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Dating Age |OT7| Tough Love
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LookAtMeGo
Member
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You sir, are a mensch. No wonder all these hot women are throwing themselves at you!
And it's not just vegans - after suggesting splitting a sandwich, I had one health-conscious girl tell me she doesn't eat bread... I didn't even know what to say to that.
Back in from my night out at my mates, just crashing on his couch tonight.
No pulls or phone numbers sadly. Spoke with a girl for a bit but she was horrendously drunk so I just left it as I wasn't nearly drunk enough to justify it.
The girl from my work messaged me though so we spoke for a bit.
No pulls or phone numbers sadly. Spoke with a girl for a bit but she was horrendously drunk so I just left it as I wasn't nearly drunk enough to justify it.
The girl from my work messaged me though so we spoke for a bit.
I agree with this.
I've just broken up with my girlfriend and I was originally gonna wait a few weeks after her birthday which is on Monday but then I thought, after that it's gonna be her mum's birthday, then Halloween, then Christmas, then New Year, then Valentines day and I'm gonna be stuck another 6 months down the road so I bit the bullet and broke up with her now.
Spoiled Milk
Banned
Chokers.
LookAtMeGo
Member
Thats my fetish
While you're right that it's not validation, there are numerous benefits of a marriage that make it worth considering if you love a person long term.
As cold as it sounds, getting married for love isn't the only reason to do it
Yea but he also doesn't even wanna get married again... seems like the drawbacks that he experienced the first time outweigh the benefits he stands to gain.
Living the Dream
Member
Joined Bumble and Tinder about two weeks ago. Zero matches. Had a match tonight on Bumble, before I could open the app they must have deleted me... Why did Rachel have to turn out to be a fucking racist? =[
PersonAndStuff
Member
I know. In Michigan, I would be skinny one.
LookAtMeGo
Member
Just swipe yes to everyone on Tinder. Use up all your likes and repeat.
This girl who was over last night really wants to hang out again asap. I mean thats cool but she was throwing around things like "hey this is perfect, you could play your videogames while I just do my homework"
Thats great in theory but I dunno bout that. Like if she was my gf that would be cool but I dunno if spending that much time together this soon is guna work out for me, like I just met her. Homework at my place while I play videogames seems like it shouldnt be a big deal but it sounds like a marriage proposal to me at this point. Its like. How bout we go on some more dates first? I dunno, am I being ridiculous?
Merrrrr I dunno how to react to this.
This girl who was over last night really wants to hang out again asap. I mean thats cool but she was throwing around things like "hey this is perfect, you could play your videogames while I just do my homework"
Thats great in theory but I dunno bout that. Like if she was my gf that would be cool but I dunno if spending that much time together this soon is guna work out for me, like I just met her. Homework at my place while I play videogames seems like it shouldnt be a big deal but it sounds like a marriage proposal to me at this point. Its like. How bout we go on some more dates first? I dunno, am I being ridiculous?
Merrrrr I dunno how to react to this.
Did I miss something with that comment? A random unmatch could just as easily be a bot that was deleted.
Living the Dream
Member
My girlfriend said black people are niggers and wants poor people to die
http://m.neogaf.com/showthread.php?t=1424084
Earthbound64
Banned
+ Pay for the subscription where you get unlimited Likes, and just Like everyone within a 100-mile radius.
I've still only met 1 person from there.
Advocatus Diaboli
Member
I was the kid that read Ayn Rand on the bus in high school. Had things been subtly different, or had Reddit existed in college, I might've succumbed to all of that Red Pill bullshit. I was never misogynistic (my mother was the one with the job, always, when I was growing up), but I was socially awkward in all of the traditional ways.
Racist? Definitely Diet Racist. My small town was something like 99.9% white, and of the minorities in my schools, we had one Indian kid that we mocked for "smelling bad." (Of course.) There might've been a couple of black kids, but the only one I remember was a girl, "except" she was British, so she wasn't even African-American.
Homophobic? Definitely of the mindset that "people can do what they want, but I don't want to see it."
Transphobic? Probably. I don't even think that younger me knew this was a thing.
