The reason I thought it seemed shallow wasn't just because you were only focusing on the biological, but because you were acting like a biological determinist while doing so. And there's nothing particularly deep or complex about biological determinism. The entire message of biological determinism is that our biology is determinative and that our cultural constructs are either nonexistent or simply extensions of those basic biological drives. And you have said yourself that you believe that we "create social constructs out of emotions and instinctual drives" and "I personally don't think you can change society in that way because I think it is a part of our nature"
So you certainly sound like a dyed in the wool biological determinist. All of your arguments have focused on biology to the exclusion of culture, and your commentary when asked about it has been expressing skepticism of the idea that within whatever biological realities there are, there's an large range of possible expressions and that we can construct masculine identities that are healthier and happier (which was the point of my post about the question being whether we encourage the worst aspects of typically masculine behavior or discourage them).
Yet you keep insisting that you're not "allowing my own view on how we should live our lives effect my reasoning." But unless your view isn't that biology is determinative, I don't see how you can say this, since so far it seems like your personal views about what our limits are in terms of defining what it is to be male and your views about biology match up one to one.
And this conversation would be a lot less frustrating if you actually said what your position was on this so we could argue about that. You're not being objective by not saying what you think; it makes this more like arguing with a moving target as you sometimes say that you yourself don't have these problems (in which case, you recognize that biology isn't determinative) and other times you say that it isn't really possible to create a society in which men are less aggressive and more compassionate (and argued in terms of biological determinism). So which is it? Is this one of those "Well I know I can, but I worry about the rest of society" things? Right now it seems like you keep flitting about.
Well, the thing is it isn't. My personal view is that we've reached a level of evolution where instinctual drives, biological traits no longer fully determine our behaviour. One of the major factors for this is the ability to self-analyse, to be completely self-aware of our own nature and the world around us. Metaphorically speaking, we have climbed out of darkness and entered the light. We can observe what we may see as negative traits and try to adhere to a greater ideal and concept of what it is to be human.
I explored the biological side of things for the simple reason that we generally don't even consider this in these conversations, yet it is still a part of us. In some respects our behaviour is completely contradictory, living by
reason yet still influenced to a degree by the irrational. Why we sometimes do things that we regret in the heat of moment, i.e. get angry, lash out. Yet we know the reason we do these things is because it is simply a part of our nature. Self-awareness means we no longer have a sort of harmony that other animals enjoy as we see outside of our nature.
It is not so much me believing our behaviour is determined by instinctive processes, but rather looking at human nature as dualistic and contradictory. The rational mind being at odds with primal urges. Perhaps now those impulses are unrequired and somewhat dormant; a product of an earlier period of our existence. Perhaps we express those urges now in different ways.
There are certain things I notice though. The reality we perceive is relative or connected to the functions of the physical and chemical body in which we exist. It is perhaps not always a matter of our primitive self and our enlightened self being separate, but rather interwoven. If the lust for sex didn't exist for instance, we wouldn't seek intimate partners to begin with. All the complexity of the situation is irrelevant. In the same way if we did not love or feel deep attachment to others, we would not understand the consequence of their separation. To kill another person, to hurt someone's feelings would not necessarily lead to deep regret. A fight may break out between two people. Even though there might be a very good reason for why it occurred, I boil it down to a tendency to get angry; an impulse to strike out. Basic drives influence and effects our behaviour no matter how complex. Without them being there, the ideas and views we shape would be very different.
Of course what complicates things further is that nature is imperfect. We all have our own strengths and weaknesses. There are many different variables and factors that determine the subtleties of our behaviour. For that reason we can't speak in absolute terms, but rather in general terms. The complexity of any given situation isn't always easy to predict.
We are capable of living our lives in very different ways, but at the same time, we can't truly escape the fact that we're also biological beings. Some have greater success than others, but I would wager that certain behaviour types will never be fully eradicated and will surface within society as a whole. I'm really not sure it all boils down to a simple case of nurture. I do remember reading a blog once from a woman who had twins; one boy and one girl. She believed that biology had no effect at all on gender. That it was completely determined by nurture. She claimed that she made sure to treat each child equally and give them the same opportunities. She was shocked however to discover that as they grew, their behaviour began to change. How they both gravitated to different things entirely of their own choice. A lot fo the comments agreed, some claiming it is all true until you have kids. Of course it is anecdotal maybe, but still interesting none-the-less.
In truth, I do wonder if by changing our own behaviours we would then adapt and evolve in a way that better suits us to those behaviours. On the other hand, I wonder if changing our behaviour also has an unforeseen effect. I guess it does do. It was what I was hinting at in my original post, but never really articulated myself well enough.
I do not really concern myself with the way society changes though. I have an opinion sometimes, but deep down I don't really care. I don't see the point really if I am only here temporary. We have the gift of self-awareness in which we climbed out of the primordial pit to a higher level of reality. Perhaps this is the journey we were always supposed to take. In that sense perhaps we should just sit back and see where it takes us.