How do you guys go about telling people what you're into? I met a girl a couple of weeks ago and we've been having sex, which is fine. I just hate normal sex, I find it boring. I texted her what I like and asked if she wanted to experiment a little. She hasn't replied since. Idc about her not responding, I'm a big boy, I can deal with it. But I don't want this to be a reoccurring theme where I tell the person what I'm into and they ignore me. Did I do the right thing? Or Should I wait a while next time until we develope more of a relationship? How do you guys generally approach the situation?
This wasn't an issue before as I had ways to find girls who were into it. I don't have that benefit anymore and am left stranded and bored![]()
Well, I can tell you that telling her over text was probably the wrong thing to do. When it comes to revealing things like this to a partner, you want to do it face to face. Encourage her to ask you anything, and to tell you about any reservations they may have about it.
It's just one of those things you need to discuss at length, and introduce her to it little by little. Be honest about it, but be measured too. You don't want to overwhelm your partner - if she seems receptive about it then show her more of what you like, but always be mindful of what she wants. If she's not ok with it, and you don't want normal sex, then perhaps you simply aren't meant to be, and look for another partner that will go for it.
Having a boring sex life where you're left completely unsatisfied is worse than not having a sex life.