Maybe in Brenth Smith's alternate reality that will work but I don't think it works in our reality. People don't really come to you.
My first super hot girlfriend came to me out of nowhere. Hasn't been one like her since, do not be passive. Ever.
Maybe in Brenth Smith's alternate reality that will work but I don't think it works in our reality. People don't really come to you.
So, I'm back again with some good news this time So, literally the afternoon after my date (that resulted in there not being a 2nd date) another girl on OkCupid responded to my message. We chatted back and forth for a few hours, and a bunch today. She then gave me her # so that we could text. Here's one of her last messages
"Yeahhh living at home is probably always quieter than living in a dorm lol. Well so far I like Springfield, although I'm only taking part time classes. But I enjoy them and I like the people that are in my classes That's great that you enjoy Hartford so much! You make it sound pretty great Also it's great to have people around who you can talk to forever about what you love to do lol. I like talking to you I'm going to get off here and get ready for bed, although it's tempting not to "
My response
"That's awesome that you like Springfield Yeah, [college name redacted] is pretty awesome. Yeah, I agree, it's nice to have that I really like talking to you too Nah, don't log off. Stay online a bit more "
Her response
"How about we compromise and I get off here, but give you my phone number so that we can text instead "
We then texted back and forth for over an hour
Why the misogyny here?it's refreshing to see/hear a girl from Springfield that isn't a total snob/bitch.
We then texted back and forth for over an hour
Why the misogyny here?
Very nice. Being from the general area, it's refreshing to see/hear a girl from Springfield that isn't a total snob/bitch. Take her to the basketball Hall of Fame or Six Flags New England!
Thanks guys. I actually live pretty close to Springfield but, didn't want to give away exactly where I live (hence the redacted college name). I've been to the Basketball Hall of Fame (the old one & the new one) and Six Flags. She said that she wants to see Spiderman & Dark Knight Rises so, we'll see Yeah I know. It's weird, we sent a total of 35 messages back & forth on OkCupid (and texted for over an hour) and for most of it, I was completely myself. I mean, there's the part at the beginning where your trying to "get" the other person but, after that, I don't know but for some reason, I was completely comfortable with talking to her. I know I'm rambling on (just watched the 3rd transformers movie on netflix even though she warned me not too ).congrats, dude. Don't fuck it up now though. But if you do, don't sweat it, there are tons more on the website.
Thanks guys. I actually live pretty close to Springfield but, didn't want to give away exactly where I live (hence the redacted college name). I've been to the Basketball Hall of Fame (the old one & the new one) and Six Flags. She said that she wants to see Spiderman & Dark Knight Rises so, we'll see Yeah I know. It's weird, we sent a total of 35 messages back & forth on OkCupid (and texted for over an hour) and for most of it, I was completely myself. I mean, there's the part at the beginning where your trying to "get" the other person but, after that, I don't know but for some reason, I was completely comfortable with talking to her. I know I'm rambling on (just watched the 3rd transformers movie on netflix even though she warned me not too ).
Yeah, we were talking back & forth about How I Met Your Mother. We had a deep discussion about the recent season finale I mentioned that my friends from school think I'm like Ted & she said she thought the same Yeah, I rarely feel this comfortable talking to a complete stranger. It's kinda weird I'm really looking forward talking to her againThat's key. If she feels the same way then your first meetup will be a breeze. All these texts and whatnot will serve as a preliminary first date and you can ease your way into the actual date with no worries or jitters.
One of the girls I talked/met on OKC gave me her full life story through texts one afternoon and our date was like we knew each other for weeks. She was incredibly comfortable with me and told me she never opened up to someone so quickly before.
See it's funny, my mother says the opposite. She tells my oldest brother and I never to end up with a Dominican woman because they're stuck up (they are to a degree which is why I avoid them like the plague). She would rather see us with a white woman.Fëanor;39917959 said:I was telling my mom that I met with some random girl off the internet on friday, and that it went well. I tell her she's white and she smiles, but then she goes "are you sure you don't want to date a Mexican girl?" hahaha.
