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My girlfriend is a lesbian.
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We'll be referencing this link again in the "Oh shit, I've been accused of rape" thread he'll end up posting in 2013.
I feel for you OP. Dealt with that shit last year. came out of fucking nowhere. I was heart broken.
Lol. Dated a girl for two years who gave me this excuse near the end
Lol. Dated a girl for two years who gave me this excuse near the end
A friend of mine dated a girl for like a month and a half. They split up on good terms but a few weeks later she was dating a smoking hot girl. Like George Costanza said, once you see them with a girl you suddenly can't get them out of your mind.
As far as I know they're both still together and have been for a while. I have no idea whether it's just that girl or if she's done dating men completely, but it seems to be the latter.
As far as I know they're both still together and have been for a while. I have no idea whether it's just that girl or if she's done dating men completely, but it seems to be the latter.
TheChewyWaffles
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Cot damn
Same thing happened to me OP, a little over 4 years ago. My then-gf, whom I've known to be bisexual before I got with her, ended our relationship to be with another girl. It was absolutely heartbreaking, more-so when you have to provide reasons for the breakup to your friends. They either say "fuck them both man!" or "damn dude were you THAT bad?" It's annoying.
Baring the first couple of months after the breakup, we remained great friends throughout the years. She officially had 3 gfs since, with that first one last a little more than 2 years, so she was serious about it.
One thing I can tell you is that while it does hurt bad, there's nothing you can do about it except treat it like any breakup. Just go out and meet new people. I learned that I had no control over her sexual preference and that it was inevitable that she would turn the way she is. It still stings...but now....
Ironically, around the time of your posting, I was on the phone with her and she revealed she now has a boyfriend. Color me fucking confused and fucked up now. I don't know what to make of it as part of me is extremely fucking jealous and I have no idea why. Hopefully this doesn't happen to you, but this is just another chapter in an already screwed up story for me.
Baring the first couple of months after the breakup, we remained great friends throughout the years. She officially had 3 gfs since, with that first one last a little more than 2 years, so she was serious about it.
One thing I can tell you is that while it does hurt bad, there's nothing you can do about it except treat it like any breakup. Just go out and meet new people. I learned that I had no control over her sexual preference and that it was inevitable that she would turn the way she is. It still stings...but now....
Ironically, around the time of your posting, I was on the phone with her and she revealed she now has a boyfriend. Color me fucking confused and fucked up now. I don't know what to make of it as part of me is extremely fucking jealous and I have no idea why. Hopefully this doesn't happen to you, but this is just another chapter in an already screwed up story for me.
Spring-Loaded
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Try not to take it too hard OP. It does suck, but anyone who's willing to do the run-around on someone who loves them isn't worth being around in the long run.
Laughing Banana
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This is why I generally uphold the "once you end a romantic relationship with a person, you should cut off ALL sorts of contact regardless you end it in a good or bad note" principle.
Especially if I really love/loved that person. The "we can still be friends" reasoning doesn't really stick with me; it'll be better to cut off contact entirely.
You just want to see the world burn.
ryutaro's mama
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PROTIP: NEVER, EVER agree to open a relationship that was previously monogamous. I have NEVER heard it end well.
Like ever.
If it gets to the point someone wants to date others, just get out.
It's already over.
Like ever.
If it gets to the point someone wants to date others, just get out.
It's already over.
Shhh. Fools deserve pain and anguish. It is their lot in life.
+1, its hard. But it makes you move on.
And sure, if you guys really have such a valuable friendship, FRIENDSHIP, it wont matter that you've moved on romantically, after a hiatus.
Friends can always catch up with friends after a period of time..
Ex's though, its just trouble... hard to do, hard to say no, but its better.
Sad stuff OP.
But just a comment, open relationships are the dumbest things ever. It is like having an employee who pretends he is working to keep the income flowing, but is actually spending his time sending out CVs. When a girl is looking for an open relationship, it is a sign she is looking for someone better than you already.
But just a comment, open relationships are the dumbest things ever. It is like having an employee who pretends he is working to keep the income flowing, but is actually spending his time sending out CVs. When a girl is looking for an open relationship, it is a sign she is looking for someone better than you already.
I feel like we can still be friends. Just not now I think. I think I went through multiple stages of grief throughout the past weeks or so. I need more time, and given how she's still so torn about it, so does she.
It's just awkward because some of her friends... I wouldn't say we're close, but we've had some heart to heart discussions and it personally feels weird, because I wish them the best as well.
Devolution
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Open relationships aren't dumb if the people involved are open and honest about why they want it or it's done because you can't physically be with a person.
ryutaro's mama
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In the OP's case, I don't think he wanted an open relationship.
As I said above, I think he was foolish to agree to an open relationship at the request of his girlfriend when it wasn't what he wanted.
Open relationships can't be one-sided.
Devolution
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In the op's case it's definitely a sign of like "I don't know if I even want to be with you" for sure. Pretty much agreed with that.
SirIgby was kinda like that dude.
Holy mother of god. What in the name of fuck and all oh what the hell. WHAT.
Edit: Suddenly I'm Deb in Dexter. BUT WHAT THE HELL?! That is creepy on a whole 'nother level. Though as someone's who's studied some psychology it's also kind of interesting.
For some reason, I decided to play some music from eternal sunshine of the spotless mind tonight.
I don't know if I should have, I remembered that the night we first watched it together (the first night I had seen the movie,) was the first time I realized I loved someone other than family.
Bawled like a little baby for the first time in perhaps over 10 years.
It's gotta be one step at a time. My main instinct is to sprint or run or jump to anything, so I think I may have jumped the gun on that. I wrote a little something about it:
Gotta pick myself up. Quite a few lessons learned.
I don't know if I should have, I remembered that the night we first watched it together (the first night I had seen the movie,) was the first time I realized I loved someone other than family.
Bawled like a little baby for the first time in perhaps over 10 years.
It's gotta be one step at a time. My main instinct is to sprint or run or jump to anything, so I think I may have jumped the gun on that. I wrote a little something about it:
Gotta pick myself up. Quite a few lessons learned.
first post nails it.
SirIgby was kinda like that dude.
I really, really hope this is fake because it's legitimately horrifying.
Especially the part where the supposed friend of the poor girl pops in and says the dude was agressive and groped her. Creepy as hell.
I've really been on a replying spree, but I'm totally good right now.
I talked to her tonight, and I realized something.
I loved her, but in my head I could never imagine her being in a family, or having children, or anything of that sort. I'm young as hell, but if I was beating myself over having loved her, but couldn't imagine my future with her, then well, it makes it a lot easier.
And what is this :|
I talked to her tonight, and I realized something.
I loved her, but in my head I could never imagine her being in a family, or having children, or anything of that sort. I'm young as hell, but if I was beating myself over having loved her, but couldn't imagine my future with her, then well, it makes it a lot easier.
SirIgby was kinda like that dude.
And what is this :|
wickedcapedkid
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Yea this happened to me once. I feel your pain Mr. OP.
Discotheque
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stop messing with his beat poet style.
Moral Panic
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Stop bullying SirIgby under a guise of superiority,
Roland Deschain
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This is absolutely the best course of action. When a couple breaks up there's a big chance that one of the two still has deeper feelings towards the other.
Always-honest
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Although i agree it's the best option in most cases, it gets kinda hard when there are kids involved.
Guise? Have you read that thread?
NinjaBoiX
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