this is where you really went wrongWhat followed was a ten message back and forth of me trying to apologize and her just not having it.
this is where you really went wrongWhat followed was a ten message back and forth of me trying to apologize and her just not having it.
this is where you really went wrong
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Never that! I'm not lying at all. I'm just not going to be swayed to go find other girls to talk to when I want to talk to the current one still.
@Ray Wonder - There aren't enough Michael Jordan gifs around to convey the variety of emotions I feel about your situation. How much longer are you planning on wasting your time for this girl? I don't see why, if you're friends with her dad, it would be such a travesty to go over there when she's not feeling well. Is it because you'd just be going over for sex? I mean, you can't even get her to meet with you - why would you expect that sex is gonna happen?
She honestly sounds like she's all talk at this point. One day you're going to realize that we were all right and that you should have moved on months/years before. This simping has got to stop! Writing songs for a girl that won't even meet you? C'mon bro!
Talking to/seeing other girls would probably improve your odds with the current one as well. Just sayin'
Why can't some people just admit that there jealous?
Instead I've got a angry voice reply saying, "You don't listen and why the fuck I be jealous of Lara?" She claimed that every-time someone came over I ignored her even though it is not really true. She ranted about my female bro friend staying over for seven days on whatsapp and proceeded to whatever-ing me and other things and shes not even my GF anymore technically.
I mean uhhh. Input guys and girls plz.
[Name of friend has been changed]
Holy shit @ potam 😂 that sucks dude.
Dude, writing the song isn't that bad. I was going to write a song anyways, and I needed something to write about. I shouldn't even have posted that because it's such a non factor in my eyes.
EDIT: I know her dad, I'm not friends with him. She also lives with her 2 girl friends which I don't really feel like dealing with.
Also, she's definitely taunting me to text her. She has never once sang on her snapchats until yesterday (except in fast forward chipmunk voice), and she knows that I wanted to hear her sing. Now she has 3 on there singing.
I'm not fucking texting her.
You're probably right.
It almost sounds like you're making every excuse possible to actually go over there.
Whatever man. Hope it works out, I guess. But when you're clinging onto every little sign that she may be interested, it's a bad omen.
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...Why'd your female friend stay over for seven days? Did she come in from out of town or something?
Is there a dating app/site for giant dorks such as myself? i think that's the only way this whole thing is gonna work out..
Also, I'd rather do something one on one than with a group of people that include her dad. Sorry if that's unreasonable.
Can you elaborate on her living situation again? She lives with her father and some girlfriends?
Why not go over there and then suggest that you go for a walk or play a board/card game? Or go to the local bakery and share a snack? Etc.
No, that's called clinging. You can cling to convoluted stuff like that but at the end of the day after you hanging out or is she constantly cancelling? That's your answer, they like the attention, not the person.We talked a shit load about her singing for me. Like a lot. Like a stupid amount that you all would probably hate me for.
Then the first day we don't text, the only thing she puts up are videos of her singing on the only social media she has. That's not clinging to small things lol. That's pretty damn clear. I'm fairly certain I'm being unbiased in that observation.
Also, I'd rather do something one on one than with a group of people that include her dad. Sorry if that's unreasonable.
No, that's called clinging. You can cling to convoluted stuff like that but at the end of the day after you hanging out or is she constantly cancelling? That's your answer, they like the attention, not the person.
Ok so I've been seeing this girl (I've posted about her a couple of times in this thread.) We've only been on two dates in two weeks, as we've been really busy due to the holidays/work schedules, so I'm really eager to see her again.
So I asked her if she is free tomorrow and she said she's going to a free concert which sounds great, but she is going with her mom + a few friends. I really don't want to hang out with her mom/friends on only the third date, but I don't want to seem like an asshole. How do I politely decline when I've already made it clear that I'm free tomorrow?
What's the etiquette for when you ask whether time x is good for someone (after she suggested a date) and they see the message but don't respond? What's a good time to wait for a gentle prod?
Normally 'd just leave it, but this lady seems really suited to me.
From out of town; shes kinda like my best male bro but female.
And the other is more or less the crazy ex girlfriend (who broke up with me for ridiculous reasons) but seems to want me back (never really admitting to anything cause she doesn't like being seen as vulnerable or admitting to mistakes). I do lover her but she has too much shit in her life and somehow everything was my fault. The more I pull away and the more she comes closer and the more she freaks out.
She may just want attention, but the videos were clearly to get me to text her which I'm not going to do.
She actually hasn't text me yet though so you guys are probably right. 😅
Also, I'd rather do something one on one than with a group of people that include her dad. Sorry if that's unreasonable.
She may just want attention, but the videos were clearly to get me to text her which I'm not going to do.
She actually hasn't text me yet though so you guys are probably right. 😅
I'll be blunt.
Look, we get it, you really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really really want this to work out with her. You don't need to explain every little scenario and be like "BUT BUT THIS". Okay, great. We've seen this same situation a billion times before, in our own lives and in this thread. And the result, the overwhelming majority of the time is the same.
Hell, there's even something in the damn OP about it.
If you don't like our advice, or do not wish to follow it, that is fine, you are not hurting anyone's feelings. But you do not need to try and convince us that your situation is different somehow. Everyone thinks their situation is unique. Thing is, it isn't.
