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So, anyone else planning their lives around being single forever?

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Relix

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I am 24. Quite successful I'd say and working my way up slowly (no shortcuts) in the "world". I have many friends and have had my share of relationships. Yet at this point in life (young I know) I am planning everything in the long term around being single; not even in a serious relationship. Everything I always think is by myself. I have plans to buy a house by myself next year, i wanna travel, I don't want kids in any sense (I like them for two hours) and right now I am quite devoted to work and planning future trips. I feel a relationship would suck what little free time I have for myself, and which I appreciate a lot.

I am facing a recent hurdle with many friends moving to other states or getting married, so my huge friends base from before has diminished to maybe two, three core friends and others. Social life is diminishing each passing month it seems. Still... I don't see myself getting serious in a relationship to cover this "lonely" spot. II don't know, just a boring rant from someone bored at the moment. Anyone else planning their lives around being single for the foreseeable future?**

**I know life can throw curveballs at you.

//LJ Rant Off
 
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Relix

he's Virgin Tight™
see5harp said:
I should probably buy a fleshlight too.
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I just realized my tag will haunt me in this thread. God... dammit...

As a sidenote, sex isn't really an issue. I feel I am ok with the ladies so I feel that won't be lacking for some time. I mean... its not copious amounts of sex but I can survive with that and the porn. God bless the porn.
 
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Napoleonthechimp

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I have coping mechanisms that allow me to survive being single for my entire life, but I'd be a liar if I said I absolutely didn't want to meet someone eventually and maybe have kids.
 
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freshair

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Relix said:
I am 24. Quite successful I'd say and working my way up slowly (no shortcuts) in the "world". I have many friends and have had my share of relationships. Yet at this point in life (young I know) I am planning everything in the long term around being single; not even in a serious relationship. Everything I always think is by myself. I have plans to buy a house by myself next year, i wanna travel, I don't want kids in any sense (I like them for two hours) and right now I am quite devoted to work and planning future trips. I feel a relationship would suck what little free time I have for myself, and which I appreciate a lot.

I am facing a recent hurdle with many friends moving to other states or getting married, so my huge friends base from before has diminished to maybe two, three core friends and others. Social life is diminishing each passing month it seems. Still... I don't see myself getting serious in a relationship to cover this "lonely" spot. II don't know, just a boring rant from someone bored at the moment. Anyone else planning their lives around being single for the foreseeable future?**

**I know life can throw curveballs at you.

//LJ Rant Off
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Good for you. I'm an advocate for working on yourself and making sure you're happy with life before letting anyone else into it. And if that means being single so you can do what you want to do, then great.

But I also think there's something special about having a companion with whom you connect it on a level that is deeply emotional. And that is something grand that I don't think you can necessarily "plan" for one way or the other.

What's that saying? The best things happen when you least expect it? ;)
 
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jehuty

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I know marriage isn't something I want. I could see myself being single or just being wih someone in an extremely long relationship. I wouldn't bother me one bit if I was single forever. Not because I see tons of misery in couples (which I do), but rather that I just like having options available to me guilt free. This all becomes a problem because I do want kids some day. But marriage is definetely off the table.
 
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speculawyer

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I am but I'm old and have already been married. I'm too jaded and the cost/benefit analysis just doesn't work out. I've had bad experiences and I just can't do it again . . . I just don't have it in me. (But on the good side, at least I don't take it out on anyone else.)
 
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akira28

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I'm not, but I know some women who are. Atleast that's what they told me when I told them...stuff.

Last I checked, they were still single...so I guess they were pretty serious about it.
 
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Relix

he's Virgin Tight™
freshair said:
Good for you. I'm an advocate for working on yourself and making sure you're happy with life before letting anyone else into it. And if that means being single so you can do what you want to do, then great.

But I also think there's something special about having a companion with whom you connect it on a level that is deeply emotional. And that is something grand that I don't think you can necessarily "plan" for one way or the other.

What's that saying? The best things happen when you least expect it? ;)
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I am repressed emotionally maybe haha. I've had my relationships and some have had happy endings and others have had sour endings. I feel like I've gone through the whole thing by now.

jehuty said:
I know marriage isn't something I want. I could see myself being single or just being wih someone in an extremely long relationship. I wouldn't bother me one bit if I was single forever. Not because I see tons of misery in couples (which I do), but rather that I just like having options available to me guilt free. This all becomes a problem because I do want kids some day. But marriage is definetely off the table.
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Yeah I could see myself in a long relationship but I am not getting married. Hell no.
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If your life is driven by your career you are facing a boring drive to your grave.
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I am becoming a workaholic, but no... career is not my drive. I wanna do stuff, visit places, meet new people, go get shitfaced or go to an amazing party, sit by the beach, get home and do some minutes of excercise then sit in front of my TV, turn the AC on, and sit down and watch a movie or play a game. Career just helps me make all of this true and better with time, which is why I am devoting so much time to it lately.
 
