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So, my ex texted me to tell me she is getting married

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blackdevil

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reading the thread title i was on your side. No need for her to rub it in that she is getting married but then you said:

she is my ex and i loved her but she was kinda rough to look at
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and you lost me. What a sh** thing to say !

The fact that you still have the number and are getting pissed off that she is happy now tells me that you still want her
 
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Acorn

Member
My ex texted me months later to tell me she was pregnant because "I'd find out from someone (I wouldn't) and it wasn't mine (duh, I can count)".

I think she really just wanted to get a reaction outta me or something. Just blocked her ass.
 
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mavo

Banned
Robdraggoo said:
That was my thought. She wanted to get back together and was trying to get your feelings, and when you reacted indifferent it pissed her off.
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No, she didn't wanna get back together, after she texted me the first time we talked normally (Because im an idiot and i answered her text) really fine actually and she dropped a "Oh well i have a bf now so we can just be friends" or something like that.

She may be lying about being engaged but i don't doubt she has a partner.
 
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Triggerhappytel

Member
Not trying to be mean, but it sounds like you're both quite immature (her especially) and the best thing to do is just not talk to her any more. Block her number, break all contact and move on.
 
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Sho_Nuff82

Member
You should have blocked her ages ago.

You should have gotten the AIDS test during your annual physical/bloodwork.

I'd give her new marriage about two years tops based on her level of maturity. You guys sound like typical college students, which is appropriate for your age, but your communication suggests that neither of you are nearly ready for that kind of commitment.
 
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Mesoian

Member
mavo said:
So basically we broke up a little bit more than a year ago after 3 years of being together on a very rocky passionate relationship. Last time we talked was 9 months ago when she wanted to me being tested for AIDS and got upset when i didn't do it and tell her to do it since i was sure i didn't have it.

Two day ago i woke up to her messages, and we talked nicely for a few hours until she told me she had a new partner and i was like "well you shouldn't have told me that" and told her to stop texting me and she got upset because i was not over her.

And today i wake up to her messages insulting me and i told her that she should forget about me and then after it she told me she was engaged and had forgot about me and how happy she was, that they were gonna move to london and what not; i found this pretty funny since she is only 22 and starting her second year of college, we did talk about marrying when we were gonna do it and that we are gonna do it, and frankly i always said yes but never too seriously and i always had doubts about getting married that young.

And when i told her that i dodged a bullet with her she said "i would have never gotten married with you, you are repulsive" which btw i ain't, im overweight but im good looking pal, well dressed, well groomed, and well i don't wanna be mean or anything because she is my ex and i loved her but she was kinda rough to look at (really bad acne which i didn't really care) so i remind her that she isn't one to talk and she started saying that i was so funny, that i was so deluded that she was gonna share our conversation and what not.

Frankly, it pisses me off that she will continue texting me even though she hates me according to her and wont leave me alone, and second that she thinks getting bad feelings because of your ex got someone new means you are still in love, is just the way it is, i told her that is obvious that she misses me but that doesnt mean that she is still in love or that she wanna be with me, which i don't think she wants, like she is getting married but what we shared we will always be there and it was both of us first serious relationship so thinking we are just gonna wake up one day and think about the other as just somebody is so weird. She actually lowkey asked me if i had a gf when we talked 2 days ago so i know she knows how it feels but she just ignores those feelings. One year is not a long time so i feel like she feels she should have 0 positive feelings for me to be with someone new or something like that.

Anyway i just wanted to get it off my chest because well it hurts but i already know how this shit is, i made up my mind a long time ago that i didnt wanna be with her and that she was gonna get someone new (don't care about the time really, for me is only funny in an outsider perspective because i feel is dumb being so young but she always kinda wanted that) and honestly im thinking of just acting like a real dick to her right now so she would leave me alone but at the same time i feel like she is gonna get hte wrong message if i do it "oh he is mad that means he still in love" or some shit like that.

