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This deviant slattern, waiting two years to issue her malicious slander. Is there no end to this distaff deviousness?
I don't think the allegations being malicious are as important as whether or not they're truthful, and that isn't the same discussion. If you decide to tell the truth out of some malicious motive it isn't nearly as problematic as lying. So I don't think the motivation matters much, unless you're implying it could have driven her to lie.
This is comically transparent concern-trolling, and not only just because you're inside of a thread dedicated to an article that explains this story in gruesome detail.
I think they should follow their conscience. If that means naming and shaming, so be it.And if it was her intent? Should women just stay silent and not name their abusers if they choose to?
Agreed, if what I've heard is the only thing out there.
Perhaps what I heard wasn't the full story, but if it was, I am really confused.
So this person was taking a shower and he went in there naked (they were drunk, still not an excuse), but she said no, he walked out and that was it? And his attitude from that point on during that trip wasn't the most terrific, but is this seriously the whole story? Holy shit, that's kind of insulting to the other people posting their #metoo stories, because that right there is nothing. I know people who posted and were actually raped and sexually assaulted. I don't see this as either.
Maybe I am missing part of the story.
maybe you should read more. there aren't only rape and assault stories.
and him accepting the "No" doesn't change the initial situation.
I don't think she is laying, i do think she shared the story under the #metoo light as a misguided attemp to contribute and talk ill of somebody (an ex lover no less) privately ( which by itself its extremely shitty) and she tells his nickname provoking this shitstorm.
And for the shower story, while extremely cringy, is not sexual assault or molestation.
When I hear "sexual assault" allegations I think of much worse. The Amir0x stuff is so much more disturbing to me. That is just awful.
This other story involving this guy going into the bathroom naked drunk while she was showering and exiting after rejection is just humiliation for him. I am not defending it, but I also don't think it's worthy of public outrage. Awkward shit like that happens among friends. I am engaged and a guy at work went in to kiss me and I turned my face as he was coming in. We were at a bar in the city after work and we were drunk. He knew I was engaged too. I wouldn't think once about posting that as part of this #metoo campaign. That's not the end of the world.
If there are rape and assault allegations than I have nothing else to say. 100% unacceptable. Jail worthy. All I heard was the shower story.
What's extremely shitty about telling your friends about a bad experience you had with your ex?
When I hear "sexual assault" allegations I think of much worse. The Amir0x stuff is so disturbing. That is just awful.
This other story involving this guy going into the bathroom naked drunk while she was showering and exiting after rejection is just humiliation for him. I am not defending it, but I also don't think it's worthy of public outrage. Awkward shit like that happens among friends. I am engaged and a guy at work went in to kiss me and I turned my face as he was coming in. We were at a bar in the city after work and we were drunk. He knew I was engaged too. Granted he did feel bad and did apologize, but I wouldn't think once about posting that as part of this #metoo campaign. That's not the end of the world.
Exactly my point, a bad experience with an ex. But it is reasonable to paint the same experience as sexual assault?
When I hear "sexual assault" allegations I think of much worse. The Amir0x stuff is so disturbing. That is just awful.
This other story involving this guy going into the bathroom naked drunk while she was showering and exiting after rejection is just humiliation for him. I am not defending it, but I also don't think it's worthy of public outrage. Awkward shit like that happens among friends. I am engaged and a guy at work went in to kiss me and I turned my face as he was coming in. We were at a bar in the city after work and we were drunk. He knew I was engaged too. Granted he did feel bad and did apologize, but I wouldn't think once about posting that as part of this #metoo campaign. That's not the end of the world.
When I hear "sexual assault" allegations I think of much worse. The Amir0x stuff is so disturbing. That is just awful.
This other story involving this guy going into the bathroom naked drunk while she was showering and exiting after rejection is just humiliation for him. I am not defending it, but I also don't think it's worthy of public outrage. Awkward shit like that happens among friends. I am engaged and a guy at work went in to kiss me and I turned my face as he was coming in. We were at a bar in the city after work and we were drunk. He knew I was engaged too. Granted he did feel bad and did apologize, but I wouldn't think once about posting that as part of this #metoo campaign. That's not the end of the world.
Exactly my point, a bad experience with an ex. But it is reasonable to paint the same experience as sexual assault?
The Amir0x thing absolutely floored me. I'm more surprised people weren't more upset about that than this story to be honest. It seems like a good chunk of the users also KNEW about it which makes all the sermonizing and demonizing even stranger.
