That was my point. You often see people in this thread posting about how if they could only find the right guy then they would feel better about themselves, and I have always argued against that and learning to love and accept yourself first and foremost was more important.
Ah yeah, I agree on that. My mistake.
Having slept on it I don't think I was exactly thinking clearly last night - I'm making steady if modest gains and I'm the heaviest I've ever been. I should be looking at where I was and where I am now and be happy with and proud of the gains I've made, it just all feel futile I guess sometimes. First world problems for sure.
I've definitely been there. Will feel the same way soon too. I think it's good to keep track of improvements so you can look back and reinforce "yes, I am making progress." It's something I haven't done and really wish I did. Like, before or after pictures or something along those lines. I basically just have to jump on the scale and remind myself how light I used to be.
But yeah, first world problems.