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Seriously.If you're not a creeper who uses racist pick-up lines and aren't fetishizing anyone, then why get so defensive. Clearly it's not about you then.
Seriously.If you're not a creeper who uses racist pick-up lines and aren't fetishizing anyone, then why get so defensive. Clearly it's not about you then.
It feels awful to be fetishized. Why take personal offense instead of at least empathizing with where she's coming from?
^ This Thread.
My girlfriend is... and yes I have it. Now bloggers leave me alone and let me date whoever I want.
As a black man I'm festishized, but I don't feel awful.
I know that feel. My dream is to speak most of the languages before my demise. And when I was talking about that with friends of mine, I happen to say Japanese and Mandarin with other languages. They jumped saying "you want to learn this to pick up Asians". Got mad at that. My dream is serious business, not something to be used as a fucking tool for getting women.I've been learning Spanish since the beginning of this year, and it's common for people around here to think I am doing it to pick up Hispanic women. I live in an area that has a large Hispanic population. It's always awkward. They act as if I'll be able to take any girl home just by telling her to follow me in Spanish. Hell, the best I could probably come up with in Spanish is something like. ¿Estás perdida? El cielo está muy lejos de aqui.
I'd probably get laughed out the room saying that, though.
Yep. You remembered correctly. I am the girl that said I wanted to date someone like myself. If it were just appearance, I would like all Asian men, but Taiwanese-Americans get a +2 bonus, Chinese-Americans a +1 bonus, and everyone else gets nothing (is equal).
TBH, I never had much contact with Yellow Fever, mostly because I only had other Chinese/Taiwanese friends. I think I'm at the age now where most men are over their silly racial preferences. Lucky me .
Yes, there are ignorant fuckwads in every ethnicity .
I have heard Asian girls complain about Asian men not having muscles or big dicks. To those girls, I would say rather snarkily, that it isn't these men don't exist, it's that the Asian girl in question can't attract one.
God she is annoying. kind of agree with the sentiment though. I'm sure it happens to people of all races to some degree.
Someone has been looking for Colombianas, it seems.Why the fuck is this thread trying to get me to go to ColombianCupid? Wrong Continent.
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I once dumped a guy that mixed up "your" and "you're." I couldn't date someone that wasn't an English wordsmith.
I call it snow blindness. Joking aside. I had yellow fever for a while, I grew out of that shit thank fuck. I just had the hots for them I think cos when I went to university I thought they had the hots for me. They didn't. I recall some of the girls I told I kinda had a thing for Asian girls about my "yellow fever" and they often asked me which I prefferred: FOBs or ones brought up in the west. I answered the ones that are cute that give me their number.
I find the submissive stereotype hilarious cos in my experience it's far from the case. A Ghanaian friend of mine informed me his Chinese girlfriend cursed him out in ways he thought "were only possible from a black girl". Long story short pussy is pink. Like what you like.
It offends me because, as a white guy dating an Asian women, I will be subject to the scorn of people who presume my motives.Because women don't like to be objectified and treated like things instead of human beings.
You really can't see why Asian women might be offended that their worth is only so much as how well they fit a stereotype?
I'd wager if this even offends you in the first place, that speaks more about you than it does anything else.
Still sounds harmless to me. There's nothing wrong with seeking a relationship with someone of a particular look or culture.Many of you seem to be misunderstanding what was said in the video almost on purpose. She isn't shaming you for dating or being infatuated with women who happen to be Asian. The issue here is seeking them because they are Asian.
Nice excuse to dodge teh objectification, bro.Of the last 10 dates I went on, 9 were with Asian women
I live in Japan so if I picked at random I probably would have got 10 Asian women
If I objectified them I wouldn't keep moving on after the first date to find the right one!Nice excuse to dodge teh objectification, bro.
As an asian male, been fetishized is the least of my problems.
If I objectified them I wouldn't keep moving on after the first date to find the right one!
It is true though that a lot of guys who move to Asia have one thing in mind in particular.
Fun fact: Overall, asian males are seen as the least attractive males, with black women seen as the least attractive females.
Feels bad man
Flower arranging?
It offends me because, as a white guy dating an Asian women, I will be subject to the scorn of people who presume my motives.