Why does it make it strange to you?
People have had enough it it. They've voted with their feet, or they've stayed a while and spoken their mind.
EL tried to shut down/delete all conversation about this and the Amir0x shit before the "maintenance". Most users didn't know the half of it.
Exactly my point, a bad experience with an ex. But it is reasonable to paint the same experience as sexual assault?
If that is indeed what he did, I don't think people are blowing it out of proportion in the least.
There's something very, very dangerous about the presumption that women exist largely to offer men sexual release and I personally have a serious problem with anyone who thinks that stripping down naked and coming up behind a woman - without her express invite or consent - is in any way acceptable.
She did nothing to invite the advance, which means he just assumed her naked form was a de facto invite.
And that is precisely the type of mentality we need to purge in this culture.
Somebody leaning in for a kiss is a bit different than somebody stripping naked and getting into a shower with a woman who is drunk and throwing up, especially when there was no reason at the time for him to expect that she was looking for any type of physical interaction.
Also, let's dispense with the "Drunk Defense". People who are assholes are generally magnified accordingly by booze. It doesn't make them drastically different human beings.
Exactly my point, a bad experience with an ex. But it is reasonable to paint the same experience as sexual assault?
I agree that it's weird, I do. I also think it's being blown out of proportion. I am not sure if it was you who said to me earlier, "who are you to classify what sexual assault is?"
I have been sexually assaulted before and I don't need to share those stories. Most girls have. I don't consider this sexual assault. This doesn't hold anything near to an actual sexual assault case. The second he laid hands on her I would, especially with male force.
The Amir0x thing absolutely floored me. I'm more surprised people weren't more upset about that than this story to be honest. It seems like a good chunk of the users also KNEW about it which makes all the sermonizing and demonizing even stranger.
The Amir0x thing absolutely floored me. I'm more surprised people weren't more upset about that than this story to be honest. It seems like a good chunk of the users also KNEW about it which makes all the sermonizing and demonizing even stranger.
EL tried to shut down/delete all conversation about this and the Amir0x shit before the "maintenance". Most users didn't know the half of it.
I agree that it's weird, I do. I also think it's being blown out of proportion. I am not sure if it was you who said to me earlier, "who are you to classify what sexual assault is?"
I have been sexually assaulted before and I don't need to share those stories. Most girls have. I don't consider this sexual assault. This doesn't hold anything near to an actual sexual assault case. The second he laid hands on her I would, especially with male force.
I agree that it's weird, I do. I also think it's being blown out of proportion. I am not sure if it was you who said to me earlier, "who are you to classify what sexual assault is?"
I have been sexually assaulted before and I don't need to share those stories. Most girls have. I don't consider this sexual assault. This doesn't hold anything near to an actual sexual assault case. The second he laid hands on her I would, especially with male force.
Agreed, clearly this wasn't assault.
What he did was vulgar and presumptuous but if he backed off, it's not assault.
Also, it's good to hear the perspective of a woman on this issue.
And I'm truly sorry for what you've suffered. (I have no idea if condolences from an online stranger mean much.)
The Amir0x thing absolutely floored me. I'm more surprised people weren't more upset about that than this story to be honest. It seems like a good chunk of the users also KNEW about it which makes all the sermonizing and demonizing even stranger.
EDIT: I should also note that I don't know that much about this guy. I see a lot of references to prior behavior and this has just added enormous fuel to the fire. I only know of this incident.
When I hear "sexual assault" allegations I think of much worse. The Amir0x stuff is so disturbing. That is just awful.
This other story involving this guy going into the bathroom naked drunk while she was showering and exiting after rejection is just humiliation for him. I am not defending it, but I also don't think it's worthy of public outrage. Awkward shit like that happens among friends. I am engaged and a guy at work went in to kiss me and I turned my face as he was coming in. We were at a bar in the city after work and we were drunk. He knew I was engaged too. Granted he did feel bad and did apologize, but I wouldn't think once about posting that as part of this #metoo campaign. That's not the end of the world.
Agreed that it's more in line with harassment.
Again, it was a jerky thing on his end and I understand it might sound silly that I don't feel like it is that big of a deal. I just figured given the reactions it'd have been much more severe.
I also understand that everyone interprets things differently. My interpretations aren't necessarily parallel to every girl (clearly).
