Hypereides
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Follow up to this.
Just phoned her up and asked her for dinner. She said yes. Kinda fumbled by the end.
Dont sweat it. Go out with her see what happens.
Right now, theres not much to say about this.
Follow up to this.
Just phoned her up and asked her for dinner. She said yes. Kinda fumbled by the end.
Follow up to this.
Just phoned her up and asked her for dinner. She said yes. Kinda fumbled by the end.
Cheers. I really do hate phoning people though. If anything it's a good confidence builder.
Going to arrange location by email later this week.
She wants more comfort. AND you have to prepare her for it. Word out it something like this "Well I had a fun night. its alright, if we dont kiss now, and take it slow because I know you want to. Im ready for this, but you arent yet.... bla bla bla" or something similiar. Start with that and go on with it, or do something to a similiar vein.
[Its also alot better if she initiates the kiss instead of you. Withstand the temptation, because I think there will be scenarios where she will try leaning towards you, baiting you, to try to make you kiss her. Hold back, and if shes very obvious make a cheeky smile/smirk and act cool, and walk past/pass her.]
[....Or maybe you shouldnt try the above. Its more for the experienced crowd.... unless you think youre up to it.]
Also, dont forget the ex-boyfriend. He has some deep roots into her...
Went to my Universitys gym for the first time. Holy shit that place is packed with hot girls in tight pants. Membership purchased immediately.
Went to my Universitys gym for the first time. Holy shit that place is packed with hot girls in tight pants. Membership purchased immediately.
Ditto. Now the gym I go to is only populated by people over the age of 60 it seems. But then again, you're not supposed to be going there for any eye-candy, might be too distracting anyway.You made me realize I hardly went to my gym when I was a university student
Ditto. Now the gym I go to is only populated by people over the age of 60 it seems. But then again, you're not supposed to be going there for any eye-candy, might be too distracting anyway.
How do you guys actually ask a girl out for a drink?
Everything in my head tell me it sounds wrong the way im doing it. Or maybe im over thinking it.
How do you guys actually ask a girl out for a drink?
Everything in my head tell me it sounds wrong the way im doing it. Or maybe im over thinking it.
"Hey I'm going out for a drink this Friday. Let me know if you want to come."
How do you guys actually ask a girl out for a drink?
Everything in my head tell me it sounds wrong the way im doing it. Or maybe im over thinking it.
Hey what are you doing on ____? Come and do _____ with meNo I cant say that because "going for a drink" is something I never do.
Im actually working on this and I might be going out with an old college friend some time in the near future.
But I was hoping we could just have a drink just the two of us on wednesday or thursday night you know?
No I cant say that because "going for a drink" is something I never do.
Im actually working on this and I might be going out with an old college friend some time in the near future.
But I was hoping we could just have a drink just the two of us on wednesday or thursday night you know?
Fine, then just say "I usually don't drink, but I want to check this bar out. Want to come? You should feel special that you get to witness such a rare event!"
Yeah sounds good, but dont be offended but the bolded is cheesy as hell!
No I cant say that because "going for a drink" is something I never do.
Im actually working on this and I might be going out with an old college friend some time in the near future.
But I was hoping we could just have a drink just the two of us on wednesday or thursday night you know?
Update on my last post
I texted her "well if you have a boyfriend it might no be a good idea", I basically wanted to say "I don't want a friendly date so... goodbye". She answered "why not ?" Then I said myself : either she's implying she's willing to cheat, or she just wants a friend. In both cases it would be lame to refuse, even though I don't want her as a friend, if the date if friendly then I'll just ignore her in the future.
So I said "okay then, what about thursday"... then she shaid "But you just said it wasn't a good idea" in caps lock, she sounded mad. Well fuck. I finally answered "Well I thought that saying you had a boyfriend was a way of saying no to any kind of date, but politely." She answered all my texts very fast but didn't replied to this one yet.
Texts sucks. Usually I just use them to set a date but this one went wrong, because I really didn't except her to have a boyfriend and to tell me about it just like that (read the previous post)
Replace "drink" with "coffee".
Update on my last post
I texted her "well if you have a boyfriend it might no be a good idea", I basically wanted to say "I don't want a friendly date so... goodbye". She answered "why not ?" Then I said myself : either she's implying she's willing to cheat, or she just wants a friend. In both cases it would be lame to refuse, even though I don't want her as a friend, if the date if friendly then I'll just ignore her in the future.
