Messofanego
Banned
Guys, I need to vent. And I need you to make fun of me, because I fucked up pretty bad.
Last Saturday, I went out with a girl from okcupid. We went for drinks and clicked instantly, had lots of things in common, all that. After a while, we started making out and she suggested that we went to a club so we could spend the night together dancing. We did, and the night was amazing. We danced a lot, made out a lot, had a lot of fun together and overall amazing chemistry, to the point where we were approached by random people at the club saying how cute of a couple we were. I haven't dated much, but she was easily the girl I've had the most chemistry with in my life.
The night goes on like that, and we decide to leave. And then it's when I fuck up. She asked me if I wanted to go somewhere so we could have sex, and I declined it. "Why did you decline it, you dumb fuck?" you ask? My motivations were two: first, insecurity. My body image was pretty fucked up that day, and it did not help that I wasn't expecting sex so I did not take care of myself as I should. The second, was on an emotional level. The last two girls I've dated, we also went very quickly to the intimacy part (one in the first date, the other in the second), and in both cases it ended badly, and in my mind it was because I ended up rushing things to much. I tried explaining this second point to her, but I don't think she accepted it very well. At the moment, she seemed to be ok with that, just a bit confused. But after our date she's been treating me quite coldly through text, and I'm pretty sure she's ghosting me soon.
So, as I said, I fucked up real bad. I'm not swimming in girls either, I'm 26 and she would be the third girl I've ever been intimate with, so it's not like I have a lot of other options. Plus, it's pretty hard to meet someone I have as much chemistry with as her.
So please, make fun of me, make a lot a fun. I need to be made fun of for, so I don't ever repeat this mistake with anyone else. I may be one of the few heterossexual, single guys, who refused sex and ended up fucking up his chances with a very pretty, amazing girl at the same time.
If anyone, I'd be making fun of the girl if she can't accept your excuses for not having sex because of past experiences and body image. Maybe you needed a better time, or further into a relationship. Maybe you should start giving a disclaimer that you don't have sex on the first date. If she is going to ghost you over this, she's not worth it. Forget her, simple as that.
Maybe she's actually 14.Omg. I think I'm gonna cry. I'm talking to this girl on snapchat. She's 19 and really fucking cute. I told myself I wasn't gonna pursue anyone under 21 after my immature as fuck girlfriend but fuck it, I don't have to marry this girl. She posts stuff on her stories a lot at like 4 am. She had said that she always sleeps around that time so I asked her if she had insomnia. She tells me she doesn't know what that is. Kinda weird but no biggie. I explain it to her. Tonight we're texting and she says that she really wants to gain weight because she's really thin and that it's hard for her to gain. I tell her that she should try counting calories or at least guessing. Her response is "wtf are calories?" My jaw literally dropped. I asked her if she was kidding and she said she was serious. So I actually explain to her what calories are and how much she needs to eat to gain weight. She then asks me, no fucking joke, "Does pizza have calories?" I literally shed a tear. She is completely serious. I don't even know what to say. This is the dumbest person I've ever spoken to and I feel mean for even thinking it.