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Dating Age |OT7| Tough Love

Ernest

Banned
I have nothing substantial to say except: Hoooooly shit, I just came back from one of the best dates of my life!
She's perfect! Very natural and beautiful, very intelligent and basically on the same energy level as I am - we were talking for around 5 hours which felt incredibly easy and yet we had all those deep and complex thoughts that we shared together, especially when it came down to making and performing music. And we want to see each other again!

Man, I'm feeling truly euphoric right now! :D
That's awesome - I love those dates.

Good luck going forward!
 

AdanVC

Member
I have nothing substantial to say except: Hoooooly shit, I just came back from one of the best dates of my life!
She's perfect! Very natural and beautiful, very intelligent and basically on the same energy level as I am - we were talking for around 5 hours which felt incredibly easy and yet we had all those deep and complex thoughts that we shared together, especially when it came down to making and performing music. And we want to see each other again!

Man, I'm feeling truly euphoric right now! :D

Having that kind of dates is truly one of the best things to experience, congrats!
 

LordKasual

Banned
Real Talk children.

Do I have a right to bring up perhaps going on birth control to my girl?

It's one of those things where its her body her right but I also think that we need to be responsible.

?????

unless shes' capable of fucking and impregnating herself without you????

whos mans is this, someone help him please
 
Even though it was just a coffee date, that was damn good. Spent two hours there, just chatting. We're both very deadpan so our sense of humour totally matched, it was like the witty rapid-fire exchanges in screwball comedies. She would be telling me a story of how she got into journalism, but then she said she kept on getting distracted by my pretty eyes and then my smile. She mentioned my eyes like three times. I returned a compliment about her eyebrows and wingtips, she said "you just made my life with that" cause she was proud of her wingtip skills. I would go on a tangent about the history of smiling in photos and then the women's street campaign to stop telling women to smile. She asked me about my worst dates and then I asked about her experiences. I mentioned how I had googled her, and she seemed embarrassed about the political articles she wrote, how she didn't want to label herself as the token muslim girl but the other articles she wrote didn't get as many clicks. She asked if I was on twitter, then she followed me, and then we got to talking about politics, feminism, meninists, plays, etc. I didn't even get to ask her about videogames, how she had a gold Ocarina Of Time cartridge. She's down for any more physical activity for a second date, arcades, mini-golf, even a bungee jump if that was a thing here in London.

We were getting quite touchy. At one point we did a fist bump over a shared interest. She was playing "cabbage" with my hand. When we left, we got the same train, so I was holding her shoulders at some point. Playfully nudging her shoes.

I mentioned how I grew up too late to love Harry Potter cause Matilda from Roald Dahl was already that for me. She was shocked that Roald Dahl was my favourite author and so we nerded out about that. She mentioned the Roald Dahl museum and how we should go there on our second date, so she sorted all that out without me even having to wonder. So next week, Roald Dahl museum!
 
Even though it was just a coffee date, that was damn good. Spent two hours there, just chatting. We're both very deadpan so our sense of humour totally matched, it was like the witty rapid-fire exchanges in screwball comedies. She would be telling me a story of how she got into journalism, but then she said she kept on getting distracted by my pretty eyes and then my smile. She mentioned my eyes like three times. I returned a compliment about her eyebrows and wingtips, she said "you just made my life with that" cause she was proud of her wingtip skills. I would go on a tangent about the history of smiling in photos and then the women's street campaign to stop telling women to smile. She asked me about my worst dates and then I asked about her experiences. I mentioned how I had googled her, and she seemed embarrassed about the political articles she wrote, how she didn't want to label herself as the token muslim girl but the other articles she wrote didn't get as many clicks. She asked if I was on twitter, then she followed me, and then we got to talking about politics, feminism, meninists, plays, etc. I didn't even get to ask her about videogames, how she had a gold Ocarina Of Time cartridge. She's down for any more physical activity for a second date, arcades, mini-golf, even a bungee jump if that was a thing here in London.

We were getting quite touchy. At one point we did a fist bump over a shared interest. She was playing "cabbage" with my hand. When we left, we got the same train, so I was holding her shoulders at some point. Playfully nudging her shoes.

I mentioned how I grew up too late to love Harry Potter cause Matilda from Roald Dahl was already that for me. She was shocked that Roald Dahl was my favourite author and so we nerded out about that. She mentioned the Roald Dahl museum and how we should go there on our second date, so she sorted all that out without me even having to wonder. So next week, Roald Dahl museum!

I love this. Way to go, bro. Sounds awesome.
 

Jintor

Member
Even though it was just a coffee date, that was damn good. Spent two hours there, just chatting. We're both very deadpan so our sense of humour totally matched, it was like the witty rapid-fire exchanges in screwball comedies. She would be telling me a story of how she got into journalism, but then she said she kept on getting distracted by my pretty eyes and then my smile. She mentioned my eyes like three times. I returned a compliment about her eyebrows and wingtips, she said "you just made my life with that" cause she was proud of her wingtip skills. I would go on a tangent about the history of smiling in photos and then the women's street campaign to stop telling women to smile. She asked me about my worst dates and then I asked about her experiences. I mentioned how I had googled her, and she seemed embarrassed about the political articles she wrote, how she didn't want to label herself as the token muslim girl but the other articles she wrote didn't get as many clicks. She asked if I was on twitter, then she followed me, and then we got to talking about politics, feminism, meninists, plays, etc. I didn't even get to ask her about videogames, how she had a gold Ocarina Of Time cartridge. She's down for any more physical activity for a second date, arcades, mini-golf, even a bungee jump if that was a thing here in London.

