RelentlessRolento
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I signed up last week for match.com but don't like the site at all... have never gone to a singles meet.
is eHarmony worth it?
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Girl/Dating Age Part 2: A combined effort to give advice for those in need
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I signed up last week for match.com but don't like the site at all... have never gone to a singles meet.
is eHarmony worth it?
NihonTiger90
Member
Well, the matches may be better, but if I remember right, doesn't eHarmony keep you from contacting anyone outside of those it matches you up with? Or am I thinking of something else?
foodtaster
Banned
this eh looking chick is digging me. I haven't got any in a couple weeks. Should I take it or just wait until the semester starts up again and go after the real goods?
no, i don't think eHarmony or match.com are worth it. the only reason i'm with match now cause i already paid for it. :/
Attackthebase
Member
TheVampire
Banned
Had a good long makeout session with my new first girlfriend today in my car.
Having a GF is good
Having a GF is good
Wait. Don't settle for what you're not truly interested in.
Use her to knock out the cobwebs so you can be ready to go for gametime. You don't want to get a false start when the games on the line. The practice squad serves an important duty.
Smelly Tramp
Member
WHAT, let him go after what he wants yeh. Get those practice rounds in!
Had a good long makeout session with my new first girlfriend today in my car.
Having a GF is good
Really?
RelentlessRolento
Member
k. I have an e-harmony account, but I aint paying for it.
thx guys
thx guys
Or you can just jerk off and not have to deal with some girl who might turn into a clinger.
He asked, I answered.
Ding ding ding!
How about dating someone you're attracted to?
Talked to a guy who went to one in downtown Los Angeles. He said the guy:girl ratio was way off. 1:9, if you can believe it. He had a big smile on his face as he told me this. I would've expected the opposite, but maybe all guys think that way, hence the turnout. Also, I'm a fan of match. It's been good to me, and I think it's easily worth the money if you're getting return on your investment. Found a 3 and 2 year (currently still with her) relationship with the site.
hawkshockey11
Banned
OK, didn't think I would ever need to post here but....
I have been dating a girl for half a year. Lately I had seen a lot of changes and concerning things that were making me worried.
-She seemed extremely bored and uninterested when around only me. When she was with friends she seemed happy and playful and I stand around like the third wheel.
-She only talks to me when she has a problem. She never initiates chat or small talk that just makes you feel like she cares. (ie. How was work, how was school, etc). I do start small talk and if I get a response it is usually very late.
-She has never told me she has loved me without it being a response to me saying it and every time it sounds less and less meaningful.
-There are way more that really add to "the package" but those are the bigger ones. Basically I feel more like a friend (not even a best friend) than a lover.
Well an idea got into my mind that she doesn't love me anymore and I obviously stressed over it an decided to confront her looking for a definitive answer tonight. We were parked outside her house and I started by telling her that I wasn't sure how she felt about me anymore and she made it really awkward.... "Oh God not this" with a smile etc. She wasn't taking it serious so I tried digging deeper and laid down more reasons and she literally curled into a ball and said nothing. I made it fairly obvious that all she had to do was say something or do something that told me that she cared, but she just sat there with her hat pulled over her face and shivering in silence. I kissed her and told her that I really loved her and she just sat there still and I sat there still. She just had to say something... I knew I was being dramatic but her response to it told me that it was warranted. I told her that "At least now I know the answer" and I got out of the car and walked around the block (I really feel like I am writing a crappy romantic drama or something) and when I got back she was gone.
I really love her and I didn't want to invest so much emotion and time into something that would hurt me later so I had to know. I know I basically cornered her but I gave her an easy way to break out. The ball is in her court though and what she says and does next I think will define the rest of the relationship.
I have been dating a girl for half a year. Lately I had seen a lot of changes and concerning things that were making me worried.
-She seemed extremely bored and uninterested when around only me. When she was with friends she seemed happy and playful and I stand around like the third wheel.
-She only talks to me when she has a problem. She never initiates chat or small talk that just makes you feel like she cares. (ie. How was work, how was school, etc). I do start small talk and if I get a response it is usually very late.
-She has never told me she has loved me without it being a response to me saying it and every time it sounds less and less meaningful.
-There are way more that really add to "the package" but those are the bigger ones. Basically I feel more like a friend (not even a best friend) than a lover.