Politics? I've always voted Democrat, but I definitely also worked on Ron Paul's 2008 campaign. Say what you will about that; you're probably right on the mark.
So yeah, people can and do change, even when they're in their early to mid-20s. I agree that it's important to be patient with people who have problematic but not utterly reprehensible views, but at some point... y'know, they've got the information and they've assessed things, sometimes people are just shitty.
When people show you who they are, believe them.
EDIT: In case it wasn't clear... my positions on all of these things have evolved considerably and taken a hard leftward swerve.
Spoiled Milk
Banned
I'm in good company B)
o/
C'mon dude you know how to react to this. Just push on the brakes a little with your actions. If she suggests it again, don't be ecstatic and say "yeah, sure". That'll let her know she's being intense.
Spoiled Milk
Banned
Ok, something I've noticed is that, while it's not like I can't date white girls (I do fine), I definitely get a "home-team advantage" when it comes to latinas (because I look Hispanic). Down here in LA I'm noticing myself get a lot of looks.
LookAtMeGo
Member
Yeah you're right milk. Im just stuck in a place where I know I want something but I dont want to rush anything with anyone while at the same time want to have something around lol. Just want to play my cards right.
Like shes insisting she comes over with her homework on monday and I can play games for a while and she will cook dinner and we can watch a movie. I just dunno. I like the company but its like 3 dates in 5 days? Homework and and me ignoring her while I play vids? All too reminiscent of being in a relationship.
I just dont wanna be like "no"
Like shes insisting she comes over with her homework on monday and I can play games for a while and she will cook dinner and we can watch a movie. I just dunno. I like the company but its like 3 dates in 5 days? Homework and and me ignoring her while I play vids? All too reminiscent of being in a relationship.
I just dont wanna be like "no"
Spoiled Milk
Banned
You know, there's something called the eezy-breezy principle. If she's really into you and you're really into her, it's usually better to just be honest with that and don't bend over backwards to follow imaginary rules of dating.
...but yeah, she's pushing it. Just say you're busy. And if she seems like the type that doesn't get the hint, give her the "slow down" talk.
Spoiled Milk
Banned
Tell us more about your experience in China. My dad had the opposite experience, too, actually. White guy who married a Filipino twice.
LookAtMeGo
Member
Yeah I'll prolly lay it out there next time she comes over. Just moving too fast is a good way to get me to split. I'll put it nicely.
Etrian Oddity
Member
Man just can't catch a break when it comes to Tinder/OKC girls actually meeting up. This is after three dropsies in the meatspace with different girls. Guess my closing game blows, just gotta keep rowing the boat. XD
🤔 Are you super weird in how you talk to girls too?
Advocatus Diaboli
Member
Oopsie dropsie.
Subpar Scrub
Banned
That's what I'm hoping for. I got a text from one of them wanting me to go to a party on their yacht to get wasted at 11am this morning but I just couldn't do it all again so soon (plus I wanted to finish off some stuff), so I said I was busy and that I'd attend the next one. Seemed to annoy her with that, but whatevs, I had shit to do.
Apparently the one I kissed matched with me on tinder but I never messaged her, and she said I'm the first guy she's met who didn't want to kiss her and try to take her home. That seemed to annoy her, too. Oh well, I'm just not into her in that way.
I'm a magnet for causing irritation apparently, lmao. Still, I feel like last night let me be a little more sociable than I usually am and it felt good, so it was a much needed confidence booster.
Without knowing your location, bio and pics, I can't really help you with why you're not having any luck mate
if you could share a little bit of info, I'll try to assist where I can.I have no idea what any of this means
Advocatus Diaboli
Member
So after last night, I'm quite glad my hiking date was canceled for today. Highlights from the evening with former coworkers include:
"She collects used condoms?!"
"He's totally into Japanese robot porn."
Plus, random guy to me: "Your girlfriend would beat me up if I tried to dance with you."
... I also had to confess that I tried to set up used condom
girl with our mutual friend. Who was kinda my boss for a while. It was delightful.
... the Brazilian girl apologized again for canceling on me and proposed getting together tomorrow, which we're doing - albeit something low-key, with details TBD. I figure I'll head up to her area and we'll just hang out. I kinda miss her.
"She collects used condoms?!"
