truestatic
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Fucked up. Sorry this happened to you. Absolutely nobody and certainly not you deserves to be sexually harassed and assaulted like this. I hope you're okay.
Assault would involve some form of touching
Clearly.Not a lawyer.
I also added the coercion, just exposing yourself isn't assault. You can intimidate someone without force, but just whipping a dick out is not usually considered threatening.Clearly.
I don't think it's that complicated. The OP felt threatened and endangered. One way women are taught to deal with male aggression is to bargain, so she used the strategies she was taught to use. She went halfway between what she wanted (nothing) and what he wanted (sex) in the hopes that it would prevent the worse outcome from happening.
The reasons this strategy seems weird to you is because women are generally taught extremely ineffective strategies to deal with male aggression because the patriarchy wouldn't work if women could actually defend themselves from male aggression.
Well I'm a guy.
I guess this is just weird to me because it was two guys in this situation, and I was honestly interested in experimenting but he took it to the next level by violation what I consider to be the "public" vs. "private" place. Like, in all honesty, I was interested in trying it out but made it clear I wasn't comfortable with certain actions and he just didn't seem to listen and whipped it out, which is where things went south.
Like, it's weird because I feel almost homophobic with being disgusted with him even though I know, regardless of gender, what he did was not OK. But part of me feels guilty for almost like leading him on, though I feel I made it clear what I was and was not OK with doing.
Well I'm a guy.
I guess this is just weird to me because it was two guys in this situation, and I was honestly interested in experimenting but he took it to the next level by violation what I consider to be the "public" vs. "private" place. Like, in all honesty, I was interested in trying it out but made it clear I wasn't comfortable with certain actions and he just didn't seem to listen and whipped it out, which is where things went south.
Like, it's weird because I feel almost homophobic with being disgusted with him even though I know, regardless of gender, what he did was not OK. But part of me feels guilty for almost like leading him on, though I feel I made it clear what I was and was not OK with doing.
Not a lawyer
But part of me feels guilty for almost like leading him on, though I feel I made it clear what I was and was not OK with doing.
You want to meet new people, and one of the things you do is offer a blowjob..?
lmao
You want to meet new people, and one of the things you do is offer a blowjob..?
lmao
Well I'm a guy.
I guess this is just weird to me because it was two guys in this situation, and I was honestly interested in experimenting but he took it to the next level by violation what I consider to be the "public" vs. "private" place. Like, in all honesty, I was interested in trying it out but made it clear I wasn't comfortable with certain actions and he just didn't seem to listen and whipped it out, which is where things went south.
Like, it's weird because I feel almost homophobic with being disgusted with him even though I know, regardless of gender, what he did was not OK. But part of me feels guilty for almost like leading him on, though I feel I made it clear what I was and was not OK with doing.
Yah. Fuck off with that shit. "Lmao" the fuck out of here.Fuck off dude. It was a moment of nervous reacting.
Well I'm a guy.
I guess this is just weird to me because it was two guys in this situation, and I was honestly interested in experimenting but he took it to the next level by violation what I consider to be the "public" vs. "private" place. Like, in all honesty, I was interested in trying it out but made it clear I wasn't comfortable with certain actions and he just didn't seem to listen and whipped it out, which is where things went south.
Like, it's weird because I feel almost homophobic with being disgusted with him even though I know, regardless of gender, what he did was not OK. But part of me feels guilty for almost like leading him on, though I feel I made it clear what I was and was not OK with doing.
You want to meet new people, and one of the things you do is offer a blowjob..?
lmao
Whipping your dick out is textbook sexual assault.
So you can imagine the confusion of a victim... happy you've never been in a situation like that. Don't presume to know how you'd respond...I guess the only part that confused me was OP was trying to protect the guy and keep people from realizing what was happening.
I've never been in a situation like that so its hard to imagine how intense the moment was.
Stay safe.
I guess the only part that confused me was OP was trying to protect the guy and keep people from realizing what was happening.
I've never been in a situation like that so its hard to imagine how intense the moment was.
Stay safe.
So you can imagine the confusion of a victim... happy you've never been in a situation like that. Don't presume to know how you'd respond...
OP, you should do whatever you are most comfortable doing. If you feel up to reporting it, you should. If you don't, that's OK, too. You are not responsible for that man, just because he victimized you.
From my own experience, when someone like that is aggressively sexual to the point it feels like they're gonna sexually assault you at any second, you feel like you're losing control quickly and feel ashamed that this is happening, you start to feel like its your fault that this is happening and about what people would think about you. You also feel the need to gain some control in some way, and sometimes that were the bargaining part comes in.
All of this happens in literal seconds sometimes, so victims get more nervous and confused.
OP, you should do whatever you are most comfortable doing. If you feel up to reporting it, you should. If you don't, that's OK, too. You are not responsible for that man, just because he victimized you.
Well I'm a guy.
I guess this is just weird to me because it was two guys in this situation, and I was honestly interested in experimenting but he took it to the next level by violation what I consider to be the "public" vs. "private" place. Like, in all honesty, I was interested in trying it out but made it clear I wasn't comfortable with certain actions and he just didn't seem to listen and whipped it out, which is where things went south.
Like, it's weird because I feel almost homophobic with being disgusted with him even though I know, regardless of gender, what he did was not OK. But part of me feels guilty for almost like leading him on, though I feel I made it clear what I was and was not OK with doing.
just asking but why would you suggest blowing him?
just asking but why would you suggest blowing him?
just asking but why would you suggest blowing him?
Well I'm a guy.
I guess this is just weird to me because it was two guys in this situation, and I was honestly interested in experimenting but he took it to the next level by violation what I consider to be the "public" vs. "private" place. Like, in all honesty, I was interested in trying it out but made it clear I wasn't comfortable with certain actions and he just didn't seem to listen and whipped it out, which is where things went south.
Like, it's weird because I feel almost homophobic with being disgusted with him even though I know, regardless of gender, what he did was not OK. But part of me feels guilty for almost like leading him on, though I feel I made it clear what I was and was not OK with doing.
.OP, you are not obligated to explain yourself to anyone here or anywhere. That guy was an asshole to you and this is in no way your fault.
He got really agressive right then and started feeling me up and saying we do it there, I thought he was joking but then he pulled it out. That's when I freaked out, because I could tell he wasn't joking. Thankfully his friend pulled him away and got him to leave and apologize, but it was very weird.
just asking but why would you suggest blowing him?
You want to meet new people, and one of the things you do is offer a blowjob..?
lmao