I should leave her so she wants to be with me? What is this nonsense? And on the triangle part, that's you misremembering.
Wrong on your part. Her sister has confirmed it.
Honestly I feel like your advice in this thread is often badly received and you frequenty get called out on your strange ideas by the other regulars. I don't want to be a dick about it but you very often contrarian to everyone else's advice. I don't know how to put it any other way. You very often paint doomsday scenarios where there shouldn't be. The advice you've given me in this post and the thread in general confirms this notion.
Hey Jokab. Feels bad to read you've taken this way the advice I gave.
You have the right attitude and you never make girls the reason of your problems. I like that.
When I read about your situation I thought you were in need for someone to tell you that you weren't being paranoid, and that her detachment wasn't exactly a good sign.
If I had known in advance you think of me as a contrarian I wouldn't have posted my own reply, just because I think that someone who has such an absolutely negative opinion of me wouldn't really listen to what I have to say. Which is why I won't argue the advice I gave nor your opinion of me as contrarian.
Just know that what I wrote wasn't meant to spite you or your relationship. I won't think less of you just because you rejected my advice.
Take care.
Whether we agree with the advice or not its being given from another perspective. In an advice thread we are free to take and leave what's given. That's the beauty. The place shouldn't be an echo chamber.
If you disagree with the advice by all means say why. But you're giving the vibe that you think he should keep his advice to himself. I flatout disagree. Is there literally in value in that?
You're not alone, and I disagree with nearly everything Tsukomo says about dating. However, there's value in saying, "Hey, this is why I feel this way." Frankly, I know I'm opinionated in this thread too, and I'd welcome people to explain why they think I'm wrong.
Everyone in this thread's a big boy or girl, and they all make their own decisions. If someone takes the time and effort to respond point-by-point with a thoughtful assessment and offer candid advice (which Tsukomo always does), then I appreciate those contributions to this thread.
Everyone should be able to post an opinion. If someone is wrong, we should all post why we think that person is wrong. Take Tsukumo's last bit of advice to Jokab: it wasn't wrong per se, perhaps just not a good fit in this particular instance. Push-and-pull is definitely a reality in many relationships, and its unfortunate but some people do gain interest in a person after they've been dumped/rejected.
Besides, even wrong advice is good to have. It tells you what not to do - which is just as important as what to do.
I wish these attitudes would be more widespread on the forum in general. My heart breaks everytime you engage someone in a discussion and they participate by bringing up scores from Rotten Tomatoes or Metacritic.