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demon

I don't mean to alarm you but you have dogs on your face
I'm 31, going on 32 (in case you couldn't work out the math on that one). I've always been single and I don't expect that to change any time soon. Who knows what might happen in the next 10-20 years, but I have a very hard time seeing that change. So yeah in that sense I'm planning my life around being single.

Jesus where the fuck did my 20s go.
 
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Draper

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Dude, I wish I could be that independent. Maybe it's because I lack many friends, but I find being out of a relationship so joyless. I want to share my life with a significant other. My last girl left me about 6 months ago, and I am so goddamn depressed still as a result.
 
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Woorloog

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Perhaps. Most certainly i do not want a family (and i'm unlikely to change in this). Don't particularly care for the idea of a relationship either. Too complicated, and i know i wouldn't be the easiest person to live with, more like the opposite.
Not sure yet, of course, first i gotta figure out what i like to do and so on, perhaps i'll be satisfied with those. EDIT i really don't need much, something interesting for work, a place to live, video games and books for free time, good food but this is a non-issue since i can cook well enough (EDIT well, a few friends is nice, but i have those. The rest is more or less irrelevant for me).
EDIT also want to keep my options open, hate being tied down.
 
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Wind's Howling

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I honestly can't because I live in a country where owning a house and paying the bills is almost impossible to do on a single salary, especially if I want to do more than just eat, shit and sleep.
 
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wenis

Registered for GAF on September 11, 2001.
I'm planning the foreseeable future with the idea that I'll be single.

My outlook isn't positive, I'm rather unfit for human consumption of any kind. You people are lucky this barrier of the internet is here.
 
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lbk62

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believe me, being all alone at the end of the day is fucking sad, still you are very young, im 27 and i will get married, and have kids, i know they are serious business, but hell i want a kid to raise, share games, fight, talk, cry etc etc.

besides my old folks want some niece to inject some new life to the house.

the smiles, the moments, the joy, you will change your opinion, remember my words.
 
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Zen_Arcade

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I wouldn't rule out getting married, but honestly I never enjoyed being in a relationship much in the first place and almost everyone I know that is in a long term relationship or married seems pretty miserable. I know there are happy couples who stay together for decades, but the average seems skewed towards failure.

The thought of waking up in 20 years and my whole life centering around having to take care of kids and being with a woman I'm not attracted to anymore sounds way worse then getting a house by myself with an awesome job and spending my money on things that make me happy.
 
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Visualante2

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I heard this nice analogy. Life is like a 4 stove oven. Each of the four most important things are on there. You might have friends/family, work, hobbies and health. If you want to be successful in one you have to turn one down, and if you want to be really successful in one you have to turn two down. I quite liked it. I don't got much on any of them, anticipating I'll be single for the rest of my life.
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Some of us enjoy our careers, by the way.
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m4OpCHHl5wo
 
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Monsieur

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Am 20, I don't want to be tied down just yet. I want to finish college and find a job before I am committed to a relationship.
 
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gryz

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wenis said:
I'm planning the foreseeable future with the idea that I'll be single.

My outlook isn't positive, I'm rather unfit for human consumption of any kind. You people are lucky this barrier of the internet is here.
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Zen_Arcade

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creationtheory said:
And I'm sure it will provide you with a lifetime of fulfillment.
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It really depends on what job it is and what you enjoy out of life. I would feel 1000x more fulfilled if I could get a job covering my favorite baseball team then I would having kids and working a job I hate just to support them.
 
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.GqueB.

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Nah man I need to bang. I'm sort of there though. I don't plan on having kids and a family or anything like that. I'm much too selfish for such things.
 
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Relix

he's Virgin Tight™
.GqueB. said:
Nah man I need to bang. I'm sort of there though. I don't plan on having kids and a family or anything like that. I'm much too selfish for such things.
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Just go to a nearby bar/club, meet ladies... try to hit it off. Its like a puzzle game, and I play it in hard more (overweight :p!), but the pay off is usually great
 
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jb1234

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Yeah. I'm not really okay with it but life circumstances just don't make it possible for me to sustain a romantic relationship with someone else.
 
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gryz

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spending your life alone is kinda pointless. once you're gone all your experiences are gone with you, with no one to share them with.
 
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killertofu

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After my last relationship, I'm kind of over them now.

I just want to focus on myself for once. Being in a relationship is really distracting and a lot of things can go wrong. If you're just focusing on yourself then there's a lot less heartbreak.

I also still want my ex but that's not going to happen :(
 
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