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First kiss: first date or second date?

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MercuryLS

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Went out with this girl I liked a few days ago, I didn't want to be too forward so I ended it with a handshake. Fuck.

So I thought i blew it and even texted her a "Apologies for the slightly awkward goodbye, lol". Fuck again.

Miraculously we have a second date tomorrow and I will seal it with a kiss. She must have dug me enough to overlook the awkwardness.

What say you GAF? Kiss on date 1 or 2.

Edit: For the folks just joining us, I sealed the deal on date 2.

 

Prologue

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Whatever feels natural, you'll know it.

Handshake gave her a little giggle though (the good kind). For future reference just give her a hug and possibly a kiss on the cheek.
 

MercuryLS

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I usually fuck on the first date

I know, her body language suggested it too. I just didn't want to be too forward. I will seal the deal on date 2. Hopefully the lack of kiss on date 1 will build anticipation for it on date 2.
 

Spine_Ripper

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Wow, you fucked up hard. You should be thankful she likes you so damn much. Everyone knows you don't shake hands until the night of the wedding. You go in for the kiss AFTER you have your first born. Cmon OP.
 

Mistel

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Just wait to you reach the natural point in the relationship where it's appropriate. Don't rush it.
 

terrisus

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If you both actually know it's a date (and not just "hanging out" or something) - first date, definitely.


Also, seriously:

You'd be better doing nothing giving someone a handshake at the end of a date.

This.
 
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My girlfriend of over two years and I practically mauled each other on our first date in the parking lot of the restaurant we met at. It was February, and we wanted to pretend that we were responsible enough to wait a minimum five dates before banging, so kissing was all we did. Longest drive back home ever.
 

Kieli

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First kiss whenever you feel comfortable doing it.

If there was an algorithm or formula, believe me, Mathematicians would be swimming in the 'tush.
 

Matugi

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lmao dude it could be worse, i snuggled with this chick for two hours on the first date then let herself show her the way back to her dorm. didn't even wait with her for the bus. I'm a dick.
 

MercuryLS

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That'll get her wet.

It was happening in slow motion with me going "what are you doing?".

Honestly the reason I did that was the last first date I went on I went for a hug and a kiss on the cheek and never heard from that girl again.
 

terrisus

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First kiss whenever you feel comfortable doing it.

If there was an algorithm or formula, believe me, Mathematicians would be swimming in the 'tush.

As a Mathematician who is figuratively "swimming in the 'tush," I think I may have something.
 

BTM

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I've never heard of ending a date with a handshake. You'll know when it's time to kiss
 

Messypandas

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It was happening in slow motion with me going "what are you doing?".

Honestly the reason I did that was the last first date I went on I went for a hug and a kiss on the cheek and never heard from that girl again.

Yeah. You're worried about being forward, but also reticence like that can give the signal you're not interested.

I wouldn't think anything of the girl who shrugged you. Don't let that inform your actions on future dates. On that same token I wouldn't really listen to any advice here on "which date" you should kiss. Look for signals and body language. Is she comfortable around you, does she especially laugh at your jokes? Are you getting body contact on the date? Like knees touching under the table, longer stares? If it feels right honestly just do it. Do not wait and second guess yourself.
 

Courage

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It depends how much grinding I've been doing throughout the date. If I'm ready to tackle the first kiss battle, then I'm gonna go in with full HP and try to buff my team up.
 

Kambing

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Hmm,

Always situational in my opinion. But if the date you find to be at least satisfactory, i would at the very minimum go for the handshake to kiss move lol.
 

Nephtis

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I always go for a hug. I go for the kiss on the 2nd date, unless she's very receptive then I do it on the 1st date. Or, y'know, fuck on the 1st date.

But yeah, a handshake? C'mon man. I mean... C'mon.
 

MercuryLS

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On the positive side, if she's willing to go our with me again I must have made a damn good impression her beyond that stupidity at the end.
 

SteelAttack

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Went out with this girl I liked a few days ago, I didn't want to be too forward so I ended it with a handshake. Fuck.

So I thought i blew it and even texted her a "Aplogies for the slightly awkward goodbye, lol". Fuck again.

Miraculously we have a second date tomorrow and I will seal it with a kiss. She must have dug me enough to overlook the awkwardness.

What say you GAF? Kiss on date 1 or 2.
Handshake: strike one
Awkward text about handshake: strike two
Don't mess things up OP. GAF is counting on you.
 
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