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My cousin is cheating on his wife.
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Clockwork
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This is the craziest thing I've ever heard.
If your wife was cheating on you you can't really say that you have "a damn good marriage"
I guess for some it's just easier (but crazy) to stick your head in the sand.
Invisible_Insane
Member
This is the arrogance I'm talking about. I'm not discounting the notion that relationships should be open only by mutual consent, but declaring that their marriage cannot be good if it does not live up to your standards is absolutely ridiculous.
Sho_Nuff82
Member
Unless you know the person being cheated on, stay out of it. Sad but the truth could do far more harm to the wife and kids than the ignorance. And you don't really have proof other than he was going to get drinks with a colleague.
This is one of the silliest things I've read in quite a while. I'm guessing you're okay with cheating with your wife, if it sustains your relationship.
If the wife wants to fuck another man or vice-versa then maybe they should sit down and talk, and see what can be done. Some women and men are okay with their partner being a swinger, and some are not. If they're not okay with swinging then you're going to accept that and if you think you need to cheat on your wife in secrecy to sustain the marriage, that's pretty fucked up, since the relationship would basically be a lie. If that's your choice then I you have the free will do think like this but I don't see how lying and cheating is a sustainable marriage. What if she sleeps with someone with an STD for example? or falls in love with that fuck buddy? so many wrong thins could come out of it
It just isn't that black and white. As someone who has been put into that situation, it just isn't that black and white.
If she falls in love with someone else, well, then, someone is free to leave a relationship. What if it is you falling in love with someone else? Breaking up is a right.
CornBurrito
Member
Because telling you has no significant cost, and it is the nice thing to do.
Just saw this. I was drunk and joking around. Spent all day with the girl. I apologize if I somehow hurt your feelings.
CoffeeJanitor
Member
You didn't, I just thought it was ironic.
phisheep
NeoGAF's Chief Barrister
It isn't all that crazy or silly. We've been married a long time, and no I'm not OK with cheating on my wife. But neither do I want or need to know if she's been cheating on me.
I get the impression some of you people just haven't been married long enough. Ah, the idealism of youth.
Spot on.
dead souls
Member
Agreed. I don't get the whole 'if someone cheated once the relationship is irrevocably bad, no matter what' vibe a lot of the posts in here have.
One or two mistakes over a decades long relationship seems rather inconsequential. It certainly wouldn't be a deal breaker to me.
Zaraki_Kenpachi
Member
Except for some it is. It's not that others haven't been married long enough, it's that they don't want a spouse that cheats on them. I don't see how that makes them dumber than you are.
lmao
rainking187
Member
I wouldn't call cheating a "mistake". Cheating is a relationship ender as far as I'm concerned.
Bay Maximus
Banned
Agreed. If someone who cheated on me said it was a mistake I imagine I'd be very insulted.
Sickboy007
Member
90 times out of 100, that would be my answer too. But it all depends on the context, the person, and the relationship.
Rentahamster
Rodent Whores
Momochi has the patience of a saint.
Devolution
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Professor Beef
Banned
He plays Cody, of course he's going to know how to be patient.
If that cheater tries to make me an accessory, then hell yes I'm exposing his ass.
Incitemaybe
Member
You sound really young OP. Take a stand, do what you think is best.
Tell your cousin no. Have a backbone. You'll find it in time.
Tell your cousin no. Have a backbone. You'll find it in time.
Al-ibn Kermit
Junior Member
Tell your cousin to come clean to his wife immediately after he gets back home. There is no doubt that he is cheating and that is something that his wife has to know. Don't worry about getting tangled in this, I'm sure once you've mentioned everything the wife will figure out what she wants to do and you'll be free from this as you only knew about this single incident.
The worst case scenario is that they get divorced sooner than they would have otherwise.
LOL the mods came in pretty fast considering it's 2 AM on the west coast.
The worst case scenario is that they get divorced sooner than they would have otherwise.
LOL the mods came in pretty fast considering it's 2 AM on the west coast.
moniker
Member
Maybe if there was a risk that the Monopoly cheater could give another player a potentially life threatening disease.
Darren870
Member
I "tend" to agree with the majority of GAF on a a lot of things, however cheating was one thing I never agreed with the majority on.