Even on GAF, anyone who presumes to have a preference for a certain Asian look (or a love of other cultures) are deconstructed, and made to feel like the mere puppets of racist, Orientalist history... Despite a myriad of other possibilities for why they may feel as they do... Maybe it's their unique personal history that led to liking what they do, and not some pitiable, history-based objectification?
It offends me because I recently messaged a woman on a dating site, and without mentioning a single thing about ethnicity or culture (not a thing... I messaged her about Hannibal! Lol)... She ranted against me as a white guy daring to message an Asian. It was clear in her verbage that she had internalized "anti-yellow fever" as "fuck off white men who want an Asian girl". She was an atypical individual... But it made me feel sudden disgust that I could actually be racially judged like that (I know I know... Welcome to the club, white people). Straight up, my intentions towards her were presumed because I was white (when in actuality I just wanted to talk about Hannibal!) Sometimes corrections against racism end up becoming the new racism. I was racially profiled that moment... I was objectified, put into the label of some yellow fever fuck.
This yellow fever meme is harmful. I know it's a correction against the racist nonsense of other western men. But it's already being twisted into scorn for the intention of white-Asian pairings of any type. It removes all presumption that they might be innocent pairings, based upon normal interests.
Still sounds harmless to me. There's nothing wrong with seeking a relationship with someone of a particular look or culture.
We have particular tastes in all arenas of life... But when it comes to mates, maybe the biggest choice of your life... It's wrong? I wouldn't screen out or prejudge anyone based on ethnicity... But it seems to me that certain looks "working on you" more than others is biology 101.
I'm sympatico with the idea that men shouldn't be coming to the interaction thinking a bunch of stereotypes, though. But that's less to do with "yellow fever" or dating... And more to do with just straight up prejudice and racism.
Flower arranging?
No lie, that's how I met my best friend here.Flower arranging?
People get fetishized differently depending on race/gender. Assuming you're a guy you probably got to be exotic, stronger, wilder than white dudes.as a Caribbean native, i have been fetishised (usually older white women looking for a fling) and i didn't feel awful.
Except caught in the crossfire here is what should be the Asian immigrant's greatest ally: the non-Asian who genuinely enjoys the richness of Asian cultures and loves that they are here in the cultural tapestry.On the other hand, I find the 'yellow fever' as a meme to be something incredibly positive in the long run for race relations in this country. The further it spreads the more people might actually investigate and wake up to the harsh truths of how their mindset and attractions have been influenced by the mass media they consume. People might understand how the American media's long history of emasculating the Asian male and othering of minority females that enters into exoticism.
Except caught in the crossfire here is what should be the Asian immigrant's greatest ally: the non-Asian who genuinely enjoys the richness of Asian cultures and loves that they are here in the cultural tapestry.
That white guy who is dating Asian girls? He's also potentially the same white guy who has good Asian male friends and wants them to be hooked up with girls of all stripes.
This "yellow fever" crap seems like digging into the trenches of ethnic tensions. I don't see how it's improving the situation. Making people afraid of white men's intentions doesn't help.
I think the idea here is that systematic racism means there are really very few people who can be separated from Orientalist racism because it affects almost everyone who's exposed to modern western culture.
Frankly speaking, unless someone hasn't grown up in the west, that person will definitely have ingested some Orientalist shit. No matter how nice a guy he might be or how intelligent he is with this stuff. And I generally agree about that, and include myself, who is an Asian male who grew up in the US.
People shouldn't be surprised some people will feel that way. I'd say it's what happens when you get centuries and decades of racism directed towards you (and then practiced by you against people who you deem as racist prematurely). It sucks, but these things take time and this is the world we live in.
Except caught in the crossfire here is what should be the Asian immigrant's greatest ally: the non-Asian who genuinely enjoys the richness of Asian cultures and loves that they are here in the cultural tapestry.
That white guy who is dating Asian girls? He's also potentially the same white guy who has good Asian male friends and wants them to be hooked up with girls of all stripes.
This "yellow fever" crap seems like digging into the trenches of ethnic tensions. I don't see how it's improving the situation. Making people afraid of white mens' intentions doesn't help.
People suck, plain and simple. As a half-Asian I heard the term "war baby" a lot when I was little, even though WWII ended generations ago. Personally I find "yellow fever" to be offensive and I'm a bit puzzled as to why this thread is acceptable. Oh well.
