I feel like I'm not making progress in my life because I'll never have a family.
I feel self-worth from my relationships with others. Otherwise, I'm just a shut-in nobody. I don't like the average person out there in the world. I have nothing in common with them and they think I'm weird.
I think had some common personality traits with you for quite some time. I looked at what I didn't have instead of what I had in life and where I wanted to be. I saw tons of cars on the road better than mine. I had no place of my own. Felt no woman would marry me since I couldn't take care of myself, afford to take care of us..etc.
What I learned was that I don't need to measure myself by forced expectations. You need to find what will make it worth it for you to wake up each day and live. Find the things which make you happy and don't worry about measuring sticks or even what others think. It's an old addage that you need to love yourself before others can love you. I think you have to like yourself before others like you, and that's a starting point. I'm only referring to others in respect to someone to be with. No one wants to be lonely.
Not everyone is socially perfect, and in fact, it is just that you might have only a little going on in your life you feel you have to offer. I recommend reading, going out there and experiencing what life offers and use it to build outside interests. When you go to museums, plays, art galleries, concerts, movies...etc. you build topics to discuss and things to build interest on that others might find interesting as well. Surround yourself with people who's interests line up with what you find interesting. The Internet can help you do that. Everything is at your fingertips.
The rest, will fall in line eventually.
