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the physical aspect of a relationship is just as important as the emotional aspect.
the physical aspect of a relationship is just as important as the emotional aspect.
the physical aspect of a relationship is just as important as the emotional aspect.
Since always.
Yup.
Ehhh, no. I disagree.
But then again, besides me, my family is religious. And insinuating that they can't have loved each other until after they got married is a bit ridiculous to me.
EDIT: And love is an emotion anyways.
Nothing worse than loving someone you have zero affinity with in the bedroom
the physical aspect of a relationship is just as important as the emotional aspect.
Ehhh, no. I disagree.
But then again, besides me, my family is religious. And insinuating that they can't have loved each other until after they got married is a bit ridiculous to me.
EDIT: And love is an emotion anyways.
You don't necessarily have to have had sex, but you really don't know someone enough after just 2 months.
Thanks dude. I'm going to stop stressing so much and just see what happens. I'm also only going to post on this if I have a legit question or need advice on something. Because I myself want to get back to giving advice and opinions on other peoples situations.
The fuck does this even mean? Where are you approaching girls? Are you approaching girls?
I am approaching girls.
I pretty much approach them anywhere that's appropriate when I go out.
For instance bars, clubs, standing in line somewhere, and so on.
Ugh, is it a normal reaction to mixed successes and failures in dating to get really cynical about women and start thinking more and more of them are hideous, boring, stupid, or full of shit? I'm feeling kind of shitty for feeling so harsh.
You have to have sex before you can say you love them? Since when?
Now how do you slow things down??? Problem is she lives in Riverside, about an hours drive from here. It's not lIke we can just do lunch or something.
I'm at a loss...
I've had those feelings, no doubt. Is it normal? Yeah, probably, but not very good or any of that. I'm kind of a perpetual cynic, so I more or less have these attitudes about different things all the time, but I know what you're feeling. To me, its a signal I need to jsut stop trying and doing something else other than dating/approaching/whatever, because I'm spinning my wheels in the snow, so to speak, at that point.
Now how do you slow things down??? Problem is she lives in Riverside, about an hours drive from here. It's not lIke we can just do lunch or something.
I'm at a loss...
God, I am depressed. Met a cute girl, kinda shy but also fun and easy-going. Beautiful. We have chemistry.
She has a baby.
Fuck that depressed me =/
I think this one is not exactly ready for what you have in mind. I'm not sure a relationship is in the cards. Have some fun with her, keep the conversation light, just have a good time while it lasts.
God, I am depressed. Met a cute girl, kinda shy but also fun and easy-going. Beautiful. We have chemistry.
She has a baby.
Fuck that depressed me =/
Hopefully this is my last question until an update and this one's pretty minor but I just wanted an opinion from you guys. I pretty haven't texted with her at all unless it's functional. On one hand it avoids confusion and the whole annoying texting game although I also feel like we're just disconnected when we don't see each other.
I know how GAF feels about texting and I fully agree, I've always been the most productive when I call her up but she's gonna be partying for a full week now so I probably won't be able to call her unless I want to have an awkward drunk conversation. Besides, I don't really have anything to discuss right now but do suddenly have the urge to start texting to keep the fire going until she comes back.
Thanks for the advice. The strange thIng is, I know she wants me. I've made a few mistakes along the way, but she is very flirty and one time I was tucking her in so she could take a nap, and she clawed at my chest and reached for my junk.
She has some sort of mental block. Maybe I'm taking things too fast. One time I texted her "You would ravage me if you let your instincts take over, wouldn't you?"
She replied "Yes, thats the prob! Aminal."
Later on I asked "What would you do to me if you got your hands on me?"
She replied "Wudnt u lk to know!"
So many mixed responses from her. Her body wants it, her mind is scared...
Thanks for the advice. The strange thIng is, I know she wants me. I've made a few mistakes along the way, but she is very flirty and one time I was tucking her in so she could take a nap, and she clawed at my chest and reached for my junk.
She has some sort of mental block. Maybe I'm taking things too fast. One time I texted her "You would ravage me if you let your instincts take over, wouldn't you?"
She replied "Yes, thats the prob! Aminal."
Later on I asked "What would you do to me if you got your hands on me?"
She replied "Wudnt u lk to know!"
So many mixed responses from her. Her body wants it, her mind is scared...
Right, cos I'm sure she was hoping to find another father for the kid, rather than just meet someone and have some fun.
Are you sure she just doesn't want you to make the first decisive move?Thanks for the advice. The strange thIng is, I know she wants me. I've made a few mistakes along the way, but she is very flirty and one time I was tucking her in so she could take a nap, and she clawed at my chest and reached for my junk.
She has some sort of mental block. Maybe I'm taking things too fast. One time I texted her "You would ravage me if you let your instincts take over, wouldn't you?"
She replied "Yes, thats the prob! Aminal."
Later on I asked "What would you do to me if you got your hands on me?"
She replied "Wudnt u lk to know!"
So many mixed responses from her. Her body wants it, her mind is scared...
