Rabbi_Vole
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If I have to eat in a public setting, I always sit in the back and NEVER with my back to the entrance.
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Store security guard allegedly removes feeding baby from womans breast
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If I have to eat in a public setting, I always sit in the back and NEVER with my back to the entrance.
Battersea Power Station
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First, you're gonna have to give a source. Secondly, the comparison doesn't make sense because chipmunks, or whatever, live within 10 feet of their den. Any spot they feed in will be secluded by the very nature of where they live. Human moms have to shop, clean, prepare, work, entertain, etc. in various locations in a much larger population. And babies get hungry all the time and shouldn't be kept waiting, physiologically speaking. Thirdly, I've never heard of a safety issue. I've only heard of problems with breasts because breasts are seen as a sexual organ. I'd argue that more women should breastfeed in public until people get more comfortable with it.
PrivateWHudson
Member
Danger of what? Seriously.
Edit: and what makes it so a vulnerable situation? I fed my kids when my wife wasn't around and never felt vulnerable.
Duane Cunningham
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Ha yeah at first I thought he meant there were like 20 mother's breast feeding at the same time as some sort of demonstration...but nope he just meant a single mother and baby lol
Also, I assume there's a security camera or footage of what happened? It's hard to believe the millisecond the guard tried to touch or remove the baby the mother wouldn't have went off on him, and he been able to take the baby and walk away.
Rabbi_Vole
Banned
Well, just look at the story. It got her child nabbed by a misguided security guard.
Listen, I don't have an issue with breast feeding. It doesnt make me uncomfortable. I just think there are things you have to consider as caregiver before putting you and the child into a potentially vulnerable situation.
I agree with everyone. BF'ing shouldnt be illegal or even frowned upon. Just BF smart.
PrivateWHudson
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Kid could have been just as easily snatched by the guard if she was looking at socks. I doubt feeding had much to do with the (I assume) power imbalance.
Oppo
Member
I wonder if you're gonna try and explain this.
Maybe the guard should have 'corrected' her with a light tap to the body, I've heard that method can even save a marriage. Am I close?
Rabbi_Vole
Banned
I'm sorry you see it that way.
Yup, this pretty much seals it:
Primark said:
I thought there might be a slim chance it all happened in a corner not covered by CCTV, but her trip to the store is on CCTV, and they're happy to show it to police.
Primark should just put the CCTV footage of her entire time there on Youtube and shut this down. She was probably attention seeking, the story snowballed, and she just went with it.
Corronchilejano
Member
Me neither. I would've probably beat the guard to unconsciousness.
EDIT: Should've guessed. No mother would allow anyone to take their infant of their hands. Blood would flow.
perfectchaos007
Member
The language used in her write-up did scream of agenda driven sensationalism right out of a tumblr fan fiction. I guess I'm not surprised
CarpeDeezNutz
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Note how the kid is sitting on top of the handle. That´s dangerous!
Hahahaha that's ridiculous.
PrivateWHudson
Member
Same Lady eh. I guess it's one of those things where you make a living blogging for a cause, then when you succeed, you have nothing to talk about.
First of all, I didn't say women should be anything.
I said most women are more modest when it comes to public breastfeeding. It's not a huge inconvenience to remove yourself from a visibly public space and it saves the women from exposure from creeps, gawkers, picture-takers, etc. What the woman in the original story did is a perfect example.
Rabbi_Vole
Banned
We'd all be better off with a bit more modesty. I was born in the wrong decade. I'd be right at home in the 50s minus all the bigotry and spousal abuse.
Train of Midnight
Banned
Hooooooly shit. If I was a woman, or if I was with a wife and child, I can not even fathom the immediate and uncontrollable rage that would erupt from my body if someone just up and grabbed my baby. Especially because they can't handle breast feeding.
Like, I might be going to jail that night kind of rage.
Like, I might be going to jail that night kind of rage.