Well an idea got into my mind that she doesn't love me anymore and I obviously stressed over it an decided to confront her looking for a definitive answer tonight. We were parked outside her house and I started by telling her that I wasn't sure how she felt about me anymore and she made it really awkward.... "Oh God not this" with a smile etc. She wasn't taking it serious so I tried digging deeper and laid down more reasons and she literally curled into a ball and said nothing. I made it fairly obvious that all she had to do was say something or do something that told me that she cared, but she just sat there with her hat pulled over her face and shivering in silence. I kissed her and told her that I really loved her and she just sat there still and I sat there still. She just had to say something... I knew I was being dramatic but her response to it told me that it was warranted. I told her that "At least now I know the answer" and I got out of the car and walked around the block (I really feel like I am writing a crappy romantic drama or something) and when I got back she was gone.
I really love her and I didn't want to invest so much emotion and time into something that would hurt me later so I had to know. I know I basically cornered her but I gave her an easy way to break out. The ball is in her court though and what she says and does next I think will define the rest of the relationship.
I broke every rule in the book didn't I....
ShockingAlberto
Member
I probably would not have said "At least now I know the answer." If she is having conflicting feelings, and from your description it seems she is, saying "Oh hey, this conversation I sprung on you has now been decided" likely did not help. But I understand why you said it and I can't say I wouldn't have done the same thing in that situation.
Like you said, the ball is in her court, but if you want the relationship to succeed, show her that. Leave a message on her voice mail telling her she means something to you and you only brought it up because you're willing to fight for her. If you just leave it and say "Well, I said all I could, it's up to her now," she is going to think you don't care.
Sometimes we fall in to ruts in relationships and we take our partners for granted. Maybe she was depressed, maybe she has actually fallen out of love with you, but until she can say those words to you, it's best not to assume anything right now.
If you think you want to fight for this relationship, fight for it. If she doesn't...then, well, you will have your answer.
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Why does the cat look like it's about to devour everyone's soul?
ShockingAlberto
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In the land of fairness and rules, sure.
We're talking about emotions and relationships.
The poster in question has stated to his GF that he's not content with the relationship.
What else can he do that won't push her away? It already sounds that she's disinterested. Any more "encouragement" from him will likely come off as needy and desperate.
If she truly wants to express her interest in maintaining the relationship, she will do so.
I'm curious about the ages of the people in question, since the poster mentioned he dropped her off at her parents' house.
hawkshockey11
Banned
You're going to laugh but 18. I'm young, whole life full of other women ahead of me etc, etc. Yeah I know.
We are between semesters right now and the relationship is technically "long distance" (she goes to college 3 hours away) but she does come back often and I go there as well.
I'm not going to laugh. However, it's easy to make assumptions of what's wrong, based on your circumstances.
Do you think there's someone else?
Oh man, I'm only slightly older than you and even I know that long distance so young is a mistake. You're just going to get steadily busier as the years go by and have no energy to devote to traveling for the physical element.
You'll get over each other in a few months if you allow yourselves to realize long distance wont' work.
ShockingAlberto
Member
Not for nothing, but...long distance relationships at that age are really fucking difficult. Add that to just being a generally confusing time for both of you, I am not sure there's a predictable solution here.
I'm going to say something you probably don't want to hear, but, if you're not already prepared for this relationship to end, I would start emotionally preparing for it. Because she sounds confused and confusion does not always resolve itself rationally or positively.
hawkshockey11
Banned
I know without a doubt there is no one else. She is still friends with her ex and her ex obviously wants her back (he was a kid that dated her since middle school cheated on her and then HE broke up with HER.... 3 times. Every time she wanted him back when he would come back for her. I know she doesn't want that again. And I know all her guy friends and know that some of them are interested in her but she is not.
It's probably just distance killing the attraction, like others have said. It's difficult to transition to post-secondary with a high school girlfriend enough as it is and distance only makes things harder.
hawkshockey11
Banned
Problem is that things were great between us when we were apart. I could tell that she genuinely missed and cared for me. It wasn't until we finally got back in person that things started falling apart.
hawkshockey11
Banned
whoa
Not for nothing, but...long distance relationships at that age are really fucking difficult. Add that to just being a generally confusing time for both of you, I am not sure there's a predictable solution here.