We were getting quite touchy. At one point we did a fist bump over a shared interest. She was playing "cabbage" with my hand. When we left, we got the same train, so I was holding her shoulders at some point. Playfully nudging her shoes.

I mentioned how I grew up too late to love Harry Potter cause Matilda from Roald Dahl was already that for me. She was shocked that Roald Dahl was my favourite author and so we nerded out about that. She mentioned the Roald Dahl museum and how we should go there on our second date, so she sorted all that out without me even having to wonder. So next week, Roald Dahl museum!

good shit.

i'm picking up tips.
 

Jzero

Member
What's wingtips?

This I think
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Ernest

Banned
See, I would've been useless because I think wingtips look dreadful, so I wouldn't have said anything, but would've made a negative mental note about them. Meaning, it's awesome that she's found someone who can appreciate them and tell her so!
 
See, I would've been useless because I think wingtips look dreadful, so I wouldn't have said anything, but would've made a negative mental note about them. Meaning, it's awesome that she's found someone who can appreciate them and tell her so!

I have found them to be both hot as fuck and really off putting. I think they just need to be done well, not too dominating and really have to fit the facial profile.
 
Be thankful you never had to compliment tattooed eyebrows KK Slider would have been jealous of.

Oh man. Ive seen a few girls that have really nice natural eyebrows that suit them so well then out of nowhere come around with these huge uneven arches tattooed on there. Im like nooooooo! Whyyyyyy!? Just draw them on! Fuck that looks horrible and its permanent. Of course I dont say that though.
 
Kinda amusing on tinder many girls just want that extra follow on IG, girl messages me and ask for IG like 3 msgs in..then proceeds to stop talking lol Jesus. Gotta do it for the gram.

I've usually just used okc but man tinder so many ladies (especially if you're from NYC)
 

Salamando

Member
Yeah it doesn't say that they asked Tinder users, but college students in general.
Worthless graph then IMO. I want to see "has met someone" rates for for (1) Students with Tinder accounts, (2) Students who have sent or replied to a message in the past year, and (3) Students who were active in the past month.
 
info to go with the graph.
3,800 millennials aged 18 to 22 if they used Tinder and a staggering 72% of them said they did. When the researchers asked them why, 22% of those Tinder users answered that they are “looking for a hookup” and 29% percent said they use the location-based app for other reasons, which likely include friendship and curiosity. And only 4% said they were “looking for a relationship.” Meanwhile, more than 44% said they were swiping for “confidence-boosting procrastination.” (A spokeswoman for Tinder said its own research found 80% of the site’s users of all ages are seeking a meaningful relationship.)
 
Had a very interesting discussion with the GF today while at work

Me: "Hey Ravenclaw. How's work going?"

Her:" it's going okay. I was thinking about us though. Sometimes I wish we had met sooner. Maybe if we had met earlier we would not have liked each other as much."

Me: "Maybe."

Her: A few months before I met you, I was praying to God so I can meet someone that I will grow old with and also to prepare that man as He is preparing me for him (my future mate). So you are His answer.

Me: "Do you really thinks so?"

Her: "Yes. I have not prayed for all the other guys that I have met before you. And all of them did not feel right for me."

Me: "I feel you are right for me too babe. You are the person I have been looking for. "

Her: "I feel the same."

It feels good being so appreciate. That was litreally the sweetest thing I've ever been told. I don't know about being an answer to a prayer, but to hear that... felt good.
 
Whenever I see stuff like that I really, really hope it works out.

Because like, being cynical and having had people say the same things to me before breaking up a few months later, it suuuucks when it doesn't work out.

I always wish people the best, as long as they aren't huge assholes.

Mega, you do you. You two seem sweet together.
 
I have had an epiphany.

I don't want to date a girl til I have a job/career I love and I feel focused and fulfilled. The whole last year of my life has just felt like a slow-motion catastrophe. Until I feel like I have self-respect and I can finally focus and achieve my other goals, I don't really feel like I want to invest myself emotionally in another person or have them do the same with me.
 
Whenever I see stuff like that I really, really hope it works out.

Because like, being cynical and having had people say the same things to me before breaking up a few months later, it suuuucks when it doesn't work out.

They meant it "At the time". Happens to us all, just dont put too much stock in it.
 

Skab

Member
Hey guys, I was wondering if I could as your opinions on something kind of silly.

If you text someone that you recently started dating about setting up your next (previously agreed upon) date, but they never respond, how long would you wait before a) sending a follow up (if that was something you thought you should do) or b) actually start to consider that she wasn't interested?
 
Hey guys, I was wondering if I could as your opinions on something kind of silly.