There are two types of "cheaters" in my opinion.
1. The accidental "cheater". One who goes out with some friends, gets smashed and might kiss or make out another person. This in my opinion is not a cheater. I mean its one thing if it happens every month, but a few times over a long solid relationship....really that's cheating? Mistakes happens, we are humans, we are attracted to others. Such is life....
My current gf (of 7 years) admitted this to me once. That she kissed another guy once. I honestly didn't care. Such if life, things happen.
2. The looking for it "cheater". One who goes out and looks to cheat. This I don't agree with and is pretty much what my dad did to my mom when they were married. My mom caught him pretty much every time but she stayed with him for the kids.
Anyways...not sure where I was going. To the OP....keep it to yourself, none of your business. People also like to talk alot and boost their ego, even if it makes them look like a douche. Could be 100% not true and you would ruin some ones home life.
how the hell did the Third Reich enter this thread? lmao.
lol @ black and white GAF. Shit is more complex than this, I know cheaters who are GREAT parents.
lol @ black and white GAF. Shit is more complex than this, I know cheaters who are GREAT parents.
This is Gaf dude, there is no grey area... never!
You are missing the point if that's what you got out of it. Religious people are as fallible as anyone else but it is when you decide to be preachy and judgmental about it (i.e. my cousin being critical of America's supposed lack of values by accepting gays and transgendered people) that when you inevitably make a mistake that you are made to look like a hypocrite. He could have just as easily not made his values an issue by not bringing it up at all.
Anyway, to update the thread, my cousin leaves tomorrow morning and all cockblock attempts were successful. I'll talk to my parents about it tomorrow evening. I have a feeling their insight will help me understand this situation a lot better.
It doesn't live up to his standards either. He just doesn't want to know if it actually does or doesn't.
Foxy Fox 39
Banned
I never go more than 20 seconds without an UP+Taunt.
Mammoth Jones
Member
I would mind my business but make it plain and clear I'm not cool with helping a grown man cheat on his wife. He wants to do that, he can do it w/o my help.
Castor Krieg
Banned
Do nothing. His life is all messed up as it is, with his teenage kids, him thinking he wasted his 20s (which he did, lol), and his wife getting fat and ugly as a result of getting the kids and not going back into shape.
Typical family, typical problems. Not your business. He will be gone soon, forget about it and move on.
Old Internet rule.
Do not do that, spare yourself the trouble. Also, about religious people - if you are in organized religious community and you do not dislike gays you are doing it wrong.
UPDATE:
I spoke to my parents about it, but they never really had much to say. They told me how they also thought it was weird that he kept telling them that his wife was really fat and how his possible infidelity might explain why he was so vocal about his wife's weight. They also explained more about his oldest child (confirmed she had a different mother than his other two kids).
That night they went out he did mention a "friend" who might join them but after going back and fourth on the matter, he eventually decided against it. They said that if he wants to come back they might just tell him to stay at a hotel instead of with us, so some progress? I made it clear that I did not like this guy but my parents were less judgmental about it. This might be one of those situations where I'd have to walk a mile in my cousins shoes to understand what makes him the way he is because I otherwise can not understand or empathize with his behavior.
Huh? Well sure, but you don't have to be a dick to gay people.
Yes? You are posting on a video game message board on the internet.
I spoke to my parents about it, but they never really had much to say. They told me how they also thought it was weird that he kept telling them that his wife was really fat and how his possible infidelity might explain why he was so vocal about his wife's weight. They also explained more about his oldest child (confirmed she had a different mother than his other two kids).
That night they went out he did mention a "friend" who might join them but after going back and fourth on the matter, he eventually decided against it. They said that if he wants to come back they might just tell him to stay at a hotel instead of with us, so some progress? I made it clear that I did not like this guy but my parents were less judgmental about it. This might be one of those situations where I'd have to walk a mile in my cousins shoes to understand what makes him the way he is because I otherwise can not understand or empathize with his behavior.
Huh? Well sure, but you don't have to be a dick to gay people.
Yes? You are posting on a video game message board on the internet.
Is your life really so bland you are this excited by a cousin you never met (or know existed) cheating on his wife who you have never met. Really, I dont see how once he leaves you will not immediately forget about him. Or at least I would.
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