The problem with this type of video is that no one actually hears her point because they are too busy defending themselves. This doesn't work.
I can see that point... I can see that there is a kind of "exotic Asia" at play in my earliest impressions of the continent (Kung fu and mystic wisdom, y'all)... But it's been so displaced by academia and 15+ years of close friend/lover relations with Asians both immigrant and locally born. I think you can appreciate from my statement of long experience with actual Asian people, that to even have the threat of being painted with an "Orientalist" brush, makes me billigerant.I think the idea here is that systematic racism means there are really very few people who can be separated from Orientalist racism because it affects almost everyone who's exposed to modern western culture.
Frankly speaking, unless someone hasn't grown up in the west, that person will definitely have ingested some Orientalist shit. No matter how nice a guy he might be or how intelligent he is with this stuff. And I generally agree about that, and include myself, who is an Asian male who grew up in the US.
People shouldn't be surprised some people will feel that way. I'd say it's what happens when you get centuries and decades of racism directed towards you (and then practiced by you against people who you deem as racist prematurely). It sucks, but these things take .
Yes. If there's an issue.. It should be brought to light. That's how this works, I agree.But making people aware of this whole subconscious Orientalism is critical.
Wouldn't the term war baby refer to the Vietnam war rather than WWII?
I think that's fair, by the way. We white people will be fine... Privilege definitely trumps any backlash from "yellow fever" fear.Spot on. There has literally been decades of media brainwashing that has left certain segments of the population to be found as undesirable (Asian men, Black women) while others are propped up on a pedestal (White men). We are currently seeing the effects of this where large portions of Asian American women date White men and it is so pervasive that it has now become its own 'meme'.
More people understanding just how deep and affecting the media's role is in all of this is only a good thing in the long run. It's taken decades to get to this point and it will likely take decades to 'deprogram'.
As for those 'caught in the crossfire', White men and women are still statistically the most desirable to all other races, I think you will be fine. Meanwhile minority races are currently in a crisis of either being ignored and stereotyped or fetishized. There are more pressing concerns.
Spot on. There has literally been decades of media brainwashing that has left certain segments of the population to be found as undesirable (Asian men, Black women) while others are propped up on a pedestal (White men). We are currently seeing the effects of this where large portions of Asian American women date White men and it is so pervasive that it has now become its own 'meme'.
More people understanding just how deep and affecting the media's role is in all of this is only a good thing in the long run. It's taken decades to get to this point and it will likely take decades to 'deprogram'.
As for those 'caught in the crossfire', White men and women are still statistically the most desirable to all other races, I think you will be fine. Meanwhile minority races are currently in a crisis of either being ignored and stereotyped or fetishized. There are more pressing concerns.
I guess I've crossed the line then. I am your monster. Hate me now. Judge me for my racist, Orientalist, objectivistic tendencies.You've crossed the line if you search for only Asian matches on OKCupid.
That's my litmus test for whether you just happen to find the features on Asian people attractive, or if you're engrossed with an Asian ideal.
I guess I've crossed the line then. I am your monster. Hate me now. Judge me for my racist, Orientalist, objectivistic tendencies.
Why do they even have an ethnicity filter on there anyway? It could be because ethnicity (read: looks) is one of the most important factors when it comes to what you like in a mate.
If you really are one of those "I don't see color" people when it comes to dating... Gold star for you. I guess you're more enlightened than the rest of us... Or it could be just that your sexual awakening was completely different than mine. Lucky for you that you were born without a particular interest.
I am open to dating someone of any ethnicity. That said.. Over time you figure out what you like. If using the OkCupid filter to get more of what I know I like is wrong, call me Hitler, because I don't want to be right.
I guess I've crossed the line then. I am your monster. Hate me now. Judge me for my racist, Orientalist, objectivistic tendencies.
Why do they even have an ethnicity filter on there anyway? It could be because ethnicity (read: looks) is one of the most important factors when it comes to what you like in a mate.
If you really are one of those "I don't see color" people when it comes to dating... Gold star for you. I guess you're more enlightened than the rest of us... Or it could be just that your sexual awakening was completely different than mine. Lucky for you that you were born without a particular interest.
I am open to dating someone of any ethnicity. That said.. Over time you figure out what you like. If using the OkCupid filter to get more of what I know I like is wrong, call me Hitler, because I don't want to be right.