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Also it pisses me off that she keeps texting me because we don't live on the same city nor have friends in common, she could have died the last few months and i would have never found out, the fact that she is bringing me back into her life pisses me to no end.
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1.) Block her. Geeze.
2.) You dodged a huge bullet. Seriously.

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mavo

Banned
Triggerhappytel said:
Not trying to be mean, but it sounds like you're both quite immature (her especially) and the best thing to do is just not talk to her any more. Block her number, break all contact and move on.
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No, we are both really immature and unstable, being with her got a really dark side from me that i didn't know existed, this year i went through a whole deal of introspection and i started to see an specialist and i told him about my issues and how i didn't like the way i behaved with her.

This time i actually behaved a lot way better than before but i still struggled not getting my buttons pushed on, believe me im not gonna go all mgtow "why are women so evil".

Angry Grimace said:
why did she think you have AIDS
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Neuroticism issues probably, there aren't really any sign of concern based on our health and our past sexual activities(i know she could have had sex behind my back but i find it highly improbable), her concern was her ex.
 
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Angry Grimace

Two cannibals are eating a clown. One turns to the other and says "does something taste funny to you?"
The whole story can be summarized as: "reasons to not seriously date someone under 30"
 
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Northernlights

Member
Dude, just block her. When I got out of my last 3+year relationship, I blocked her # and her access to any of my social media accounts. It kinda sounds like you like the idea that she texts you. Just block her and you'll wonder why you didn't do it ealier.
 
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mavo

Banned
Earthbound64 said:
And why is that?
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Well, because when we weren't physically together the only times we didn't talk on the phone at night was because i went out, she didn't like going out to nightclubs or bars, only eating or movies, not saying people that go out at night cheat on their partners, is just that if she would had multiple sexual partners that would worry about having aids it would be at night, and this brings to a second point where if she had another stable partner she could have contacted him instead of me.

And finally, when we were together one day i said what if you have an ETS, and she was like "No, you are such an idiot i have protected sex with my ex and he told me he his checkups came clean" and when she contacted me about the AIDS thing of course i asked her WHY was she feeling that and it was because she actually had unprotected sex with him.

I added to the OP that her test came clean. For me it was obvious that there was no risk and that she was just being crazy.
 
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Nicolada

Member
Yeah, let's insult people and enable their bitterness, that's a totally secure and healthy way to counter a toxic relationship.
 
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aygomyownroad

Member
Block that ex and move on.

She is messaging you because she is either trying to make you jealous or knows she is making a mistake and wants you back.

Get out of it pronto especially after the Aids issue.
 
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akileese

Member
aygomyownroad said:
Block that ex and move on.

She is messaging you because she is either trying to make you jealous or knows she is making a mistake and wants you back.

Get out of it pronto especially after the Aids issue.
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Yeah. Her behavior is not normal and saying you dodged a bullet is probably an understatement. I normally would give someone the benefit of the doubt but I don't even believe there's a fiance in this situation. It just seems like a plot device to emotionally abuse you.

Block her number and just take the high road. You won't get anything out of shit talking her back. You'll have much more of an effect on her by cutting her off.
 
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Frodo

Member
Just one thing annoying me, you don't test for AIDS, you test for HIV, OP.


AIDS is the possible outcome of an untreated HIV infection.
 
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Incitemaybe

Member
You dodged a bullet!

Congrats on not being with a human like that. Block her number and go about your life.


Maybe go celebrate how lucky you are.
 
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ArjanN

Member
Frodo said:
Just one thing annoying me, you don't test for AIDS, you test for HIV, OP.

AIDS is the possible outcome of an untreated HIV infection.
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Yeah well he also didn't test himself for HIV because he was magically already sure he didn't have it.
 
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IfritTower

Neo Member
Wait, ignoring all the other parts that are questionable about this thread, why did you not test yourself for HIV? All sexually active adults should be testing themselves for STDs at least yearly. Like... it's not gonna hurt you to get tested. You can't KNOW that you don't have a disease if you don't test for it. If she was telling you to get tested, it was probably for a reason...
 
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