No, I'm assuming that people are sentient beings who can transcend instincts, genetics, gut responses, emotional baggage, and cultural preconceptions in order to make decisions, as hard as all that might be.
I can't blame people for having an unconscious visceral negative reaction to the idea of dating a trans person -- the idea of transgender itself is pretty complex and requires a significant mental shift to really wrap your mind around on a conceptual level, and that's before the emotional level (which is illogical and unpredictable) gets involved. What I do think is that it's very much worth pushing past that discomfort and visceral reaction to look at the question in different ways and consider whether there's anything underneath, and whether one's position about being forthcoming on
this topic in a sexual relationship line up with one's positions on other issues of importance.
I honestly wonder how much of an unspoken issue in these discussions is people thinking about situations where they want to have sex with other people right away after meeting them.
In a somewhat... protracted dating/courtship process, there's time for this kind of stuff to come out at a relaxed pace and for potential dealbreakers (including major life history elements like being trans) to be revealed after there's already some rapport and mutual interest, without having to be some checklist-style warning blurted out upfront. But I could imagine people creating this imaginary scenario about meeting someone, sleeping with them right away, and only later finding out that this whole weird "deception" idea is spun out? I dunno, I'm not really current on how people understand the modern dating scene to work.
