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She can achieve that without involving you. Why do you need to be the one? This whole thing is weird.
Anyway we're both college educated professionals
Politely decline. Sperm banks exist for a reason. Do not do this.
Tell her that's a terrible pick up line
Having kids with people you respect and are compatible with is way more important.
He gets a baby momma he respects, a kid with a good gene pool, and doesn't have to be tied down. Amazing situation, IMO.
Having kids with people you respect and are compatible with is way more important.
He gets a baby momma he respects, a kid with a good gene pool, and doesn't have to be tied down. Amazing situation, IMO.
This sounds to me like entrapment for child support or something. Am I being too paranoid?
Having kids with people you respect and are compatible with is way more important.
He gets a baby momma he respects, a kid with a good gene pool, and doesn't have to be tied down. Amazing situation, IMO.
I never thought I would ever start a thread here much less about this subject but here it goes.
I'm 34 and she's 32. She dropped this bombshell on me like a few weeks ago and I rejected her at first but over time, I felt like what if she missed the opportunity in having a kid, because of me? So then I changed my mind weeks later and told her I would consider doing it. Anyway we're both college educated professionals, she's getting her masters so it's not like we're kids. I don't have any children and neither does she. She rarely dates because of how busy she is with school and work. I've also known her close to a decade now, since we both went to the same university.
So like I said before, I originally rejected her but I changed my mind. I told her to give me until the summer, so we can think this over, to see where our lives are at that point of next year. That she needs to work on her stress from working and getting her masters, getting her career straightened out and to see how we feel about this in eight months or so. Then if we're still up for it, we can take a long vacation somewhere and do this. She also told me that I can be however much I want in the child's life.
I need your help, GAF. I feel like in my heart I want to do this for her and I really would love to be in the baby's life somehow but we don't even live in the same city either. I feel like I'm blind about the situation and would appreciate anything that opens my eyes to some things that I'm not getting right now. Thanks.
Why would you have a kid with someone you don't love?
You should not be concerned with this at all. This is her problem.I felt like what if she missed the opportunity in having a kid, because of me?
Then how is she going to raise this child?She rarely dates because of how busy she is with school and work.
This thread is the smelling salt of my life, thanks GAF. Seems like my initial reaction when I rejected this idea was correct, bringing a child into this world without a solid foundation would be messing up their life as well as me being on the hook for alimony. Yeah I can't bring a child into this world so cold-hearted, like we were getting a pet or something (props to whoever said that). When I do decide to have children, I want to have them with someone I love, and not with a friend I just care for. She does have a lot of options, it's true and I would be on the hook for so many things. I just wanted to plug the void in her life (no pun intended) because I do care for her after knowing her for so many years.
Oh man, I almost lost my damn mind considering going along with this.
This thread is the smelling salt of my life, thanks GAF. Seems like my initial reaction when I rejected this idea was correct, bringing a child into this world without a solid foundation would be messing up their life as well as me being on the hook for alimony. Yeah I can't bring a child into this world so cold-hearted, like we were getting a pet or something (props to whoever said that). When I do decide to have children, I want to have them with someone I love, and not with a friend I just care for. She does have a lot of options, it's true and I would be on the hook for so many things. I just wanted to plug the void in her life (no pun intended) because I do care for her after knowing her for so many years.
Oh man, I almost lost my damn mind considering going along with this.
I'd suggest going to a sperm bank first. But if you really want to do this, make sure you talk to a few lawyers and cover yourself.
Why would you have a kid with someone you don't love?
This thread is the smelling salt of my life, thanks GAF. Seems like my initial reaction when I rejected this idea was correct, bringing a child into this world without a solid foundation would be messing up their life as well as me being on the hook for alimony. Yeah I can't bring a child into this world so cold-hearted, like we were getting a pet or something (props to whoever said that). When I do decide to have children, I want to have them with someone I love, and not with a friend I just care for. She does have a lot of options, it's true and I would be on the hook for so many things. I just wanted to plug the void in her life (no pun intended) because I do care for her after knowing her for so many years.
Oh man, I almost lost my damn mind considering going along with this.
It's opposite day rightOP DO IT
I don't think there is a way to cover yourself. It's not like you can sign a child support pre-nup.