So I said "okay then, what about thursday"... then she shaid "But you just said it wasn't a good idea" in caps lock, she sounded mad. Well fuck. I finally answered "Well I thought that saying you had a boyfriend was a way of saying no to any kind of date, but politely." She answered all my texts very fast but didn't replied to this one yet.
Texts sucks. Usually I just use them to set a date but this one went wrong, because I really didn't except her to have a boyfriend and to tell me about it just like that (read the previous post)
Hey guys.
I've got a first date coming up with someone from online. We've only chatted on the site thus far, but I managed to get her number last night (She was hesitant to give it out) and we've arranged that I'll be cooking dinner at her place, then we're going to watch Nightmare On Elm Street (Her idea...)
I've never been on a date in someone else's home like this. I suppose the couch opens the door for some touching. I'm definitely trying to up my "game" these days.
Any pointers as to how this differs from a regular date?
Definitely more intimate, physically and emotionally. This of course doesn't mean a free pass to anything, but action is implied.Hey guys.
I've got a first date coming up with someone from online. We've only chatted on the site thus far, but I managed to get her number last night (She was hesitant to give it out) and we've arranged that I'll be cooking dinner at her place, then we're going to watch Nightmare On Elm Street (Her idea...)
I've never been on a date in someone else's home like this. I suppose the couch opens the door for some touching. I'm definitely trying to up my "game" these days.
Any pointers as to how this differs from a regular date?
first mistake. you should give a lot less fucks, or at least pretend not to care... Shoulda just went on that date, flirted with her and gauge the reactions. by saying it's not a good idea, you're practically saying it's either me or your bf. Too forceful, too early.
bad way to go about it all. Seems like you were looking for permission that it was ok, then your follow up text was a much worse idea. too much explaining, and too honest.
LostDaddie said:eh, like I said above, if she told him straight up that she had a BF, then he never had a shot anyway
Yeah that's what I've been doing and during longer sessions, it gets pretty obvious that my repertoire isn't the biggest I think. I notice it anyway. Not that I'm not having fun though!Easy way to get better is just keep dancing. Watch other people you consider good and see what works, but mostly whatever you feel like doing. No restraint is best.
Yeah sounds good, but dont be offended but the bolded is cheesy as hell!
You done goofed. But it doesn't matter anyway, since she told you straight up she has a BF. You never really had a shot.
Typically, when a girl tells you she has a BF, it's another way of saying "I'm taken". Best to move on.
Update on my last post
I texted her "well if you have a boyfriend it might no be a good idea", I basically wanted to say "I don't want a friendly date so... goodbye". She answered "why not ?" Then I said myself : either she's implying she's willing to cheat, or she just wants a friend. In both cases it would be lame to refuse, even though I don't want her as a friend, if the date if friendly then I'll just ignore her in the future.
So I said "okay then, what about thursday"... then she shaid "But you just said it wasn't a good idea" in caps lock, she sounded mad. Well fuck. I finally answered "Well I thought that saying you had a boyfriend was a way of saying no to any kind of date, but politely." She answered all my texts very fast but didn't replied to this one yet.
Texts sucks. Usually I just use them to set a date but this one went wrong, because I really didn't except her to have a boyfriend and to tell me about it just like that (read the previous post)
when you're txting a girl that you've never actually officially dated yet, it sort of sucks any feelings that are there when the txting becomes a chore and not playful/friendly communication back and forth.
Hey look another birthday come and gone where im miserable and alone i just love this shit fucks yeah!
What do you plan to do this year to change this?
You'll be forever alone with that attitude. You got to not just enjoy, but love every second of being single. You have to love yourself and place yourself on a pedestal not any woman. 99.9% of women don't deserve to be with you, that should be your mentality. A relationship isn't something you can buy at a store or search for. Besides, who gives a fuck if you're single? Im single and loving every minute of it. I can hang out who I want to, talk to who I want to, go where I want, bang who I want, do what I want at any given time. It's the most freedom you will ever have and the one point in your life you won't have any drama. Besides dude, why do you need a girlfriend? Sex? Are you an animal? Like I said man, I'm being harsh because I used to be the same way. "Oh look Valentine's day single yet again fml" was my thinking. Trust me dude. Be the best you can possibly be, be the smartest you can possibly be, be the funniest you can possibly be, be the nicest guy you can possibly be, and be the most confident guy on the face of the earth. If a woman doesn't want to be with you after that, she is fucking dumb anyway.Hey look another birthday come and gone where im miserable and alone i just love this shit fucks yeah!
