sublime085 said:So I haven't been dating very long, only a few months so far, and three weeks ago I met a guy I really hit it off with. We hung out like five days in a row when we first starting going out. Went out to gay bars three Saturdays in a row. We've been having lot of fun I thought.
This past Saturday hasn't gone as well as the rest of our dates, and there were a few things we didn't see eye to eye on. In particular, our roles in the bedroom. He only wants to top and never wants to bottom at all ever. He said he's tried it before and he doesn't like it. He even kinda said that the whole area is off limits. I said that when I bottom for a guy, I generally like to know them for a while, and that I kinda expect reciprocation. I probably dragged the conversation on longer than it should have gone but it ended amicably with him saying "We'll see what happens" Whatever I was fine with that. We went to the strip club and made out in the corner for a while, so it seemed everything was fine. We even swapped head in his car before we parted ways for the night and he said to call him the next day.
That was Saturday. He hasn't returned my phone call or the handful of texts I sent him since. He did start a new internship today, but he's had the time for facebook statuses (from his phone no less)
Is this guy pretty much just giving me the brush off? Is two days of no contact after three weeks dating normal/abnormal? Like I said I'm very inexperienced dating and this is kinda the first guy I've had multiple dates with. It kinda sucks if that's the case, he was really freaking cute and I enjoyed our time together. And if he isn't interested anymore I wish he would just say so. Maybe I'm just overreacting? Or is he being an ass? I don't know. Kinda feeling rejected at the moment, felt better just to type that out.
I went through something similar to what you described, except we were a a bit further into our relationship. Going by what you wrote, the brush off is a possibility, but I wouldn't rule out the fact that he just might be really busy. I know it's hard to stop texting sometimes, especially when you don't get a reply initally. In my experience it can actually turn the guy off, especially considering you don't know him all too well. I feel like you've made your point -- you want to continue seeing him. Lay off the communication for a little while and see what happens.
It sucks to have to see the person communicating and updating FB, yet doesn't have the decency to send you a quick text to tell you he's alive, or down for hanging out later on. If you don't hear from him soon make one last attempt to contact him. If he's undervaluing the time you spent together and is really turned off by the whole being a bottom conversation, he's probably not someone you want to continue seeing anyway.