Yes, that story.
"He's totally into Japanese robot porn."
Plus, random guy to me: "Your girlfriend would beat me up if I tried to dance with you."
... I also had to confess that I tried to set up used condom
plus bonus golden showers!
... the Brazilian girl apologized again for canceling on me and proposed getting together tomorrow, which we're doing - albeit something low-key, with details TBD. I figure I'll head up to her area and we'll just hang out. I kinda miss her.
LookAtMeGo
Member
Puck Beaverton
Banned
GAF it's been a while for me, but I'm meeting a girl at around 2PM today.
Been a little anxious about meeting her, and when I have anything on my mind I can't sleep at all.
So I've only managed to get 3.5 hours of sleep!
It's currently 8AM, and I'm wide awake.
I usually perform pretty well without much sleep because I'm used to it, but I really don't want to balls this up!
What do I do?
Been a little anxious about meeting her, and when I have anything on my mind I can't sleep at all.
So I've only managed to get 3.5 hours of sleep!
It's currently 8AM, and I'm wide awake.
I usually perform pretty well without much sleep because I'm used to it, but I really don't want to balls this up!
What do I do?
LookAtMeGo
Member
Lol. Awesome.
Yeah, that'd maybe be a bit much for me, definitely seems like a "relationshippy" thing to do.
Widdle Puppy
Banned
I just feel a little bad and anxious mostly cause I hope she doesn't feel regret about it. Everything was going really well the night of and I feel like we were communicating really well at the time.
toadsworth
Banned
My date last night went pretty well. I'm not super attracted to her and she talked a lot but she has a good sense of humor and was down to earth. I'll probably go on another date with her.
I matched with a girl on tinder that opened with 'want to travel to Australia together' so we'll see where that goes lol
Also if you swipe right on literally everyone tinder will think you're a bot and stop showing you in other's feeds
I matched with a girl on tinder that opened with 'want to travel to Australia together' so we'll see where that goes lol
Also if you swipe right on literally everyone tinder will think you're a bot and stop showing you in other's feeds
not that I would know 😅
ElectricBanquet
Member
New to this topic and I had an issue I wanted to ask about. I have little experience with dating so I hope y'all don't mind that I can't offer much help to anyone else in return.
Lately I've been working a lot on being more social since I'm naturally introverted. I've even been going out places and practicing talking to complete strangers and I'm not amazing at it but I've gotten a hell of a lot better. I want to go from just striking up conversations to actually asking girls out, but there's a problem:
I'm in my late 30's and I want to date women in their 30's, but when I'm out places I hardly ever run across any unmarried women around that age. Unmarried girls in their 20's however, it's like they're everywhere. It's not that I don't find younger women hot (I most certainly do) but I'm looking for something serious and long-term I have my doubts about whether I'm going to find that with some young girl.
I'm willing to accept that maybe I'm just looking in the wrong places. In general are there good places to go to meet and socialize with single women in their 30's?
Or maybe should I stop worrying about it and go ahead and ask out some of these twenty-somethings? Would I have any kind of decent chance of finding a meaningful relationship that way?
Lately I've been working a lot on being more social since I'm naturally introverted. I've even been going out places and practicing talking to complete strangers and I'm not amazing at it but I've gotten a hell of a lot better. I want to go from just striking up conversations to actually asking girls out, but there's a problem:
I'm in my late 30's and I want to date women in their 30's, but when I'm out places I hardly ever run across any unmarried women around that age. Unmarried girls in their 20's however, it's like they're everywhere. It's not that I don't find younger women hot (I most certainly do) but I'm looking for something serious and long-term I have my doubts about whether I'm going to find that with some young girl.
I'm willing to accept that maybe I'm just looking in the wrong places. In general are there good places to go to meet and socialize with single women in their 30's?
Or maybe should I stop worrying about it and go ahead and ask out some of these twenty-somethings? Would I have any kind of decent chance of finding a meaningful relationship that way?
Messofanego
Banned
ElectricBanquet
Member
Yeah, bars are one of the main places I've been looking - mostly out of lack of ideas about where else to look.
I'm kind of figuring a lot of women in the age range I'm looking for will be divorced.