Chatting up 3 girls is easier than one that is alone because they are more comfortable and they think you will hit on their friend and not her so they are less on the defensive.
Good for you if you're able to do this. I was never good at going up to a group of girls and chatting with them. 1 is easy and 2 is ok but more than that, I feel that I'm interrupting their group conversation.
I just can't envision any scenario where texting amounts to meaningful conversation or "building rapport". Texting sucks. It's a tool that's useful for establishing logistics, not a way to get to know a person or have an actual conversation.
I agree but I'm surprised at how much the younger generation use this as a crutch to avoid face-to-face conversation. My oldest daughter is 13 and does the email/chat/text thing all the time instead of picking up the phone. I still remember when my parents got my sister her own phone since she was using it all the time.
Is it normal to feel that I'll likely never meet anybody if by 28 I've never dated or had a girlfriend? I just feel like I am out of the game now.
As a guy gets older, the prospective women increases, almost exponentially. It's amazing. I know a lot more single women than single guys. Just increase your efforts to do interesting things and make a point of talking to women (and guys) so you're more comfortable. Then you'll get opportunities to go out on dates or make new friendships.
Happily, I was wrong. I had invited her over for today with enticement of spinach feta pie and watching F1. She said that she needed to clean and today probably wouldn't be good.
I texted her a pic of the food around 12:30pm and she said that looked really good and she was almost done cleaning. I responded playing dumb just saying the race started later than I thought. Picked up my phone a couple of times and saw she was writing something but never sent it. After the race I told her that I would bring some over "free delivery". She was down. We hung out a couple of hours.
Things are going well at this point. I know she wants to see me and I am willing to take things as slow as she needs even though I want her now. I told her at the end of our Thursday date that I don't want to do anything to make her uncomfortable. With stuff she has gone through in the past, this is the best way to handle it.
I was surprised at how you persisted in meeting with her. When she said that she rather clean, I would have dropped the idea. But I give you kudos for continuing to pursue her because there's always the possibility that she's so-so on the idea of hanging out with you but as time goes on, she falls in love with you. That can happen and it's worth a shot.
Being good looking doesn't automatically make you attractive. Sure it can help, but an average looking guy who makes me laugh, can hold a decent conversation with me and who makes me feel special is infinitely more attractive to me than a good looking guy who can't do those things. Plenty of girls are shallow but do you really want to date someone who only cares about your looks?
And jesus stop being so hung up on your fucking height. I mean come on. There is literally nothing you can do about it. You're what, 5'6? You're not that short. There's a guy in my work who is shorter than me (I'm 5'4 at a push) and his height wouldn't put me off dating him (other things, like the fact we work together, do put me off though). Your height isn't stopping you getting girls but your attitude almost certainly is.
Taking a good look around and seeing other couples out there will make you realize that not everyone is a hunk dating a hottie. There are plenty of average people out there (average people still look good in my opinion) and many who are below average who are in relationships. You will have to have the complete package as electricshake mentioned.
I also think being closer to the height of the girl is easier than being much taller. It's not as easy for me to kiss my wife who is 5'4" while I'm 6'.
I'm in a good mood!
