Took me a while to write this stuff out so
please read it all or I'll be pissed. lol.
You're right. You have to act upon your thoughts eventually.
But thinking is the first and crucial step. Then comes action.
If don't think about or know what you want out of life then you'll be like a sail boat that's lost at sea without a helm. The strong winds of life will blow you around and you will have no way to get to your destination.
For me, acting upon the "how" and "what" questions comes naturally for me. Once I figure out what I want to do or become by asking myself these questions I then go to the internet, or books, or people that know how to get certain results out of life. And once I get those guidelines from those sources I follow those guidelines like a map until I reach my destination/goal.
I would have to disagree.
"What can I do or change to make myself a more likable person?"
You can't be in a romantic relationship if the girl you like doesn't like you back. Also, in order to get into a relationship or to become a more likable person you have to come from a "giving" mindset and not a "taking" mindset. The best way to get girls and people in general to like you is if you give of yourself to them. Figure out ways to make people's boring and mundane lives better. Probably the easiest way to make someone like you is by (oddly enough) asking how their day is going or what they're up to. People love to talk about themselves and when you
give to them an outlet to talk about themselves they'll end up liking you a bunch because you're actually taking time to listen about their struggles, triumphs, and so on.
Also, I believe cubsfan posted some Brent Smith videos about the whole "giving" mindset so if you want to learn more about that PM him for those video links.
"Who is getting the results I want to get out of life? And what are they doing to get them?"
When did getting into a romantic relationship
not become a result you want to get out of life or a part of life success? To me the word "result" is synonymous with goal, outcome, aspiration, desire etc.
Getting into a romantic relationship is your desire/goal/result that you want to get out of life.
And guess what? There are people out there who have been in your current situation of not being able to get into relationships with girls due to their fear of rejection, approach anxiety, or because they thought they were too "ugly" or too "sub par" to get with the girl that they liked. These people are now having all sorts of relationships with all sorts of women and some of them are here on GAF.
You need to find these people and find out what they did in order to overcome there own personal obstacles.
Then you apply their solutions to your own self and act upon them.
Again. Asking these questions gives yourself a crystal clear outcome of what you want to achieve. And once your mind has a clear outcome it will be a whole lot easier to take action towards that goal.
One more thing:
Before Combine was banned I told him that I wanted (or rather DEMANDED) that he get this audio CD self help program:
http://www.amazon.com/dp/158060076X/?tag=neogaf0e-20
I've been listening to this program over and over and I'm starting to produce results that I didn't think I could produce just a few months ago. All the things I talk about are in this audio CD collection. If you want to make significant changes in your life I
highly highly highly recommend you get this program, listen to it, and follow through on all the assignments.
And if you want to get it for a lower price you can probably find this set for a lot cheaper on ebay or buy it used off of amazon.com