I gotta say.....your words are making me think about drag a little differently. I know the weird story about RuPaul being anti-Trans (something that blew my mind), but as a black man, I'd hate it if a white guy told me "blackface" isn't harmful. So it's not right for me to do the same to you. PLUS, you make some great points. Hmmm......it is true that drag is "ALWAYS" shown to be overly sexualized and exaggerated.
I'm still not sure if it's Transphobic, but at the minimum, it does seem toxic since there's no balance.
I think the counterpoint is
Rajack
actual life. I mean Jesus christ man! You can't tell a person that's living it and knows many friends that are Trans, what it's like. And children are LITERALLY "people" by law. And you calling it a "phase" is weird. If a person is Trans and recognizes it at 12, then why ignore it? Why act as if it "HAS TO BE" a phase? What if it isn't and your kid is actually Trans?
And think about it another way. If you're the parent and you were wrong, which side would you want to be wrong on?.......
A. Saying it's a phase and ignoring your actual kid and then the worse happens and they commit suicide at 19 years old?
B. Believing your kid is trans and treating them that way, only for your son to realize at 17 years old that he's not (in some weird way) and he just likes to dress up in women's clothes every so often?