LostCaress
Member
I used to think that women should kinda be discreet (if possible) while breastfeeding, but fuck it, it's just a tit who cares. I wouldn't even let a security guard touch my bag (hate fake authority), handling a kid would be unthinkable. But she's a liar and should be jailed.
King Solomon would've deduced that the guard was in fact not the kids real mother.
How are things in Riyadh this time of year
Lol this truly explains everything.
Seductivpancakes
Member
Sounds like victim blaming too me. She was not at fault legally, yet she shouldn't have done it what was a pretty safe environment?
You make it sound like she was breast feeding in the middle of the high way.
Summer Haze
Banned
Lol.
So, you're suggesting a secluded out-of-the-way place with no potential witnesses, correct?
Maninthemirror
Banned
You know...if you are going to be islamophobic in a nuanced way please take your bigoted statements of invoking subtle religious overtones outside and don't troll for the sake of it.
I don't agree with her just letting the guard take her child like that and I dont agree with the guard taking the child just like that. One was too aggressive and one was not aggressive enough in each of their reactions.
But again, if you are going to connect my religion on to EVERYTHING I say even when its not related to any topic, than you are essentially trying your best to bully me verbally. It would be better if you act like most do. with respect. If you are going to invoke my religion in every non religious topic on me, then its better not to quote me again.
EDIT: and now it looks like CCTV shows she might have been making it all up that is was a security guard and perhaps it was no one
see the bolded above, the rest are for the other poster
Lone_Prodigy
Member
BBC should update their story.
OP should update their post with Primark's response.
OP should update their post with Primark's response.
I'm using that from now on.
LostCaress
Member
Which guard? She should be arrested.
DiipuSurotu
Banned
Someone who doesn't exist should be fired?
Done.
Netherscourge
Banned
The security guard should be fired and thrown in jail for kidnapping.
EDIT: if this even happened in the first place.
EDIT: if this even happened in the first place.
Of course. They haven't been showing up to work, after all.
Duane Cunningham
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Even if the original story never happened, there are still some pretty shitty attitudes toward breast feeding in the world (and in this thread). And it says something that the story doesn't seem unbelievable by any means.
Depends on your perspective I guess. Seems ridiculously unbelievable to me.
The Cowboy
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Same here, i get that there are people out there who don't agree with public breastfeeding and that there are indeed crappy security guards who don't like it/deal with it incorrectly (eg: deal with it at all), but a story about a security guard taking a baby from a mothers breast and walking away with the child (basically publicly kidnapping the child) and saying "if you want your daughter, then come get her" is not what I'd call a believable story.
If this is not true (and it really does sound like it isn't), then as far as I'm concerned the woman is an unfit parent and she should also be charged/fined for this - if it is true, then the guard should get jail time for kidnapping.
Yep, that seems essentially how things work now. Someone lies, social media outrage machine goes full cycle, and when the truth is uncovered instead of spending even 10% of the outrage effort apologizing / condemning the liar / or clearing the name of the real victim (who was lied about), people either simply stop talking about it, or shift the story to nonsense about how it could have happened, or how the fact it was initially believable reflects poorly on society.
Rabbi_Vole
Banned
Im sorry for agreeing 99.9% with most of you on BF'ing. Clearly I'm Hitler. I'll work on that .1%.
Maninthemirror
Banned
you can see this in action today as well
my name is ed
Banned
If you ever find yourself typing 'GAF Hivemind' as part of your posts non ironically, stop and reevaluate your post because there is nothing of substance to it.
Im sure we all have backroom meetings where we get together and decide we should 'gang up' on people that disagree. It couldn't possibly be that my attitude and thoughts on the matter are much more common, justly, than yours?
Its a disgraceful attitude because it perpetuates a culture that continuously sexualizes and shames women's bodies regardless of circumstance or context. Women don't need to hide breastfeeding, but they're pushed to for no fucking reason. 'Modesty' is not a reason. It's bullshit. If seeing someone breastfeeding shocks you, go fucking see a psychologist, you got problems.
Is this post real? How can you breast feed without children around?
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