I have just dropped by this thread so I haven't read any previous posts, but me and the girl I have been seeing for a couple of months love texting each other and being flirty, if I wasn't texting and talking as much, I would also feel pretty disconnected. We text each other some stupid shit lol.
Texting with her in the past has proven...difficult in the past and her response is always delayed so there's never been any real back and forth banter. I know how that sounds but the last time I saw her has been great and she's always been this way texting, no matter how we're doing at the time. We've also already kissed and cuddled so I'm already past that phase. It looks like I'm kinda answering my own question here since it sounds like a horrible idea but it just seems so empty now that she'll be gone for a week without something as simple as a text .
EDIT: Don't think it really matters in this particular case but I'm 20.
Texting with her in the past has proven...difficult in the past and her response is always delayed so there's never been any real back and forth banter. I know how that sounds but the last time I saw her has been great and she's always been this way texting, no matter how we're doing at the time. We've also already kissed and cuddled so I'm already past that phase. It looks like I'm kinda answering my own question here since it sounds like a horrible idea but it just seems so empty now that she'll be gone for a week without something as simple as a text .
EDIT: Don't think it really matters but since you generally asked I'm 20.
May I ask for a bit of advice? I'm hardly short of confidence when it comes to talking to women, but that comes with an asterisk. If I see a woman that I'm not interested in but somehow feel compelled to speak to because I notice something in particular with them (like maybe a certain book, a certain shirt, etc), i have ZERO problems starting a conversation.
BUT! when it's a woman that I'm attracted to, I'm at an absolute loss for words. I get this mental block where I can't get a conversation going. That's the hardest part. Once a conversation is started, it's easy to go with the ebb and flow and steer it into certain topics. The whole breaking the ice part is where I stumble. Please help me! haha
May I ask for a bit of advice? I'm hardly short of confidence when it comes to talking to women, but that comes with an asterisk. If I see a woman that I'm not interested in but somehow feel compelled to speak to because I notice something in particular with them (like maybe a certain book, a certain shirt, etc), i have ZERO problems starting a conversation.
BUT! when it's a woman that I'm attracted to, I'm at an absolute loss for words. I get this mental block where I can't get a conversation going. That's the hardest part. Once a conversation is started, it's easy to go with the ebb and flow and steer it into certain topics. The whole breaking the ice part is where I stumble. Please help me! haha
What about when a girl tells you to text her? In my experience, I haven't met any girls who have actually said "call me." Every time they only mention text.In my opinion texting is great as a supplemental form of communication. It should never be your main line of communication however.
What's stopping you from using the same icebreaker that you use on girls you're not attracted to? Commenting on something you notice? It seems like a pretty good way to start conversation to me!
Realize that beauty is meaningless. You are being completely irrational.
This is great. You're already doing what most guys wont.
Get out of this mindset. Why? Because there are more places than just bars, clubs, and standing in line somewhere. Anytime you see a girl you want to talk to just do it. Seriously, anywhere.
Do you like going to bars and clubs? Or do you just go because your friends want to and you just want to meet women?
It seems VERY elementary but I get this mental block for some odd reason. Like it's someone I'm not attracted to, I'm filled to the brim with confidence and stay loose and relaxed. Now turn that into a female I'm interested in, I freaking crumble =(.
What about when a girl tells you to text her? In my experience, I haven't met any girls who have actually said "call me." Every time they only mention text.
Text but get in the habit of getting her to communicate with you via other means. It's so easy to misconstrue texts or generally read stuff into them that isn't there. I just don't think it's a good habit to get into, especially if you're inexperienced with how these things go.
What about when a girl tells you to text her? In my experience, I haven't met any girls who have actually said "call me." Every time they only mention text.
Yeah, the gym could be a creepy place to hit on girls at. They get hit on all day, no need to add to that by invading their privacy. On the other hand, why "hit" on them in the first place? Like someone else said, a lot of guys go 0 for 3 on the great stuff you seem to have. You could easily have them hitting on you. Not worrying about it can be hard as hell, I know, but maybe you should focus on making new friends? That seems like a big deal to me. I wouldn't go as far as giving the same advice as chinner gave to izick but to some degree it might be right for you?I've been told that women that don't like being hit on in a place like a gym for instance. I realize I'm only talking to them but even so some people don't want to talk when they got stuff to do.
I go to some of these places because I got nothing better to do. Don't have many friends either so options are limited.
Realize that beauty is meaningless. You are being completely irrational.
Yeah, the gym could be a creepy place to hit on girls at. They get hit on all day, no need to add to that by invading their privacy. On the other hand, why "hit" on them in the first place? Like someone else said, a lot of guys go 0 for 3 on the great stuff you seem to have. You could easily have them hitting on you. Not worrying about it can be hard as hell, I know, but maybe you should focus on making new friends? That seems like a big deal to me. I wouldn't go as far as giving the same advice as chinner gave to izick but to some degree it might be right for you?
Edit: As for having problems with hotter women,
http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=9oLFeTXEFp0
I've been told that women that don't like being hit on in a place like a gym for instance. I realize I'm only talking to them but even so some people don't want to talk when they got stuff to do.
I go to some of these places because I got nothing better to do. Don't have many friends either so options are limited.