EDIT: I should also note that I don't know that much about this guy. I see a lot of references to prior behavior and this has just added enormous fuel to the fire. I only know of this incident.
Exactly! The situation clearly wasn't that big of a deal if they continued to hang out and even had consentual sex after it happened. Neogaf always seemed to love those torches and pitchforks conversations, and it just grew to a boil. And you know what? Fuck those people self-banning themselves and are part of that pile-on / "let's not even look at the facts" atmosphere. For some reason, some people who had accounts here loved to be offended and outraged because they feel it gives them power, or a voice, when really they're annoying and potentially hypocritical. I'm glad those people with that attitude are self-banning because they made the board way too PC and a drag.
I think NeoGaf will survive and actually be a better place because of this. Some of the mods who over-reacted to *almost nothing* and quit probably weren't fit for duty.
PS: Evilore, I'll mod if it's a paid gig.
I honestly didn't know much either until all this happened. The ass grabbing incident is actually worse in some regards because his explanation/justification was just...gross.
The ass grabbing, the revenge porn, and covering up for Amirox are all worse, IMO, and his fucking terrible & insane response just made it worse. This was his second/third/fourth chance, and he blew it spectacularly
I've been around these boards long enough to know this isn't even remotely true.
What this place has lost in the last few days cannot be reclaimed.
Especially if Reset Era takes off.
It's the thousands of people that have reacted to this that have categorized this. If I disagreed with everyone else, I'd ask myself why that was. What you're saying trivializes things women across the world experience every day. The entire point of #MeToo is to lower the threshold for speaking up. I don't get why you would fight that.
No, i'm not trying to trivialize nor (god forbids) "fight" it. I just think that these particular allegations were made incorrectly under the #metoo tag in an incorrect fashion without knowing the consequences. May be malicious , may be not, but if i'm right, then that is not only irresponsible but actually trivializes the #metoo movement with people that lived thorough horrible experiences. Time will tell i guess.
Things sometimes can get awkward among CONSENSUAL romantic/sexual partners in the privacy of their bedrooms in pre, during and after the relationship and making retroactive allegations out of context of these situations maybe signal of an attempt to harm somebody just because. This do not includes situations where actual abuse happened.
Buy hey, if this subject matter is too taboo to be discussed even among people like us with similar leanings and beliefs then i will leave the thread and will return to be "toxic" and to "dogpile" all the MAGA , gamer-gate assholes trying to take over NEOGAF thanks to the (and i fully agree with you) very irresponsible actions taken by EL about the whole situation.
You're acting like it was some devious plot to destroy gaming and you have no basis for that assumption.
How exactly did he cover up for Amirox?The ass grabbing, the revenge porn, and covering up for Amirox are all worse, IMO, and his fucking terrible & insane response was needlessly shitty. This was his second/third/fourth chance, and he blew it spectacularly
LOL.
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Not everything in life is games or gaming dude. We are talking real life problems with real life consequences for everyone involved in stuff like this, not only in this forum with these particular individuals.
I still love this place and i don't care about the whole thing, Always thought the MeToo thing gonna go out of control and innocent people will get accused of things they didn't do.
I have been browsing Neogaf for years and will continue doing so.
I still love this place and i don't care about the whole thing, Always thought the MeToo thing gonna go out of control and innocent people will get accused of things they didn't do.
I have been browsing Neogaf for years and will continue doing so.
How exactly did he cover up for Amirox?
My thoughts exactly. I hate the fact that we now live in a world where people undergo trial by social media. That's just as gross to me as these allegations. My quick points here:
1) Unless somebody proves to me that something happened then I'm not going to condemn them.
2) it's a credit to NEOGaf's integrity that this thread is still up and running.
2) NEWSFLASH: the CEOs of the major companies that own and control pretty much all the shit that you eat, wear, watch, and drive as a consumer are all immoral sociopaths. Those fuckers have likely done shit that would turn your face white with sheer terror at the depravity at what humans are capable of. And yet we still buy all our shit from them. So don't use unverified allegations as a platform for you to say ”oh look at me, I'm a wonderful and unique butterfly whose time has finally come to take a stand!" because it's all narcissistic bullshit and you damned well know it.
I was making fun of how dramatic you're being. She shared a story on her Facebook page about a personal experience. She wasn't obliged to stay quiet (again, if she's telling the truth) to satisfy some arbitrary standard of propriety that hand-wringing third parties like yourself want to impose.