If you text someone that you recently started dating about setting up your next (previously agreed upon) date, but they never respond, how long would you wait before a) sending a follow up (if that was something you thought you should do) or b) actually start to consider that she wasn't interested?

a) Depends on the delta between now and then. Probably a couple days before the scheduled date.

b) Immediately.
 
I have had an epiphany.

I don't want to date a girl til I have a job/career I love and I feel focused and fulfilled. The whole last year of my life has just felt like a slow-motion catastrophe. Until I feel like I have self-respect and I can finally focus and achieve my other goals, I don't really feel like I want to invest myself emotionally in another person or have them do the same with me.

I think I'm with you.

I hate my job and it makes me a deeply unsatisfied person.

I'm already receiving signals of disinterest from the Brazilian girl. We're at "I'm really busy" combined with a decided lack of reaching out -- and, you know, whatever. She really is busy and likely shouldn't be dating. And I'm (basically) over dating at this point too.

It's funny. This thread is my goddamned hobby, and there's nothing I enjoy more than bringing people together and kickstarting things in others' lives. I've just never experienced it myself. It's literally the definition of "those who can, do; those who can't, teach."

That said, I'm sincerely happy for all of the success stories in these threads, and I hope there will be more.
 

gaiages

Banned
See I feel opposite of Diaboli and NotTheGuyYouKill. It's only because I have such a caring SO in my life that I can work towards a goal of a career change from something I dislike (or neutral towards at best) to something I love. Then again, circumstances are different for everyone :)
 
See I feel opposite of Diaboli and NotTheGuyYouKill. It's only because I have such a caring SO in my life that I can work towards a goal of a career change from something I dislike (or neutral towards at best) to something I love. Then again, circumstances are different for everyone :)

See, I understand the value in that approach. And I’d love to have that kind of support. I can’t imagine how invaluable it is for making huge changes in your life. I’m a more motivated person in a relationship, but I’ve always had to weather the storm alone, meaning I’m quite good at it.

To be fair, my emergency contact is literally “911.” But I’ll get there, I guess.
 

Salamando

Member
I think I had one girl angling to come over tomorrow? We have a date Saturday, which ain't bad considering I started talking to her at 9PM last night (wednesday). I already have another date tonight (Thursday), and it seems wrong to hook up with one girl and then go on a date with another.

I've been chatting with little-sister-of-friend-from-highschool, asked her out for something this weekend, replied she'll be out of town for a wedding. Told her we'd do something when she gets back. She didn't counter with another day, which has caused me to de-invest a bit. She works a full-time job and a part-time job (claims the part-time job is due to "Liking to keep busy, might as well get paid for it"), making weekday dates more dependent on her schedule. Gonna cool it on the texting until Sunday, see what she'll commit to then.


Most excited about Saturday's date. Girl's a badass, is kinda who I want to be when I grow up, and has an actual personality!
 

Xun

Member
Oh no not at all, been using these apps for that time. Usually ask to move to text in a night. Real struggle is finding someone without red flags. Live in the midwest so a a good chunk of women around my area are blond country girls who put God as #1 or want to party all the time. Don't socialize, listen to much music, picky eater, or do any drugs. So I know I'm boring to a lot of people. Been opening up more I feel like having a relationship will at least be an ego boost for next time.
Ah fair enough, I misunderstood you!

How about going to meetups with people of similar interests? I know it's socialising but it may help in some way.

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I'm the little little girl with glasses blinded by the illusion of choice
Holy shit.

Poor little dude looks destroyed.

See I feel opposite of Diaboli and NotTheGuyYouKill. It's only because I have such a caring SO in my life that I can work towards a goal of a career change from something I dislike (or neutral towards at best) to something I love. Then again, circumstances are different for everyone :)

See, I understand the value in that approach. And I’d love to have that kind of support. I can’t imagine how invaluable it is for making huge changes in your life. I’m a more motivated person in a relationship, but I’ve always had to weather the storm alone, meaning I’m quite good at it.

To be fair, my emergency contact is literally “911.” But I’ll get there, I guess.
I think I'm similar based on how much more motivated I felt when dating the Romanian girl.

I think it also helped she was on the path I want to go down and I guess that pushed me? I need to somehow maintain that motivation as much as possible...

I wish you the best of luck.
 

KUON.0101

Member
I think I'm with you.

I hate my job and it makes me a deeply unsatisfied person.

I'm already receiving signals of disinterest from the Brazilian girl. We're at "I'm really busy" combined with a decided lack of reaching out -- and, you know, whatever. She really is busy and likely shouldn't be dating. And I'm (basically) over dating at this point too.

It's funny. This thread is my goddamned hobby, and there's nothing I enjoy more than bringing people together and kickstarting things in others' lives. I've just never experienced it myself. It's literally the definition of "those who can, do; those who can't, teach."

That said, I'm sincerely happy for all of the success stories in these threads, and I hope there will be more.

I have used the "I am busy" line too. I mean if you're really interested in someone, you could make time for a quick lunch or grab a movie/drinks.

Good luck with other ones tho~...
 
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