That is a good summary of life in general.I did this once except it was a co-worker who I started dating. I let her move in with me after a couple of months and the bitch stole from me and on the day she packed her shit and left she cleaned out my piggy bank and stole my fucking laundry detergent.
I didn't want to say it myself, but thanks buddy.For everyone wondering, Tunavi's girlfriend is an attractive lass.
No I'm not posting, don't be a dick about it.
So I'd say to go with what feels right for you, but definitely to make sure you set ground rules and not just pander to her every whim, else she'll expect it from you indefinitely. Make sure she does her part to help out around the place.
Should I let my new girlfriend move in with me?
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I've had this girlfriend for about 2 months,
You don't need to caretake for someone you've only been dating for 2 months. Doesn't set up the best dynamics for the future.
Listen to Vox-Pop if cuddling is your priority.Do it, I always wanted to cuddle with someone every night.
Listen to this man if being a mature adult is your priority.You don't need to caretake for someone you've only been dating for 2 months. Doesn't set up the best dynamics for the future.
As someone who has done this exact thing multiple times, it isn't that big of a deal if you can be a grown up about it, regardless of how she handles shit.
1. don't add her to the lease or any retarded shit like that.
2. don't ask her to help pay the rent or utilities. You obviously can afford it yourself, don't complicate the situation by making her a tenant.
3. She helps pay for food.
4. Stock up on rubbers.
5. Instead of being worried about her being the slob focus on your own shit. Young women can occasionally be slobs, young men (like yourself) are almost always slobs at least in their own place. Keep shit clean and set a tempo that she'll pick up on and your place will stay clean.
6. All of this assumes that she does in fact have a definite place lined up for next fall (dorms I'm guessing) and that you're cool with seeing your relationship get thrown into hyperdrive. But as someone mentioned about, the last bit isn't really your choice. She's either going to be staying with you, grab a desperate situation to make shit work, or have to give up the internship because she couldn't find a place. The second of those two scenarios will likely be more stressful on your relationship than her staying with you, and will effectively have the same end result minus a bunch of money from her. The third is relationship poison anyhow, because she will begrudge the lack of an offer (even if she doesn't mention it to you).
So take the opportunity to white knight for a few months, know how the fuck you exit (or in this case she exits) when shit goes nutty, and be prepared to act like a calm, rational adult when you guys hit unexpected turbulence. Other than that, enjoy all the sex but keep it wrapped, even if she takes BC. Two layers of protection motherfucker.
Holy shit, talk about being a dick. Do you have some evaluation period on dating, like:
<X months: I don't give a fuck, she should be happy I'm with her
>X months: She is the love of my life, I would do anything for her!
To the OP: I understand if you are dating her you are thinking about some sort of a future with her. If so, let her move in.
If you are not thinking about the future, and are just in for the free sex, stop being an asshole and end the relationship.
Go for it. Don't take life too seriously. Maybe it'll be a big mistake - but you'll get over it!
Over-thinking things and never taking chances is boring.
Listen to this man if being a mature adult is your priority.
How is that mature at all? Is there a magical date, where you suddenly start to give a damn about a person you are with? I'm sorry, that is douchebag quality right there.
I've had this girlfriend for about 2 months
She comes from a poor family
I'm 21, she's 18.
Do stages not exist in relationships to you people?
Do stages not exist in relationships to you people?
Ooh! Tell me about the stages of a relationship! How is it supposed to work?
I want to see if I've ever followed the correct format.
lol gonna do it
Is there a magical date, where you suddenly start to get physical with a person you're wi- ah, yes, there is...
Is there a magical date, where liking turns to true lov- damn, that too.
What are we talking about, again?
lol gonna do it
As soon as you turn 18 and date someone for two months, you immediately move in.
And how many relationships have you been in exactly?
More than you, buster.
No wait - less! LESS!
I've had this girlfriend for about 2 months, we go to the same college and we have a healthy relationship. She comes from a poor family, so she doesn't have a car and she can't afford to live in her own apartment over the summer. She isn't going back home because she got an internship thats important to her at our school. I have my apartment for the whole summer. It's not that we are actively deciding to move in together, she really needs the help.
Is it a bad decision to ask her to move in this early in our relationship? It would just be for the summer, she will have her own place next semester. Anyone have an experience with something like this? I need to make a decision in 2 weeks. I need advice.
I smell a sitcom.
I'm waiting for the person who will provide the yes answer backed with some kind of amazing explanation
OK, I'll do it.
Go for it. I moved in with my girlfriend a month after we started dating. We've been together for 9 years, married for almost 7.
One of my roommates conveniently wants to move out early, so she is going to take his room and pay his rent. Ah this is working out much better now.
haha obviously she'll spend most nights in my room, but just letting her have her own personal space is much more comforting.Have her sleep in your room, turn that other room into something cool.
haha obviously she'll spend most nights in my room, but just letting her have her own personal space is much more comforting.
heyoooooThat's what the kitchen is for.
Trust me, she's mature and we have been talking about this a lot. I just wanted some other advice.OP, you should have a conversation about this with your girlfriend like a pair of grown adults. Set parameters. Manage expectations. I don't see the problem with her moving in.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=D-yu6hspcjQ#t=19sThat's what the kitchen is for.
heyooooo
Trust me, she's mature and we have been talking about this a lot. I just wanted some other advice.
Thanks guys.
You gotta hammer out those details.
Like, is it okay to piss in the shower when she's in there with you?
piss in the shower
I actually haven't been in that many, I just found the stages thing so weird. Different people move faster or slower, depends on the couple.
heyooooo
Trust me, she's mature and we have been talking about this a lot. I just wanted some other advice.
Thanks guys.