lol how old are you guys?
I have to collect like 2-2.5k from my friends combined. We have an excel sheet where we do all the tally. We haven't cleared our balances since December lmao
I am sure I owe them a lot too. We planning to sit down to do this only on coming long weekend. We gonna chill, watch a movie and transfer each other the money. Its kinda tradition now.
If I show you my excel file you will laugh, because we even put 5$ for parking divide it by 5 people. Every cent is accounted for, and we all are on same page. This is going on since 10 years I think.
If you really don't care, then stop calling constantly for hours on end and just let it go. You do seem like a loan shark the way you're calling. He's avoiding the conversation. He either feels bad or he's a dick, but calling constantly isn't going to change either.
If you do care, then burn his life to the ground over $100, but know you're a petty fuck while you're doing it.
Never lend money to friends that you wouldn't be happy to give as a gift.
The things Bronson would do for $5.I've ruined friendships over 5 dollars
Never lend money to friends that you wouldn't be happy to give as a gift.
I have a friend just like this. It got to the point that I don't bother offering any more and I'm not sure where the cut off is so we might get dinner and he'll just straight up pay the $80 for me no questions.I have a friend that basically refuses to let me pay him back for little stuff. Like if we split an uber and I try to pay my portion, he won't take the money. Neither of us are hard up for cash, but he'll just make it awkward. Just take the $10 I owe you!
Don't lend money to anyone expecting it back, yes even friends.
What's up bro!Sadly, I have friends asking to borrow money quite frequently.
All I can tell them is that I do not risk friendships over that and they are better off looking for alternatives elsewhere.
The thing is, the loan might be something huge weighing on their shoulders, a seemingly insurmountable problem that might seem miniscule from people looking from the outside.
Recently I chatted with a friend, and he said to me maybe he should just kill himself because he doesn't know how he'll pay his debts. I told him that he shouldn't, and that he shouldn't promise deadlines to his debts if he's not sure he can keep them. Or, better yet, don't promise anything at all.
Some of the people he has debts with are also my friends, and I told him I'd speak to them because they might not know his predicament. He told me not to do this, but one of the people he has debts with just happened to ask me why people do exactly what you described in your first post. I explained the situation and after that the friend understood.
Among our circle of friends, I actually have loaned the friend the most money but I don't ask for payment or ask about it at all. Our friendship and his life is more important to me than the money.
Aggressive? What's aggressive about him telling me he'll be at my house late at night and not show up? Or not show up the next day after work like he said? What's aggressive about him wasting my time and treating me like an idiot? I'm not the one who set a time frame. These are his time frames and his promises to me. I didn't tell him to pay it or die. I didn't even say he had to pay it back in full immediately. He could do it periodically.I feel like there's a lot of this going on with OP's situation. The aggressive attitude is only making it worse.
$150 is really enough to run a friendship? Probably weren't very good friends in the first place, then.
Yeah. Fuck the constitution and stuff!
Hew needs the first amendment anyways?
...and yes, you and your advice are still shitty.
oh fuck off. He said he would pay me last week and I didn't even try getting a hold of him until a day or two ago. I called ONE time and he responded with his usual "I'll be at your house at this time when I'm out of work." That's the only reason I kept blowing up his phone with calls after. I need to know why he keeps wasting my time instead of just saying he doesn't have it right now. He is treating me like genuine shit
If you had fucking read my posts, you would realize it's about more than the money. The dude is constantly having me wait at my house, or by my phone at certain times and hours claiming he will be there to give me the money. If he said he didn't have it and didn't waste my fucking time, I wouldn't consider "burning his life to the ground" over $145.
By the way, telling his parents isn't burning his life to the ground.
Aggressive? What's aggressive about him telling me he'll be at my house late at night and not show up? Or not show up the next day after work like he said? What's aggressive about him wasting my time and treating me like an idiot? I'm not the one who set a time frame. These are his time frames and his promises to me. I didn't tell him to pay it or die. I didn't even say he had to pay it back in full immediately. He could do it periodically.
I didn't want to make his business known but he used to be into cocaine and supposedly he stopped a while ago cause has a state job but the way he's acting makes me feel like he's using again.
I only loaned him money because he said he needed it for gas, gift for his girlfriend and money for food to hold him over until he got paid- which was quite a while ago.
I was like "ok man. I can do that for you. I don't want to see you struggle"
This thread makes me realize how good friends I have. I have absolutely no problem loaning some money to my pals or they have loaning to me. Always get my money back. I guess this is advantage of being friends from childhood.
Old enough to not require excel spreadsheets to keep tabs on $5 worth of parking when on a trip with friends.
Where do you live, Rapture?
You clearly didnt get the point. This is how problems starts with money matters which most people dont see it coming. When we were in high school $5 was a days allowance today $5 is nothing for us. Value of money will keep going down doesnt mean it shouldn't be accounted for. Today its $5 parking and tomorrow its $15 for pizza. Where do you stop? Value of dollar is different for everyone. Not all my friends make same money. He paid a $1 for me, i will make sure and give him. I am glad we have decided to put down every little thing and divide it equally.
I don't know, it is quite usual for me and my friends to sometimes just pay for the other. You just try to keep it fair so that everyone pays for everyone sometimes.