16 years. She's probably one the happiest married people I've ever known. It's a two way street though.
He's been on the high horse all along. I don't think he will get off unless it involves berating me. Same with Herbs. No desire to discuss the subject, just to attack.
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No one really is. They're judging other people based on their own experiences. You've never been married to their wives/husbands. You have no idea what their situation or life has been.
He's been on the high horse all along. I don't think he will get off unless it involves berating me. Same with Herbs. No desire to discuss the subject, just to attack.
You're delusion is grandeur. I'll give you that.
Nah, age is a big part of it. I remember being in my early 20s and having clear black and white views on things, as did all my friends.So then it has nothing to do with age?
So then it has nothing to do with age?
I've been discussing it. You berated people for being irrational if they disagreed with you.
I've been discussing it. You berated people for being irrational if they disagreed with you.
I too look forward to the day when I can see nuance in relationships and feel comfortable with the idea of cheating on my SO (who would still be trusting me lmao what a sucker).
Truly the blessed landall you have to do is step down from that proverbial high horse. go ahead. walk in the promised land... there's even grammar correction there!
Truly the blessed land
I too look forward to the day when I can see nuance in relationships and feel comfortable with the idea of cheating on my SO (who would still be trusting me lmao what a sucker).
What's irrational was not using appropriate contraception with someone you barely knew, marrying said person who you were not in love with, and wasting 10 yrs in a loveless/sexless marriage, and using all those mistakes to justify cheating. There were other decisions you could have made in all those steps before going into 'cheating is the best solution' territory.
Breach even worse than it looked two days ago, now includes website and app source code as well as the CEO's correspondence.
Yes, and many other decisions were made. You have a 100,000 ft view of my life, and you are trying to tell me the details of what I did and didn't do like you know me. I too look forward to the day that I have that much clairvoyance.
You shifted blame entirely to the woman. Surely you would agree that offers us insight into your personality?
You shifted blame entirely to the woman. Surely you would agree that offers us insight into your personality?
Isn't that what people in those/these situations do? Does it really matter? If that's how he felt that's how he felt.
The point is that he was at a point in his relationship that he felt like that and it may or may not have contributed to his infidelity. Life does that.
I too look forward to the day when I can see nuance in relationships and feel comfortable with the idea of cheating on my SO (who would still be trusting me lmao what a sucker).
In other words: The victim of an affair is not always the victim of the marriage.
Hey, when you bust your ass trying to make a relationship work and are promised over and over again that she will change even tho the goal post changes each time, you develop resentment. Look I'm happy you have a nice marriage, but not everyone does.
You guys know that being cheated on hurts A LOT right? It's fucking devastating. You can say that we're immature or young or whatever for having these morals but you can't say that it isn't wrong to cheat. Go ahead and stick to your reasoning behind it. Just know that it's devastating for the other person and it's not right.
Esther Perel said:"Betrayal in a relationship comes in many forms. There are many ways that we betray our partner. With contempt, with neglect, with indifference, with violence. Sexual betrayal is only one way to hurt a partner. In other words: The victim of an affair is not always the victim of the marriage."
So in the end, you decide on some form of selfish act anyways. Either way you've destroyed any trust, so why not just get divorced when you really feel you're gonna cheat? Why lie to them and yourself? And again, this is all because you started with a sham. In the end, you're doing nothing but wasting everyone's time.You know what also hurts? Being denied intimacy because of "reasons". Even when you do everything you can to make the other person happy for years, they still just manipulate you like Lucy uses a football on Charlie Brown by using sex and intimacy as a method of getting what they want in a relationship. Cheating is a terrible thing to do if in a happy, stable relationship. Not all relationships work like that, and sometimes a person can feel trapped and need an escape.
Again, I will repost this again for clarity - since I can't say it better myself. From this TED talk - www.youtube.com/watch?v=P2AUat93a8Q
So in the end, you decide on some form of selfish act anyways. Either way you've destroyed any trust, so why not just get divorced when you really feel you're gonna cheat?
So in the end, you decide on some form of selfish act anyways. Either way you've destroyed any trust, so why not just get divorced when you really feel you're gonna cheat? Why lie to them and yourself? And again, this is all because you started with a sham. In the end, you're doing nothing but wasting everyone's time.
How far into the 9 years did you start thinking about cheating? Because that was when you should of pulled the plug, or issued one last ultimatum before doing so.Um, I already said that I am in the middle of a divorce now.
You're right, and going further will just be bringing out more of his sad luck. I'll drop it.You're arguing with someone who doesn't see himself at fault at any stage. It's the others fault. The others fault for getting pregnant. The other fault for forcing him to get married. The others fault for trapping his and stealing his future.
You're arguing with someone who doesn't see himself at fault at any stage. It's the others fault. The others fault for getting pregnant. The other fault for forcing him to get married. The others fault for trapping his and stealing his future.
Gonna say this nicely, go climb a tree. Never said I don't have fault for not using protection. Never said I was forced to get married. I did say I was held hostage though by a nuclear bomb called losing my son. Now shut up and go back in your hole troll.
If his wife is okay with not having intimacy in her marriage (which by his posts it seems like she is) and he isn't, but neither one of them want to get a divorce because of the implications it would have for their child then I see absolutely nothing wrong with them agreeing to have an open marriage. If she's against that as well, then he really doesn't have a choice. It's either stay in a sham marriage and cheat or get a divorce and be 6,000 miles away from your son. Expecting him to live with having no intimacy in his life is freaking ridiculous, anyone advocating that he should do that is clueless.
Please explain then.no one's advocating that.
Honestly at this point why are you arguing with them? The same posters in these same threads who clearly lack any real life experiences come in and try to tell everybody exactly what a relationship is.
Listen up. Relationships are different. All of them. None are as ideal as you same repeat offenders like to make them out to be. You don't know this because you're likely not an adult yet, or have not shared close intimate human interaction with another person for a long time, or ever.
Cybrwizard, take your ball and go home. This isn't debate, it's an argument. If you argue with fools long enough you soon can't tell the difference between both sides. You've made life choices, don't keep posting here trying to defend yourself, it's pointless. I understand why you're doing so but you are just giving these guys satisfaction. These guys just like shit piling on people. No matter what you've done, nobody deserves that.
no one's advocating that. he cheated without her knowledge as he himself said it was an affair.
Gonna say this nicely, go climb a tree. Never said I don't have fault for not using protection. Never said I was forced to get married. I did say I was held hostage though by a nuclear bomb called losing my son. Now shut up and go back in your hole troll.
She took my youth and dreams and goals, I asked her to give up the one thing she ever wanted in life.