I'm going to say something you probably don't want to hear, but, if you're not already prepared for this relationship to end, I would start emotionally preparing for it. Because she sounds confused and confusion does not always resolve itself rationally or positively.
"is too reasonable
for this forum"
ShockingAlberto
Member
"is too reasonable
for this forum"
I unfortunately speak from experience on this.
College is a rough time for any older relationships. Long-distance just makes it tougher.
Hypereides
Member
Bail. The. Fuck. Out. NOW.
Do it before she does anyway. I bet my not so well earned money that its gonna be creepin' just around the corner. Soon.
Pretty much everything you said means the spark is gone in this relationship. I also get a bad feeling shes been looking for greener grass already.
Besides youre both young. Teenage girls are the worst kind of relationship material there is. Sorry to break it to you homes. But this is beyond salvaging. FUBAR.
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By the way... I think Im gonna retract my new years resolution.
I had a bad day yesterday, got wasted beyond recognition .... this girl kinda slipped, and she accidently fell on my dick. Oopsie.
RelentlessRolento
Member
Its easy to give advice when you are not in the relationship. I think the past 10 years have been me helping friends with romance/love stuff but myself always being single. They keep asking me for advice since it seems to always work for them.
It is odd though how someone who never had much of relationships has the best advice for them.
Baconsaurus Rex
Member
Online dating. First one shows the typical nice guy messaging a girl about common interest, girl is not interested. Second pic shows some badass motherfucking Rambo message her for sex and shit and you see the girl playing with herself and having a really wet orgasm.
It's a comic so it's not that nsfw.
Yeah it's the same thing in NY... I went out on a date with a vegan recently (got back into the singles scene so I'll be posting in here more often), and it went awful... a lot of them really don't like meat eaters, as much as they will cover it up. I've never had it work out (especially since I am a huge carnivore).
Dating is going kinda slow for me, I'm just on OKCupid and haven't re-regged for Match yet... met a few interesting characters though:
-great girl, pretty attractive, has her MBA from a good college, very outgoing, hates Star Wars... we had a few really nice dates, unfortunately she told me she is moving to DC and doesn't want a relationship
-girl with no job who dropped out of school due to an FF11 addiction, she would sit at home and play Skyrim all day and all her ex's have been female, she wanted to test the waters with a guy... I bailed the hell out of that one.
-girl who seemed interested in me (short, chubby Jewish girl with big boobs) but then she complained about her ex using her for booty calls, and showed me some txts he said. Not very good on a first date.
Oh well... got out of a relationship with a girl who failed to live up to my expectation for her, but in the year and a half I was with her, learned how to be much more self-confident... so I'm not giving up any time soon or even gonna waste time feeling sorry for myself.
Combine - nice to see you back, and hope everything is going well.
The Elite
BOSS
Lol. Maybe I'll "get it" once I actually see them.
Omegasquash
Member
Been there, done that, and it only took winter break between semesters at college to cement it as this exact situation. GTFO as fast as possible, sever your ties. Listen to her if she comes back...she may have some attachment issue, but as you listen do so from the mindset that you're gauging how this is going to impact your life. That way, you have an understanding of what's going on and can make an informed decision.
Put. Yourself. First.
Frustrated_me
Member
1st guy is trying way too hard.
Dabookerman
Member
Pretty much
RelentlessRolento
Member
lol the second pic only works on most of what's on OKCupid... you want the ones who take panel 1 guy.
Hypereides
Member
All you gotta do is be a crossing between the two. Simple.
Things can't be that bad
Sanky Panky
Banned
Good news guys, from mini-surveys I've done, the second guy is in the majority of idiots that get ignored by girls on dating sites. If a dumb bimbo responds to that shit, she's not a girl you'd want in the first place.
The problem with the first guy is he seems like a loser. Favourite band/movie/book is a really lame way to make yourself stand out.
Second dude isn't necessarily a loser, he's just boring.
ShockingAlberto
Member
Every e-mail women get on dating sites is "Hey, that thing in your profile? I like it, too!"
Make your e-mail stand out. If she still isn't interested, then move on and don't dwell on it.
Make your e-mail stand out. If she still isn't interested, then move on and don't dwell on it.
Exactly. Tell a bad joke, do something aside from, "I see you love The Smiths. I also love The Smiths." It's so fucking bland.
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