I suppose she's looking out for me, probably not wanting to see me get burn by dating outside my ethnic group.
Trying to make guys jealous is kind of dumb, but then again my exgf and other girls I knew when working retail did this. It does work, sometimes.
I see. She sat intentionally sat next to you in hopes that you would talk to her and which you did instead of being paralyzed with fear trying to think of something to say. You then had fun in each other's company flirting and whatnot and then found out that you're both working in the school.Aaaand, done: this coming Friday night.
She stayed over the next day and we just chilled on the couch (lazy sunday).
Well, I was at a restaurant for a mutual friend's birthday party, and she took the vacant seat next to me. We started some small chit-chat and I took the initiative to introduce myself first and we kept talking to each, mostly to each other for most of the night. There was also a little trivia challenge and we had some fun making complete guesses at that.
I saw her again at the bus stop, and we talked some more on the bus. Found out we both got on-campus jobs, and brought up a karaoke night for the same group of mutual friends. At the end of that day, I added her on Facebook, and the next day she messaged me about tagging along with her for an alcohol run for a karaoke night. I started having thoughts, but I thought, "why not?" After the run, she suddenly asked why not make a stop somewhere to eat for dinner for karaoke, and I simply oblige without a second thought. We took our time eating, then went that karaoke night. A few hours later, once both of us sobered up, she saids to its too late at night to wait for the bus to go home, so she asked me if she could walk back with me and crash at my place.Guess what I said.
We made back to my place, we sat on the couch, and the next thing you know, she resting on my shoulder, holding me.
I have no idea what I've done, if I did anything. I guess she just likes me.
Nah, I retired from it after that. You're definitely not the only one because it means you have a lot confidence to be able to talk to a woman so that consider that a good thing. Fortune favors the bold.I'm surprised you don't try more often. Am I the only here who actually tries a lot but still fails?
Yeah, we were talking back & forth about How I Met Your Mother. We had a deep discussion about the recent season finale I mentioned that my friends from school think I'm like Ted & she said she thought the same Yeah, I rarely feel this comfortable talking to a complete stranger. It's kinda weird I'm really looking forward talking to her again
I've been seeing my gf for about five and a half months. First month or so it was every weekend, and quickly turned into 4/5 nights a week after. She's my first gf and she took my virginity. She knows my history.
I think I'm in love. Last couple weeks I've felt like telling her but I'm too sacred to. Not sure how she feels. Never said it to anyone else other than my parents as it's not a word i toss around lightly.
Too soon GAF? Last thing I want to do is weird her out and screw things up. Friend of mine said to wait for her to say it first.
It's not fixable My brother has it too, and my father. Even my sister to a lesser extent. It stems from my father's mother's side.
The only thing that helps is medication, which I've been taking for over 10 years. It doesn't fix it, but it's the only reason I'm able to leave the house.
As I mentioned, I had a 6 year span where I didn't even ask a girl out. I didn't do shit during those 6 years relationship-wise. Didn't help.
My condition is only getting worse over time. Eventually it will kill me.
I've been seeing my gf for about five and a half months. First month or so it was every weekend, and quickly turned into 4/5 nights a week after. She's my first gf and she took my virginity. She knows my history.
I think I'm in love. Last couple weeks I've felt like telling her but I'm too sacred to. Not sure how she feels. Never said it to anyone else other than my parents as it's not a word i toss around lightly.
Too soon GAF? Last thing I want to do is weird her out and screw things up. Friend of mine said to wait for her to say it first.
morgan freeman speaks the truth........you can no longer deny it
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9ojY6ZvciXg&feature=player_embedded#t=0s
Yeah, we were talking back & forth about How I Met Your Mother. We had a deep discussion about the recent season finale I mentioned that my friends from school think I'm like Ted & she said she thought the same Yeah, I rarely feel this comfortable talking to a complete stranger. It's kinda weird I'm really looking forward talking to her again
I've been seeing my gf for about five and a half months. First month or so it was every weekend, and quickly turned into 4/5 nights a week after. She's my first gf and she took my virginity. She knows my history.
