The only decent options should be, dont cheat and fix your marriage (or try) OR separate, break off, divorce and go fuck whoever you want to fuck.
Cheating is plain degenerate behavior. It pisses on the marriage, the other person, the families involved and possible children, which can be devastating.
Nothing about it is edgy, or open minded, or nuanced or free spirited or enlightened. "But marriage is a social construct" yeah, great Sherlock, then dont get married or get divorced stat. This pseudo intellectualism to explain any abhorrent and degenerate behavior is laughable.
Add in this website, and now you have a character flaw AND you are stupid, as you went and stored your data on someones server, some of these were even .gov emails.