Hey GAF, I'm coming to you with some relationship problems.
I've been in a relationship with a great girl for the last nearly 3 years. She's so down to earth, humble, kind, fun loving, and funny. She has a warm soul and she's always exploring new hobbies and trying to better herself. She's smart and insightful, she always offers unique perspectives, and she's really understanding. I love her temperament and how she addresses things, and I love that she always stands up for herself and what's right. She's really a special person.
We met in college, but I left that school for one closer to home, so we spent 2 years apart. However, her family lives 40 minutes away from me, so we saw each other plenty during breaks and FaceTime'd frequently after classes.
The last two years were great. Sometimes a little hard, as life can get in the way, but whenever we are together things are wonderful. We really love each other.
This year, she graduated, and has been living at home. She was unemployed most of the year, and just started as a barista. She's felt some pressure to try applying to grad school, but she doesn't seem into it.
I've been juggling working part time in the city (a roughly 4 hour a day commute) and finishing school. So, time has been scarce during the week, but we've always made time for each other on weekends.
But this year has been different, for both of us. We've grown distant. The weeks feel longer, and it takes a lot to remind ourselves that the other is a real person, and not part of our imagination or just living on our phone. We talk almost every night, but it really doesn't feel like enough, for either of us.
Today I had a crummy day, feeling especially distant from her. So it came up, and we talked. We both feel the same way, that during the week we can feel love for each other, but it's really hard to say we're "in love" over the phone. When we're together, everything feels great and normal, and a lot of the time our grievances from the week are ignored because everything feels fine.
So we talked about how we feel. The distance being a big part of it, for both of us.
I've been thinking of moving out to shorten my commute to work and also to her, so I suggested I move to near her town, rather than in the city. I'm graduating in December, working full time, and making good money. She said she doesn't want to be the reason, and she would rather me save my money to pursue other passions (mainly, game dev, which I could do at home).
This kind of went in circles for awhile until we hung up. We're seeing each other Friday (though depending on whether I hear from her, I may go to see her tomorrow).
Talking reaffirmed to me just how important she is to me. I love her, and I love who I am when I am with her, and I really don't want to imagine her not being in my life. We've been long distance, even now being only 40 minutes away, for so long. I feel like if we don't give living close by a shot, then it'd be a shame to wonder "what if?". I would really love to be able to see her every day, and share our every day lives rather than live separately and come together on weekends. To me, it sounds like a dream come true.
Since we hung up, I haven't heard from her. It ended as well as it could've, I guess, but she said she wanted to be alone and think and go to bed.
I'm just wondering if you guys have any advice.
I've been in a relationship with a great girl for the last nearly 3 years. She's so down to earth, humble, kind, fun loving, and funny. She has a warm soul and she's always exploring new hobbies and trying to better herself. She's smart and insightful, she always offers unique perspectives, and she's really understanding. I love her temperament and how she addresses things, and I love that she always stands up for herself and what's right. She's really a special person.
We met in college, but I left that school for one closer to home, so we spent 2 years apart. However, her family lives 40 minutes away from me, so we saw each other plenty during breaks and FaceTime'd frequently after classes.
The last two years were great. Sometimes a little hard, as life can get in the way, but whenever we are together things are wonderful. We really love each other.
This year, she graduated, and has been living at home. She was unemployed most of the year, and just started as a barista. She's felt some pressure to try applying to grad school, but she doesn't seem into it.
I've been juggling working part time in the city (a roughly 4 hour a day commute) and finishing school. So, time has been scarce during the week, but we've always made time for each other on weekends.
But this year has been different, for both of us. We've grown distant. The weeks feel longer, and it takes a lot to remind ourselves that the other is a real person, and not part of our imagination or just living on our phone. We talk almost every night, but it really doesn't feel like enough, for either of us.
Today I had a crummy day, feeling especially distant from her. So it came up, and we talked. We both feel the same way, that during the week we can feel love for each other, but it's really hard to say we're "in love" over the phone. When we're together, everything feels great and normal, and a lot of the time our grievances from the week are ignored because everything feels fine.
So we talked about how we feel. The distance being a big part of it, for both of us.
I've been thinking of moving out to shorten my commute to work and also to her, so I suggested I move to near her town, rather than in the city. I'm graduating in December, working full time, and making good money. She said she doesn't want to be the reason, and she would rather me save my money to pursue other passions (mainly, game dev, which I could do at home).
This kind of went in circles for awhile until we hung up. We're seeing each other Friday (though depending on whether I hear from her, I may go to see her tomorrow).
Talking reaffirmed to me just how important she is to me. I love her, and I love who I am when I am with her, and I really don't want to imagine her not being in my life. We've been long distance, even now being only 40 minutes away, for so long. I feel like if we don't give living close by a shot, then it'd be a shame to wonder "what if?". I would really love to be able to see her every day, and share our every day lives rather than live separately and come together on weekends. To me, it sounds like a dream come true.
Since we hung up, I haven't heard from her. It ended as well as it could've, I guess, but she said she wanted to be alone and think and go to bed.
I'm just wondering if you guys have any advice.