I think I'm in love. Last couple weeks I've felt like telling her but I'm too sacred to. Not sure how she feels. Never said it to anyone else other than my parents as it's not a word i toss around lightly.
Too soon GAF? Last thing I want to do is weird her out and screw things up. Friend of mine said to wait for her to say it first.
Just called Robin again. And... We're officially broken up now.
It basically went like this:
Her: why do you keep wasting time on me?
Me: I like you.
Her: but it's too complicated.
Me: how is it complicated?
Her: too far...
Me: the distance doesn't bother me.
Her: isn't it complicated for you?
Me: the only thing complicated is I have trouble reading you.
Her: so it's complicated...
Me: so you don't want to go out again??
Her: yeah...
Me: alright.
Quoted as an example of men and women think very differently.
I doubt the distance actually bothered her and was more of an excuse because she wasn't as interested. It sounds the same as "it's not you it's me" or "I'm not ready for a relationship right now"Quoted as an example of men and women think very differently.
I agree with you but, my only concern is that it might be too soon to meet in person. I mean, we've only been messaging/texting each other for 2 days.Your next deep conversation should be face to face and not through text. If you over communicate through texts or online it can create an expectation that can't be met face to face. Next time you text her, do it to setup a date (of which you pick the details) and see if you have the same chemistry in person.
I agree with you but, my only concern is that it might be too soon to meet in person. I mean, we've only been messaging/texting each other for 2 days.
I agree with you but, my only concern is that it might be too soon to meet in person. I mean, we've only been messaging/texting each other for 2 days.
So, advice...
Used to be really close with this girl. She's always given many signs but I hesitated due to numerous factors (I can give details if necessary). We've had a very up-and-down friendship. One day we're really close, then for whatever reason we don't speak for months. She'll always claim I never care to keep in touch, but when we actually meet she'll act as if she doesn't give two shits about anything.
Anyway, she'll be gone for a long time. The first time she said she was leaving I thought it was just a lie to get my attention. Turns out its true. I fear spilling my guts because part of our "relationship" has been an ego war.
Ideas? Thanks alot.
Story.
I said sure...friend goes "hey *girl*, this is my friend clearacell, he thinks you're hot". Totally awkward intro, could not talk to her afterwards cause it was that bad.
Well you can’t make a second first impression. That fucked up way in which your friend introduced you was (unfortunately) your first impression. And if you talked to her that many times (in person) and she liked you, she would have given you something to work with. It honestly sounds like she isn't interested and you’re getting into stalker territory by keep going at it like this. And before you say “but we’re talking on Facebook!” Well… That doesn’t really mean shit. If she isn’t acknowledging you in person she could just like the attention you’re giving her, OR your friend zoned. I’m not trying to rain or your parade I’m just telling you what’s likely* happening because I've had this situation before. On the off chance I’m wrong I hope y’all meet up for coffee or something and you can see where it really goes. Also your two friends are assholes.
I gave this advice earlier for someone who said it too soon. Unless you are absolutely sure she feels the same way, wait for her to say it.
yeah, DON'T DO IT.
I lost about a year this way in the university and 6 months when I tried it again in my adulthood.
Nobody comes to you, you should be active.
First impressions really piss me off. I usually don't judge people until I get to know them but even then I believe they can change so I'm always open minded. I can't believe there are people out there that think just because they knew you 8 years ago in high school that you're still the same person.
Eh, thats not always true. I've had several experiences with girls making the first move in expressing their interest.
I don't know if you're projecting or talking about something specific. If it's the latter, why would you keep in contact with them if they won't respect who you are and that you've changed?