You'll be forever alone with that attitude. You got to not just enjoy, but love every second of being single. You have to love yourself and place yourself on a pedestal not any woman. 99.9% of women don't deserve to be with you, that should be your mentality. A relationship isn't something you can buy at a store or search for. Besides, who gives a fuck if you're single? Im single and loving every minute of it. I can hang out who I want to, talk to who I want to, go where I want, bang who I want, do what I want at any given time. It's the most freedom you will ever have and the one point in your life you won't have any drama. Besides dude, why do you need a girlfriend? Sex? Are you an animal? Like I said man, I'm being harsh because I used to be the same way. "Oh look Valentine's day single yet again fml" was my thinking. Trust me dude. Be the best you can possibly be, be the smartest you can possibly be, be the funniest you can possibly be, be the nicest guy you can possibly be, and be the most confident guy on the face of the earth. If a woman doesn't want to be with you after that, she is fucking dumb anyway.
I hope my self loathing never reaches this level.save up enough money for a propulsion unit capable of delivering a large caliber piece of metal through my brain to create something even Dexter Morgan would be proud of.
maybe not but i sure do want to! In the meantime ill continue to spend another year at the gym, trying to make more money, and being an overall 'nice' guy thinking it will make a difference.
I have friends I can do all that with. A girlfriend should be the last thing on your mind when it comes to girls. You don't know how many guys I know, they meet a new girl and they begin to imagine having kids with them, walking down the street holding hands with the sun setting. Being alone is okay and it is not a necessity to have a girlfriend. You can live an exciting and awesome life without one. So why stress about having one? In the end, every woman will want to be with you. The way I see it, a woman should add to the fun. Not deteriorate it in anyway. Very few women can add to the fun, which is why I'm single at the moment and don't care.Let's be serious though, being in a solid relationship is better than being single any day of the week. I haven't been "single" for over 10 years, one long relationship always right into another, and I wouldn't have it any other way. Having a chick that cares about you and always having someone to share your good days with, your good news with, your new ideas with, etc...good stuff.
I have friends I can do all that with. A girlfriend should be the last thing on your mind when it comes to girls. You don't know how many guys I know, they meet a new girl and they begin to imagine having kids with them, walking down the street holding hands with the sun setting. Being alone is okay and it is not a necessity to have a girlfriend. You can live an exciting and awesome life without one. So why stress about having one? In the end, every woman will want to be with you. The way I see it, a woman should add to the fun. Not deteriorate it in anyway. Very few women can add to the fun, which is why I'm single at the moment and don't care.
I hope my self loathing never reaches this level.
Exactly.True but my mentality is why just have friends when I could have a woman to do all that with and also get laid as a bonus.
I know where you're coming from though, it's all about the mental zone you're coming from. Become 100% satisfied with yourself and being alone just because it's your own life and nobody should waste it chasing women that probably aren't half the human they are.
Update on my last post
I texted her "well if you have a boyfriend it might no be a good idea", I basically wanted to say "I don't want a friendly date so... goodbye". She answered "why not ?" Then I said myself : either she's implying she's willing to cheat, or she just wants a friend. In both cases it would be lame to refuse, even though I don't want her as a friend, if the date if friendly then I'll just ignore her in the future.
So I said "okay then, what about thursday"... then she shaid "But you just said it wasn't a good idea" in caps lock, she sounded mad. Well fuck. I finally answered "Well I thought that saying you had a boyfriend was a way of saying no to any kind of date, but politely." She answered all my texts very fast but didn't replied to this one yet.
Texts sucks. Usually I just use them to set a date but this one went wrong, because I really didn't except her to have a boyfriend and to tell me about it just like that (read the previous post)
Hey guys.
I've got a first date coming up with someone from online. We've only chatted on the site thus far, but I managed to get her number last night (She was hesitant to give it out) and we've arranged that I'll be cooking dinner at her place, then we're going to watch Nightmare On Elm Street (Her idea...)
I've never been on a date in someone else's home like this. I suppose the couch opens the door for some touching. I'm definitely trying to up my "game" these days.
Any pointers as to how this differs from a regular date?
save up enough money for a propulsion unit capable of delivering a large caliber piece of metal through my brain to create something even Dexter Morgan would be proud of.
maybe not but i sure do want to! In the meantime ill continue to spend another year at the gym, trying to make more money, and being an overall 'nice' guy thinking it will make a difference.
It differs from a regular date in that you have already sealed the deal and it is up to you to ruin it. There are no first dates in someones house without you having sex that night unless you want to play the nice guy and in turn have her think you're a passive dweeb.