You do you, okay? You don't need to justify yourself here. We've given you advice, we all think this situation is a waste of time for you. You don't. Okay, fine, keep doing that. Maybe it will work out after a while, maybe it won't. But shit, unless it actually works out, you're not going to convince anyone here that you're not wasting your time.
Perhaps I'm other thinking it (I typically do with things), but the girl I went out with the other day seems to be talking with a lot less enthusiasm via text.
She said at the end of the date that she'd let me know when she's free (I didn't prompt her on this), but I'm having doubts about that now. That said I thought the date went decently and there were never any dull moments in my opinion (despite it lasting a few hours).
She sent me a text late last night but I've not responded to it yet. It's a one liner response to something I said, so perhaps I'm wasting my time?
Perhaps I'm other thinking it (I typically do with things), but the girl I went out with the other day seems to be talking with a lot less enthusiasm via text.
She said at the end of the date that she'd let me know when she's free (I didn't prompt her on this), but I'm having doubts about that now. That said I thought the date went decently and there were never any dull moments in my opinion (despite it lasting a few hours).
She sent me a text late last night but I've not responded to it yet. It's a one liner response to something I said, so perhaps I'm wasting my time?
I dunno, something about this feels... off. I can't explain it, maybe it's the tone of your posts that's throwing me off or something.
But, um, I don't really have much advice to give you. If what you're saying is the whole truth, and you really don't just ignore your ex-GF when others are around, sounds like she's a bit crazy and you should drop it like it's hot.
@Xun
Ask her out. You will get your answer there.
sounds like you're wasting your time worrying about it.
If she really did say, and mean, that she would let you know when she was free for a second date, then wait for her to make the next move. Anything more than that you'd be wasting your time.
I was thinking of texting her a little bit responding to what she previously said and then following that up with "Let me know if you fancied grabbing a drink sometime " at the end. I would be more specific on a day, but she did previously say she'd let me know when she's free.Just tell her you had a nice time and ask her if she'd like to go out again.
See what happens, move on.
When I went to university I had never played this game before. I was.. 20 probably. I was the only person in the room who hadn't had sex. And the atmosphere really changed after that came out. I think I was getting pity drinks. Weird experience but kinda put a lot into perspective. I was bad at all the drinking games and ended up drunk fairly quickly and it wasn't so bad after that.TFW you get drunk with a bunch of people and play Never Have I Ever. They proceed to mention stuff like fucking a girl in the same room as their friend, who's fucking his GF at the same time, and other hilarious sex stories. I'm sitting there not drinking like ;_;
TFW you get drunk with a bunch of people and play Never Have I Ever. They proceed to mention stuff like fucking a girl in the same room as their friend, who's fucking his GF at the same time...
Ok I text her.
I just wanted to get it over with.
Me:
"lll just make it super simple for you
Are you still interested in me?
Like it's been two months and I've seen you twice. I kinda just want to know"
Her:
"You're overthinking it
If I didn't want to talk to you, I just wouldn't."
Actually how I lost my V-card lol.
Who in the world told you to do that?
Ok I text her.
I just wanted to get it over with.
Me:
"lll just make it super simple for you
Are you still interested in me?
Like it's been two months and I've seen you twice. I kinda just want to know"
Her:
"You're overthinking it
If I didn't want to talk to you, I just wouldn't."
Her saying she still wants to talk to you is completely side stepping your question. If a girl likes you she will make time for you, simple as that. You can keep dancing around the bush with weak wording like "I kinda just want to know" but its making you look foolish. Sorry if this comes off as harsh but its the truth. I know youll read this and totally ignore anyways but we are all rooting for you Ray. Pick another battle.
You're right I'm ignoring you slightly. 😅
I'm an idiot, and I know it. ☺️
I think it's time we just stop responding. Here's clearly just doing it for attention at this point. He's purposefully doing the opposite of what we've been saying like previous posters.Come on, man. You must see the truth now, right?
I think it's time we just stop responding. Here's clearly just doing it for attention at this point. He's purposefully doing the opposite of what we've been saying like previous posters.
Come on, man. You must see the truth now, right?
I'll show you all!
I'll be the one to beat the odds!
😂😂😂
This is kinda fun now though for real
I don't post all that often but I'm going to tell you a couple things nobody told me when I had my head up my ass.
You won't show anyone.
You won't beat the odds.
It's not fun-- it's mental gymnastics.
And you know what? It's ok. It's a learning experience.
We've all made poor decisions before. It happens. I married (and later divorced) mine and I can say without question I'm happier now than I have ever been. But at the time? To hell with you if you told me anything other than I wanted to hear. I was going to show then. I was going to beat the odds. I was going to savor making them eat their words.
Sound familiar? And that was marriage. That was after dating for 5 years prior.
This is after "seeing" her twice and an intentionally ambiguous text message.
I've never been happier in the 2 1/2 years I've been divorced. Met a great girl, learned a ton, gained a ton of perspective.
I promise you, the future is better and you'll sheepishly look at this moment wondering "What the hell was I thinking?"
Ray is treating us like the girl treats him. It's kind of meta.