Eh, thats not always true. I've had several experiences with girls making the first move in expressing their interest. And I'm far from being anything special in terms of looks.
Maybe its rare but its certainly not true that nobody comes to you. Just as long as you mix in groups with enough girls.
Depends on the situation. What I think you should do is to never bring it up again. It's not like it's something she will forget. She will evaluate how she feels about you and when she's ready, she'll say it, or she'll realize she's not that into you.Lolz, I said it too soon and she didn't say it back. So take it from me, take this guys advice.
On that note, where does it usually go from here.
I'm wondering whether you come off a certain way to people. I have NO idea why people are so hostile against you.I've run into people like that in my life. Just kind of pisses me off that people can see others that way. Respect is something I don't get very often so it really doesn't matter either way.
Just a couple days ago someone I knew made a joke about me where it went something like "Who wins if (insert my name) and two other guys jump off a bridge...society wins". I guess that's how some people see me.
Just a couple days ago someone I knew made a joke about me where it went something like "Who wins if (insert my name) and two other guys jump off a bridge...society wins". I guess that's how some people see me.
I've run into people like that in my life. Just kind of pisses me off that people can see others that way. Respect is something I don't get very often so it really doesn't matter either way.
I doubt the distance actually bothered her and was more of an excuse because she wasn't as interested. It sounds the same as "it's not you it's me" or "I'm not ready for a relationship right now"
I've been seeing my gf for about five and a half months. First month or so it was every weekend, and quickly turned into 4/5 nights a week after. She's my first gf and she took my virginity. She knows my history.
I think I'm in love. Last couple weeks I've felt like telling her but I'm too sacred to. Not sure how she feels. Never said it to anyone else other than my parents as it's not a word i toss around lightly.
Too soon GAF? Last thing I want to do is weird her out and screw things up. Friend of mine said to wait for her to say it first.
I told my ex, who was also my first in the same aspects, that I loved her about 3 1/2 months after we started dating. She said it right back. I felt it earlier than that, but there is such a thing as saying it too soon.I've been seeing my gf for about five and a half months. First month or so it was every weekend, and quickly turned into 4/5 nights a week after. She's my first gf and she took my virginity. She knows my history.
I think I'm in love. Last couple weeks I've felt like telling her but I'm too sacred to. Not sure how she feels. Never said it to anyone else other than my parents as it's not a word i toss around lightly.
Too soon GAF? Last thing I want to do is weird her out and screw things up. Friend of mine said to wait for her to say it first.
I agree. But it is not limited to women only. I think wanting to spare feelings is common. We all want people to be straightforward with us until we are put in the situation ourselves. It's harder to be blunt.Agreed, but why girls can't force it into their head that men would rather be leveled with instead of "spared feelings" is beyond me.
The vast majority of men Im willing to bet would much rather be...hey, the distance is too much and I don't feel that Im close to you. Or, look, Im just not that into you anymore.
Guys, can swallow that and move on.
The ambigious bs is what drives us all nuts.
Random questions. Do you speak softly when you talk with someone? Do you hold strong eye contact?
Do you know what this condition is? Is it a mental illness?
I agree. But it is not limited to women only. I think wanting to spare feelings is common. We all want people to be straightforward with us until we are put in the situation ourselves. It's harder to be blunt.
Another explanation can be that people really don't know what they want. So they could very well believe that they are not ready for a relationship until they come across a guy that makes them want to.
OK GAF I need support
I am going to be 29 in a month and haven't been on a date in about 4 years, before I started working full time. I shared many issues that people here have with girls. Now I am at the end of a 1 month internship. During the internship I met this girl. We have decent conversation from family to work (we go to different schools but study the same subject). Now her look is average at best but she has amazing personality. I am thinking of asking her out tomorrow. Reading between the lines I don't think she has a boyfriend. I figure if she said no I would only have to see her for 2 more days.